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MIL stressing me out!

MrsArrowMrsArrow member
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So, unfortunately I have a MIL who drives us crazy. So crazy that my DH make MIL jokes about HIS mother! She is already pushing us to give him cereal (he turns 4 months on Oct. 6). We have told her very nicely, multiple times,  that we have decided to wait until he is 7 months to start giving him other foods. He is EBF right now. We will be traveling from Nov. 27-Dec 30 visiting his parents and mine. So we don't want to start food until we are at home. Not sure how else to tell her and to ask her to stop bringing it up. I Know she is going to have cereal for him when we get up there at Thanksgiving! Manly just venting, but anyone have the same issues? Any advice to tell her to "back off" nicely? Not really sure how else we can tell her its our decision without hurting her feelings. Thanks in advance ladies!!
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Re: MIL stressing me out!

  • Naomirod13Naomirod13 member
    edited October 2013
    I have it worse and my baby isn't even born yet!!!! I say you should tell her straight up it's your baby not hers that she should let you make those decisions to please respect that and to please stay out of it. I told my mil rudely I tried the nice way and she thought I was joking she. Had it coming she's trying to own my baby she wanted to set up a nursery buy her formula diapers etc. not for me to use but for her to keep for whenever baby was at "HER" house. I bought zipper onesies and she flipped she thinks baby's skin is going to get stuck on the zipper and I bought a nursing cover she flipped again that baby is going to suffocate. That's when I had enough I told her you had your kids you raised them you way now this is my baby not yours back off! Ever since then she doesn't mention Anyang anymore it's awkward I feel bad but this women was huffing and puffing all over me and she wants to be in the delivery room with fil sorry but I'm just not telling them what hospital I'm delivering too she stresses me out I feel like this baby isn't even going to be my own but hers!! Sad part she lives next street over!!! Sometimes you just have to be rude if being nice doesn't work.
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  • LisaLisa1980LisaLisa1980 member
    Ignore her, change the subject
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  • pantsarellapantsarella member
    I would just politely say that you've discussed solids with your pediatrician and that you'll be following his/her recommendation. My MIL will argue with my decisions just on principle, but when I tell her it's what the doctor said, she just goes on a rant about how doctors are always changing their minds. She will also spend 15 minutes telling me what she did for her kids, what my SIL does for her kids, what this family friend does and what that family friend does. I just smile and nod politely. Only DH and I are the parents to our DD, so we get to make our own choices. 
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  • sgerrity23sgerrity23 member
    My parents and in laws are very respectful of our wishes but my grandmother is not. We went to a wedding.g party a few weeks ago and my lo is 5 months. While I wasn't looking my grandmother gave her some icing from the cake on her finger and a taste of a salty chip! I nearly flipped out but she's my grandmother so there wasn't much I could say. With everything I told her she would tell me that it won't hurt her and that she did that with her kids. I was very upset and will now watch her more closely when I am with my grandma!

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  • MrsArrowMrsArrow member

    sgerrity23 said:
    My parents and in laws are very respectful of our wishes but my grandmother is not. We went to a wedding.g party a few weeks ago and my lo is 5 months. While I wasn't looking my grandmother gave her some icing from the cake on her finger and a taste of a salty chip! I nearly flipped out but she's my grandmother so there wasn't much I could say. With everything I told her she would tell me that it won't hurt her and that she did that with her kids. I was very upset and will now watch her more closely when I am with my grandma!
    Never thought of the pedi angle! My Pedi is pretty conservative like us, which is why we go to her :), so I know she will most likely agree with us. Oh my goodness  the icing! I would have freaked out too! At least my parents are supportive of what we do. I know she just wants to feed him and be part of it. We live in Texas and they live in PA. So, I know its hard for her. We were having trouble with his weight gain when he was first born until about 6 weeks. I mean we were doing weight checks once a week. So I was very sensitive about feeding him and we had to give him formula to help jump start his weight gain. They were visiting us and at one point I had just finished feeding him and was resting for a bit while she held him and then I heard her get a bottle out of the fridge and start to heat it up. I asked what she was doing and she said I didn't feed him enough and he was fussy (he was dead asleep in his swing). So I suppose I am a little sensitive about the whole feeding him situation....
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  • AlexisLAAlexisLA member
    LisaLisa1980 said:

    Ignore her, change the subject

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