Your kid/s Aunts and Uncles

missmodeste · October 2013

How is the relationship between your siblings and siblings in law with your kids?

My kids basically don't have Aunts and Uncles because my brother is estranged from the family and my husband's brother and wife don't like kids, live on the other side of the country and don't make an effort on their part at all.

We live in a different state than my nephew (who isn't being raised by my brother) and we Skype weekly, send funny mail and just generally take interest in his life. He's 7. My DS just turned 3 and BIL and SIL didn't even acknowledge him - not that they do anyway but not on his birthday either. They didn't acknowledge my DD first birthday either but she isn't old enough to know what's going on.

I also grew up with not close at all aunts and uncle which was different than my peers because they were all much closer.

JAck5209 · October 2013

All of our siblings are in love with Olivia. She's the first child on both sides. We rely a lot on Facebook, email, and texts because we all live far apart but there's no lack of love. OP, I'm sorry that you don't feel that for your LO.

missmodeste · October 2013

Well I was hoping it was because they don't have kids of their own yet. But I call bluff on that one because we were always a part of my nephew's life pre-kids.

You are right, family is what you make of it and my kids will have "aunts and uncles" through our friends.

nesenotes · October 2013

My sister and emery are very close. My H's siblings could care less. And they are the ones with kids!! Its so sad to me. I grew up doing everything with my cousins. I'm sad she won't have that. They suck.

SallySunrise · October 2013

My brother is my bestie. He and his wife (who I love) live less than a mile away. We see them once a week usually, sometimes twice, sometimes five times. Just depends on what's going on. They adore our kids and our kids adore them! It's going to be so hard to move away from them! My brother is actually looking for jobs in MN now that we are moving up there. He is a forester, so there is actually a lot more up there for him anyway! Hopefully something awesome works out for him and we can be close to each other again very soon. They are TTC their first, so they MUST move with us so I can be my SIL's doula! :P

MH has a brother also, who is single and still in college (on the 6-7 year plan, LOL). He loves our kids, but they don't get to see him much. Only a couple times a year for holidays. I doubt Emily remembers him at all yet, but Ben does. He knows that he plays the trombone, and he's pretty impressed by that.

pinkangelmoon · October 2013

I only have one (younger) sister and she is very involved in the twins lives. She tries to see them every week and sometimes skypes in between. DH has two older brothers and a younger sister, but we don't see them as often. We only see one of his brothers and SIL like once every few months or so, they have a 2yr old daughter. His younger sister is off to college so we don't see her much except when she comes home. DH's brother and his family don't celebrate holidays or birthdays so that makes me sad for my kids that their one cousin close in age won't be there for those occasions. SIL actually works with me but sadly we barely get together with the kids on the weekends due to other commitments (they spend most of time at church it seems).

I don't have any aunts or uncles I'm close with (and I seriously have more than 20 - not counting spouses). The one uncle I was super close with passed away 11 years ago.

aylafsu88 · October 2013

I am not close with my brother. We have very different personalities and he has been a screw up in life. He has a daughter which my mom takes care of pretty much full time. I am very close with my niece and the three of us (my mom, niece and LO) do a lot together. My H has a sister with 2 kids. They live in the same town as us along with my H's parents. We see his parents every weekend and do stuff with SIL/BIL every couple of weeks. Their kids are older so they have a lot of soccer games and birthday parties which makes coordinating schedule kind of crazy.

lh80 · October 2013

I have a sister but she lives in New Zealand. She came over to visit in march this year and loved spending time with Hayden. I thinks she's pretty sad that she's missing out on her growing up. We do try to Skype most weekends though, Hayden gives auntie Claire kisses on the ipad. DH has 3 sisters, one I have only met twice, she has never seen Hayden and doesn't seem interested at all, not even a card when she was born. His 2nd sister we see at Christmas, and maybe one other time during the year. His next sister is single and not going to have kids. She is the one who is most interested in Hayden! I'm sad she won't have cousins to grow up around, but I have a lot of close friends with kids, so they will be her cousins!

britbratjf · October 2013

My BIL and his wife are going through a divorce right now and he is actually living with us (the kids are still at their house & they just switch weekends there). He has 2 kids who are 2 & 3 so he is great with Dagny and she is always excited when she sees him after work.

