WWS12D?

willy_gert · October 2013

Okay, so this is going to be a little bit long, but I want to know if DH and I are crazy!

We currently live in small town USA where we own a house and DH and I have jobs. We make decent money between the two of us, but there is definitely room for growth. DH has to have his transplant and the best transplant hospital in the Midwest, possibly the US is within 3 hours of where we live now. As a result of his transplant need, we will have to be in the transplant town multiple times once he is eligible to be put on the list for testing and then for at least two weeks when he has the transplant. Then we will also need to be there for bi weekly checks for the first few months, then monthly check until 6 to 8 months dependent on how he is doing. So, a LOT of time in the transplant town and a LOT of time away from home.

In addition to the time away from home and the financial and job stress that will cause us, I grew up in the transplant city and therefore have a HUGE support system there. While DH grew up near where we currently live, and we have a support system, it isn't very big and we constantly feel bad about asking for any kind of help from our friends and family around here.

Another factor, in our minds is that the COL in both towns is almost identical, but transplant town has much higher average salaries. I applied for a job where I would do almost exactly what I do now but for a significantly higher salary, like almost 30% higher. We also found a job that DH can apply for that would allow him to not miss any work to do dialysis. If we stay where we are at, he will have to take time off work, change shifts, and end up losing 24+ hours of overtime per paycheck to do dialysis. This job also has a higher salary for him than his currently.

We are considering moving to the transplant city, basically ASAP so that we can get time at new jobs to earn time off before he has his transplant. It this crazy? When I see it all laid out it seems like a no brainer, but is it crazy to move just because of the transplant? We are really struggling with this, but I feel like if we both got job offers then we should go ASAP and make the best of the situation. So, help me out, WWS12D? Is there anything else we should consider?

MeatballEsq · October 2013

Seems like a no-brainer to me. You're not moving JUST for the transplant, but for the other reasons too (higher salary, support, etc).

The only concern would be selling your house, right? Would you move in with family in the meantime?

MRoxy0628 · October 2013

I don't think it's crazy. It doesn't sound like the only reason you're moving is because of the transplant, there seem to be a lot of other things you like about the location. My only concern would be the added stress. Would you try to sell your home or rent it out?

Hyaline · October 2013

Honestly...hi, I'm Debbie Downer...but slow down a little. You applied for a job. You haven't gotten an offer, and neither has he. Yes, keep applying and looking and branching out, but I wouldn't start making solid plans yet.

I would also poke around the real estate market and see what the likelihood is of selling your house fairly quickly, so you know if you're going to take a major hit or not to get out ASAP or get stuck with a mortgage payment for a house you aren't living in.

I'm not saying don't go for it--I'm just saying, finding a job to apply for is step one in the decision-making-process.

AKB090609 · October 2013

If you get the jobs I think moving would be a good plan, it doesn't need to be forever. The only other thing I think you need to look into is the cost of child care.

Good Luck with the jobs!

melody921 · October 2013

tonir319 said:

Seems like a no-brainer to me. You're not moving JUST for the transplant, but for the other reasons too (higher salary, support, etc).

The only concern would be selling your house, right? Would you move in with family in the meantime?

Do it! As Toni said, it's not just for the transplant if you can get jobs, support, etc. GL!

JulesDiane · October 2013

I would continue to apply for jobs in transplant city. I would get your house on the market ASAP. I think if you can sell your house, get a new job, then it would definitely be worth it. I'm not sure I would buy a house in transplant city right away because so much is up in the air. I would suggest just renting. I think if you can move to the transplant city, I think once you are there, it will really help out and lower the stress level overall. Although, probably getting to that point might be a bit stressful. Good luck to you!

MommaP12 · October 2013

Sounds like a go, but are you certain you'll get these jobs? You already have so much to worry about I'd hate for you to move and be jobless. Are you planning on waiting until you secure the new jobs there and then move? The timing of doing it all seems tricky but worth trying for.

willy_gert · October 2013

We would, more than likely need to sell our house. One of my friends is a realtor so I was going to ask her how the market in our town is doing.

The transplant city is Kansas City and KU Med. Their stats are at the top when it comes to transplants.

We absolutely would not move without having jobs, because that would put more stress on us financially than being where we are and traveling. When I say ASAP, I mean as soon as things fall into place in terms of job, housing etc. We have family and friends we could stay with short term, but we would likely rent until our home sold and we could purchase a home. If DH gets the job we are looking at for him, he would have to live within that town's city limits.

I just wanted to know that we weren't absolutely insane to be making a decision or even thinking about making a decision like this with everything else going on.... Does that make sense?

MarisaKathleen · October 2013

JUST DO IT! :-)

From the way it sounds it'll be a better thing for all of you.

jocymama · October 2013

I think if you get jobs that are the equivalent or better in the transplant city where there are all these other benefits, you should go. It is not crazy to be considering this right now, you need to start considering this stuff now so when the transplant happens you are not left suddenly scrambling. I also think having the support network there will be essential when the transplant happens. GL!

hmp1 · October 2013

I don't think it sounds crazy. Just know that selling a house and moving is expensive. The seller pays for a lot of the closing process (real estate fees being a big chunk). Get your payoff from your mortgage servicer and meet with the realtor to see if it is an option to sell. I would also get a quote for the move itself and include into your costs. Then think about the cost to buy a new house or rent (deposits required up front).

plus12012 · October 2013

I don't think that's crazy at all. It sounds like doing it sooner than later would be a good thing. It'll give you a chance to get settled before dealing with all the medical stuff. Go for it!

LuvSD · October 2013

I think if you both can secure jobs and make sure health insurance is in place, moving would be a smart move. Good luck!

Holly_1007 · October 2013

definitely explore every option. apply to jobs, look into selling your house, and look at the housing market there. would you be able to buy/ rent a similar size/ style house for the same money as your current home? It doesn't sound like you are moving JUST for the transplant, it seems like overall a better fit. Also look into daycare expenses and check out how good the schools are for LO. good luck

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