Calling all STM of boys. Need you!

Nikkijo1022 · October 2013

Hello

I had a great altrasound yesterday. In my mind for the last 20 weeks this baby has been a girl. It's not haha. While I'm happy it's healthy- I'm still in genuine shock! Most of the babies I've been around/ watched grow up are girls. I'm clueless as how to be a mom to a boy. I think that's making me more in shock!!! What can you share with me about the joys of raising a baby boy?! What do you love about its what's easy etc?!

ramfan05 · October 2013

Having a little boy is awesome! I'm a bit girly and was never really that into typical "boy" things, but I never thought it was any reason to be worried or feel like I wouldn't know what to do with a boy. As he grows up and develops interests of his own, they will become your interests, too. Guess what? I love trains! Because my 3 year old loves trains! And cars, and planes. I sit and play with him with his toys the same way I'd sit and play with a little girl and whatever she was playing with. I don't have a girl, but I really don't think that whether or not a child has a penis really changes all that much. You will love your baby and do anything you can to make him happy and to see a smile on his face!

Mazingmommyof6 · October 2013

My son is the love of my life. He's so sweet and so kind and so living with bursts of physical craziness. It really helps you understand men more!

notreal2 · October 2013

When you change his diapers, learn to duck and cover. I believe boys can get more arc than girls.

HLB7 · October 2013

I have a older boy and a younger girl already. One great thing about boys is dressing them. SO EASY. Once you get past the "everything is covered in sports symbols" stage (which is not my thing), then it's easy, easy, easy. Buy the kids a few pairs of shorts in navy, khaki, grey, olive green, and a bunch of t-shirts, and everything goes with everything. Easy easy easy. My 7-year old has been wearing this basic style since he was like 18 months old.

With my daughter, IIIIIII don't care so much about dressing her up like she's a doll, but honestly, there are so many options for girl clothes that you can end up with a thousand pieces that don't go with each other. Girl clothes are all so embellished. It's a pain in the butt, in my opinion.

Boys are easier to dress!

Mazingmommyof6 · October 2013

notreal2 said:
When you change his diapers, learn to duck and cover. I believe boys can get more arc than girls.

Lol.... One of my first diaper changes with my son, he peed... And it went back up all over his face! I felt awful!!!! Defiantly hold it down when changing at first.

HLB7 · October 2013

Another thing...I have a beef against the whole "The most important thing about me is that I'm cute" message that you get with so many girls' items. Clothes, room decor, all sorts of stuff. You just don't even have to fight that screwed-up message with boys.

ramfan05 · October 2013

I learned quickly that when changing my boy, I slid the clean diaper under his bottom first, then opened the old diaper, cleaned him up and took the old diaper away, then would quickly cover him up with the clean diaper. That way he wasn't exposed to the air for long. I have actually only been peed on one time, and it was after I undressed him in his room and was carrying him to the bathroom for his bath when he was about 1!

Meghan14 · October 2013

FTM here, but we were also sure we'd be having a girl. Don't really know why, we didn't have a preference just that's how we had begun to picture it. Anyway, we were also a bit surprised to hear boy. After having nieces and nephews I'll tell you what I am most excited about for a boy: Not having to braid/pgtail/ whatever his hair every morning.

VeronicaAnn143 · October 2013

So question STM, if you do the quick coverup with the new diaper and he pees...do you then toss that diaper? Or is it usually just a few drips and not worth wasting it? Thanks!

boogerbearoriginal · October 2013

My son is only 2, so he's just starting to get into stuff that's not just generic baby toys. Because up until recently, everything was really just rattles/blocks/etc stuff that goes for all babies.

Infants are all the same: wipe butt, feed, cuddle. And the beauty of children, is you grow as a parent with them. It's not like you'll be delivering a 5yr old. You'll see his interests develop and change as he grows. It's really quite wonderful to watch them go from these little blobs to people with personalities all of their own.

FWIW, my son is "boyish" in that he likes trucks/trains and digging in the dirt, although I love playing trains with him too. But his favorite color right now, pink. He loves arts/crafts, his DC teachers tell me he will sit longer than any of the toddlers, boy or girl, and do drawing/painting/etc. And he has strong preferences about his outfits as well, although that may partially be due to toddler independence as much as him actually caring what he wears. So I don't think boy vs. girl matters as much as we think it does, especially early on. As they get older, and get peer pressure to like certain things, I think it changes more then. AW time - my son is the sweetest, kindest little boy. He has a smile for everyone, loves to give hugs and cuddles with me constantly and is so gentle with animals/little babies. Boys are pretty awesome in my experience.

