Confused/Embarressed

amyrose542 · September 2013

My own stupidity has shamed me so much that i cannot bear to leave this up any longer. Please accept my apologies for public stupidity and let me quietly become irrelevant.

hjweber · September 2013

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Mrbatesisinnocent · September 2013

Well, I come here for the gifs... and my BMB shares my crazy obsession for food. LOVE THEM!

Also, people are honest here and most people that get snarky answers are usually asking ridiculous things. Once they get honest feedback, they go BSC and tell us we're all big meany heads and "I thought this place was for support!" We aren't a tell you what you wanna hear group as a whole.

It's kinda like the judges on any of the "talent" shows out there. Everyone tries out thinking they are gonna win, the judges are honest, snarky, and straight to the point. "Sweetheart, you sing like a screeching cat! Please stop!"

Good advice =/= warm feelings every time.

alexisjo88 · September 2013

@amyrose542, I think you are seeing what you want to see, and completely ignoring the proof that what you just said is false. Here are just a few posts from the past few days from my BMB, please tell me how this is not support.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12101677/a-c-section-it-is#latest

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12101364/trying-not-to-freak-out#latest

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12100488/update-jinxed-myself#latest

Now, as PPs stated, sometimes people ask either stupid questions, or questions that have been beaten to the ground. Sometimes people have opinions that are way left field, or even worse, are completely illogical and scientifically proven to be false. Sometimes the board feels the need to express this to said people, and said people get in a huff because the board doesn't want to blow smoke up their asses. It happens, oh well.

fitmama418 · September 2013

Here's the thing, OP...this is not reality:

The ones who come on here whining and bitching that there is no support are asking dumb questions, seeking medical advice, brand new and seeking help/support before giving any out and getting a feel for the board OR trying to cause drama (or presenting MUD). People on TB don't just pick one person and lay into them; there are legit reasons why people get snark and sarcasm. 9 times out of 10 it is ALWAYS deserved.

And as much as I love love LOVE my N13 ladies...I know they aren't the only support system I have. If someone is visiting TB for their only means of support (we're all they have) that's a WHOLE other can of worms if you ask me.

alexisjo88 · September 2013

@amyrose542

I also looked at your post history, and everyone has been pretty much supportive to you AND you thanked them for the support. Are you having a case of amnesia, forgetting only the support the boards have given you?

fitmama418 · September 2013

dollphnfreek10 said:

OP - just out of curiosity...Why'd you post this?

Yes do tell...

*please don't be a White Knight please don't be a White Knight*

sleepy33 · September 2013

So what is your question?

fitmama418 · September 2013

CaitS07 · September 2013

I don't care if it says she's a member, if she has to ask that then she hasn't been around long.

Kfran84 · September 2013

There's plenty of support given and received around here. It's when people DEMAND support that things get weird.

Is there support here? Yes

Was this site established for the purpose of support? No, it was created to entice me to keep coming back so that I see this Zulily ad 16 times a day.

PrimRoseMama · September 2013

Oh...

So what exactly do you want? I got lost in all of your self-righteous, vomit-inducing whines.

I'm not snarky for no reason. I'm snarky because people post dumb, self-involved, bratty or lacking in common sense things.

Being pregnant (or having a newborn or TTC) does not mean you have to tolerate stupidity or asshattery.

It's actually really disappointing to me that so many mothers of my generation are so incredibly maladjusted that they require "everyone play nice" to function. People will disagree. People will be snarky, but it's usually for good reasons.

Snark just to be bitchy usually gets called out. Very few posters snark just for fun. Personally, I snark if some little bratty poster decides to get attitude w/me.

Lol @not wanting to start drama. You must be extraordinarily naive or a pot-stirrer. You know exactly that there will be drama. It's part of the culture of the boards.

PrimRoseMama · September 2013

alexisjo88 · September 2013

Natalie2290 said:

I thought the same thing. I didn't get why people were being so bitchy. But after a night of me newbing it up with someone who was call long time posters and cunt. A few women actually explained to me that most of them have been together for the whole if not most of the pregnancy. They stick together and will call out the people who are asking questions that could easily be searched and answered. Or you get the trolls who just want to start shit (kinda like your post). I also learned that it is rude to be all high and mighty to everyone without even introducing yourself and telling them a bit about you. So if you go about the page with the right etiquette and manners to the long timers, you should be fine. You will of course get picked on here and there, this is the internet and a free open forum after all. But as long as you can handle a bit of flamage and can stick though without being a baby, you will do fine. Hell like I said I mewbed and was a bitch, but I stuck around because it was my fuck up. I said my peace and am now trying to put my support in and some good pictures or gifs to help. Not to just take constant support without giving any back.
I know this all sounds jumbled, but I hope it helps with your question.

The sad part is that she isn't just a newb, she's been around the block a time or two, and has never been the blunt of any flaming. We don't understand WHY she is stirring the pot!

PrimRoseMama · September 2013

Thought this would be funny...

3Dewdrops · September 2013

Just because...

amyrose542 · September 2013

Yah know I guess your all right. I didnt have a good reason for posting this. I was looking at a post saw alot of one person being give bitchy (but fair) replies and got all bent outta shape. I suppose I had a white knight moment and after reading all the posts I realized I was being Naive. Happens I suppose. And I was genuinely curious as to why people seemed to be so ready to tell someone something in a snarky/bitchy tone, I personally cant do it (i'm a softy and I guess the internet has not toughened that up).
So as I said i was genuinely curious as to why people were able to do so and again wasnt trying to stir the pot.

hlb622 · September 2013

amyrose542 said:

Yah know I guess your all right. I didnt have a good reason for posting this. I was looking at a post saw alot of one person being give bitchy (but fair) replies and got all bent outta shape. I suppose I had a white knight moment and after reading all the posts I realized I was being Naive. Happens I suppose. And I was genuinely curious as to why people seemed to be so ready to tell someone something in a snarky/bitchy tone, I personally cant do it (i'm a softy and I guess the internet has not toughened that up).
So as I said i was genuinely curious as to why people were able to do so and again wasnt trying to stir the pot.

So you're asking how we're able to respond without sugar coating it? It's just honesty, IMO. I don't consider that snark or being bitchy.

orijinale · October 2013

She said 9 out 10 are supportive but some people are just rude which could be the case. I just wish... NM!!!

orijinale · October 2013

This post...

KariAnne1985 · October 2013

I'm not on here, well, ever, so my opinion clearly does not matter (seriously, we need a sarcasm font!!) but I agree about the "not sugar coating" everything...I don't know about you all, but I grew up where there was right and wrong, a winner and a loser, not everyone got a trophy. IMO, that's what this board is about. Questions being answered, honestly. Sometimes it's not what you want to hear, but what you NEED to hear! I'd much rather have someone call me out for being dumb/whiny/annoying when need be!

That being said, I've realized I haven't properly introduced myself, my apologies! I'm a 28 year old mother of a 3 year old sweet, naughty, super smart boy, the girlfriend of a 40 year old man-child, and due with my second sweet baby boy in 8 weeks. I work with kids, love my job (but seriously want to slap the crap out of some parents for how they've been raising their children!!) and am very happy to be a part of a community where I can ask a question, be it dumb or beaten to the ground, and receive honest feedback. Thank you ladies for being the ones who aren't afraid of being honest and blowing rainbows up our butts!