My brother and sister are younger and single so they don't have as much of a relationship with Dagny. My sister is in college and always has fun with Dagny when she sees her (galloping her around and showing her clips of the Minions from Dispicable Me), my brother pretty much smiles at her and pats her on the head like a dog haha.

I also have 3 stepsisters and a stepbrother. They all love Dagny and the 2 of my stepsisters who live near us actually babysit her pretty often. And we are considering making one of them & her husband Dagnys guardian in our will.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · October 2013

My sister is very close with my girls and I am very close with her boys. We lived an hour apart until just recently, but now we are only 4 blocks apart. It's great! We see each other at least every other day.

My ILS are the complete opposite. They see the girls maybe 6 times a year. One SIL complains she never sees them, but is always too busy. When we moved we moved away from the ILs and I am fine with never seeing them (and so is DH).

KarmB · October 2013

Ive never met my sibling in laws sooooo theres that.

My brothers dont go out of their way to talk to her or see her, but when shes at my mothers theyll say hi.....I wish they were closer. One came to her birthday for like an hour. One no showed, no gift, no card.

tiredmomsclub · October 2013

My H has 6 siblings (Full,half, step) he considers them all siblings. I have an older brother who is married and a younger sister.

My sister probably sees Zayne the most and is very into being an auntie.

My brother lives out of state so we only see them a couple times a year. He is awkward with babies and mildly interested. His wife however is the BEST aunt. She plays with Zayne every chance she gets and gives him so much individualized attention.

H siblings are hit and miss. We see them at family functions they will say hi to Zayne and maybe play with him for a couple of minutes. To be honest everyone is more interested in H sisters two girls.

apollonia10 · October 2013

DS has one uncle (DH's brother) and two aunts (my sisters). DH's brother doesn't know what do with him, so he treats him like an infant, which 15 month old DS hates, lol. My middle sister has never really liked kids and tries to play with DS, but she just doesn't "get" him. My youngest sister is in love with DS and DS loves her right back. She is the only person who he reaches for when I'm holding him.

zyas · October 2013

I have one older sister who has 2 girls (10 and 8) and she and her husband are Ava's godparents. I am also the godmother to both my nieces. They live in Indiana so about 4.5 hours by car and we see them maybe 2 or 3 times a year. They all ADORE Ava and they totally spoil her. I'm so happy she has cousins as my sister and I didn't have any cousins, nor were we close with our aunts and uncles, even though we desperately wanted to be. None of them wanted to be close with us apparently

We have better relationships with our Aunts and Uncles now that we're older (and now that they are probably feeling lonely due to not ever wanting to have kids of their own. That's a whole other story though.)

My H has 2 older brothers who are both single and don't have kids. My inlaws don't think either of them ever will either so we'll see. They also adore Ava. One of them lives with my inlaws still so about 30 minutes from us, and the other lives in California. They are both Ava's godfathers as well.

zyas · October 2013

KarmB said:

Ive never met my sibling in laws sooooo theres that.

My brothers dont go out of their way to talk to her or see her, but when shes at my mothers theyll say hi.....I wish they were closer. One came to her birthday for like an hour. One no showed, no gift, no card.

I was a little peeved at both my BIL's at Ava's first birthday. The one who lives here didn't show up which was weird cause whoever lives in town ALWAYS goes to family birthdays, meaning we all show up for all family birthdays. He never did for hers and he left a card but I knew my inlaws actually purchased it and put money in it. It was my father in laws handwriting and he accidentally wrote from Uncle Steve (which is my H's name) instead of Sean, then crossed it out and wrote Sean. LOL

The other BIL never even sent anything, nor a phone call, email, facebook message, nada. I was really pissed with him cause I always go out of my way to make sure we send him something for his bday, plus call, text, all that. Not anymore.

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