thusain7712 · October 2013

im having my third boy...i was in shock too when i found out this was a boy...i just knew it was a girl LOL

boys are mama's boys. they love you. i mean really love you. my oldest is nine and will still want cuddles from me. (of course at that age he has no clue who i am in public, lol) they make a mess with potty training, but are so much fun with everything else. its great to run around and build legos all days and over all enjoy their goofyness! not that girls cant be goofy, but i havent raised one so im limited to teaching and nieces for experience with that which is no where near the same.

christen_z1 · October 2013

Boys are awesome! My son is almost 10 and he has always been my little buddy. When he was a baby, I would open up his diaper for a couple seconds and then close it. This would usually cause him to pee in the diaper instead of on me (or himself!) if he was going to. Something about that cold air... Other than that, I second Carseat's post. Let him try out new things and just be himself. Just like any other child. Congratulations!

rebecca4980 · October 2013

VeronicaAnn143 said:

So question STM, if you do the quick coverup with the new diaper and he pees...do you then toss that diaper? Or is it usually just a few drips and not worth wasting it? Thanks!

I don't use another diaper-I just tossed a wipe or tissue on top of his wee wee when I changed him-that way, if he pees again its not a big deal. If you are crafty, you can make these teepee type tents that you can put over him (like this-https://www.naptimecrafters.com/2012/06/pee-pee-tee-pee-with-free-pattern.html). Oh, and make sure you point his wee wee down before diapering up again-less leakage.
I love having a boy. I have a bit of a momma's boy, and love snuggling with him before bedtime. We're having another boy, so I'll miss out on "comparing" a boy to a girl, but I love this energetic, playful, screechy-loud-noises-and-bangs dirt magnet.

1ofme4ofthem · October 2013

I have three boys and they are awesome! We are expecting our first girl and I am so nervous. The boys are easy to dress, ther hair is easy to comb, they love me the most

. Boys will protect their mama and love you like no other! I'm sure our little girl will love me too but I'm pretty sure she will be a daddies girl and I am terrified for teenage years!! Agh!

OutOfStep81 · October 2013

I absolutely adore being a mom to a boy. He's all about trucks, cars, bulldozers and fixing things. My favorite is watching him help my SO fix anything. Yesterday it was holding the motorcycle "still" so "his Jacob" could fix it. Trust me, boys are sweet and you'll fall into it naturally.

Megs1HOTRED · October 2013

Having a boy is so much fun! Our little guy is 3 and so funny and smart. I'm learning all the varieties of contruction vehicles and purposes of various power tools, lol. And he is obsessed with sports and any kind of ball. He is a bundle of energy and sweetness

I definitely did get peed on a lot in the beginning though! lol

cjmFeb2014 · October 2013

Same story here - I've always had this image of a little redhead daughter. I have two step-sons, and we found out Monday that baby's a boy, even though I had thought the whole time it was a girl. I have some of the same thoughts - was actually looking forward to braiding hair and dressing up and such - but what I think I'm most scared of is the potential for the older boys to think that I (or their dad) will love this one more than them since this one will be my bio-baby/our first baby together. I think they're old enough that that won't occur to them, or if it does, that it'll just occur in passing and not stick. I'm not at all into sports or dirt or blah de blah.. But neither is my husband, heh. So, I know that not all boys will have definite "boy" interests, and I know that whatever he shows interest in, I'll be interested in, because that's the little one I grew inside of me and birthed and that I love love love.

I'm so excited.

iwubrory · October 2013

I absolutely love having a little boy. I'm more worried about all of the things having a girl entails. There has been lots of talk about how to prevent a boy from peeing all over, there was no stopping my son. He had impeccable timing but that phase didn't last too long. On a bright note, as far as diaper changes go, boy poopy diapers are much easier to clean. Everything is closed up nicely, not much worrying about if anything was missed in some nook or cranny.

Also, my boy just loves me soo much and that is awesome.

mdr619 · October 2013

I'm a FTM, but just wanted to let you know I went through the same thing. I was absolutely convinced I was having a girl. I mean I'm a nanny to three girls. I'm always around girls. I can't even remember the last time I changed a boy's diaper. Of course I'm having a girl. Got an elective ultrasound just to prove to DH I was right. I was wrong. I was shocked and dumbfounded. But I've had some time to get used to the idea and I'm so excited for our son! Now my biggest concern is that DH will suck my precious baby boy into his video game obsession. I've already made him promise our LO won't be allowed to play Grand Theft Auto.

MoxyByProxy · October 2013

I have 2 older boys 15 and 12 and now this little wiggle worm. At first I was kinda bummed. I wanted a girl.. you know.. to be girly with. But now that a few weeks have passed since we learned we were having a boy..im excited. There is a specialness to having a mommas boy. As PP said..clothes are easier... there's less Drama (though dont mistake this to believe boys can be dramatic lol)

But im chipping in with info because I know what its like the "older" years

Boys are relatively easy to buy for until they hit about 14.. they get hairy and turn into little men.. which is beyond weird but amazingly cool too. I have someone who can carry heavy stuff when dh isnt around lol I will never have to buy them tampons (although they do get moody and even emotional) - and to that point.. it absolutely breaks my heart to see one of them so upset they cry.

My sisters have girls.. and no offense to anyone who has them.. and maybe they arnt the norm.. but even her 7 year old.. still a cry baby.. throws full on temper tantrums and tends to be hateful at times. Boys can be this way too but they tend to fight it out with siblings which can be hard on your stuff but as men normally do a good wack and the fight is over and they move on lol

lovethembabies · October 2013

Boys are great! My son is sweet, polite, brilliant, full of energy and loves to cuddle his momma. Your little boy is going to completely steal your heart. :-)

MrsL32 · October 2013

Another mom of a little boy here to chime in about how AWESOME boys are! My little man is full of energy, has the BEST sense of humor, and, at only age 2 (almost), he is a Mommy's boy already. It is just such a special relationship. And like others have said, you'll learn to love what he does!! And you'll take an interest in it because it's what HE is passionate about, and you'll just love to watch that energy and excitement in his eyes.

MamaHollywood27 · October 2013

I have 3 boys then a girl and now another boy! Trust me the love a lol boy has for his mommy is indescribable... While I have a special bond with my daughter being my one and only girl the boys are so candid with me and not so much DH and it makes me feel important... Now with my oldest beig in 7th grade I can tell u they do get lippy and moody just like you hear about girls! I'm just hoping its a faster transition lol good luck and congrats!

keags5496 · October 2013

Being a boy mama is amazing! Mine is such a momma's boy and can go from running around being a superhero to being a snuggle bug in .2 seconds.

One tip: when diapering aim their penis down. It'll save you a million accidents!

orchid8301 · October 2013

I was nervous about having a little boy at first. I am very 'girly' with very 'girly' interests. Looking back that was so silly on my part. He is my son. Right now he loves playing with balls and dancing and I also love playing with balls and dancing. I seriously cannot put into words the joy he brings to my life. I will forever be his biggest cheerleader in any and everything he chooses do in life.

rkmmore · October 2013

I love having boys they are such fun, love playing in the mud and not worrying about ds picking out matching pretty outfits, I suck at tying up hair and makeup so that is another bonus, they love following dad around and going out with him to do man

Kedra231 · October 2013

For awhile, a baby is a baby is a baby. As long as you make sure the penis is pointed down during diapers, & covered during changes (those dinky, too thin to really use burp rags work well for this), you're good. As their personality develops, so will your skills.

They have their own individual little personalities, they have their own likes/dislikes, same as any other kid. And boy or not, (esp. with an older female sib), they may be a blend. DS is into balls, & kites, and motorcycles, volcanoes, etc., but he also likes his sister's sparkly shoes, the sparkly headband, etc. He'd like to have his toenails painted like sisters, only he wanted blue or green or black, & he's bummed that he can't have any wacky braids b/c his hair is too short. He is sleeping with a baby doll, a stuffed lizard, a He-man action figure, & his Winnie the Pooh blankie that has been his lovie since he was old enough to choose it. He insists on being Spider Man for Halloween, he LOVES Dinosaur shirts, & he's all about books & playing games online on SesameStreet.org. He's braver than his sister, but he's got a lot of empathy for others, too, so he's not a tiny jock-in-training. He's smart, but he's def. behind where his sister was, considering skill levels. He LOVES cooked broccoli sprinkled with shredded Parmesan cheese, whereas he won't touch a beet; his sister is vice-versa.

Just b/c you have a boy doesn't mean he's going to be "all boy, all the time," so just go with the flow. He'll show you what he needs, & as long as you keep an open mind, & focus more on what your kids need over what other people's opinions are, you won't go wrong. Congrats on the boy!

tenfour · October 2013

I want my boy to be here already!! These posts are great. It actually took me longer than I would have liked to get over the shock of my babe not being a girl (hg tricked me) so I love posts like this.

calimama2007 · October 2013

Here's how my experience has been with the boy, and what several of my closest friends have experienced as well:

There is no love like a son's love. They are huge mama's boys from the beginning. They give the best hugs and kisses, and say "I wuv you mommy" And they love on stuffed animals and blankets.

They like to break shit, and throw shit. (like toys, not literally). DS was also OBSESSED with doors for the first two years of his life, now he has moved on to cars and trucks and construction vehicles.

They aren't pushovers. Not that little girls are, they just won't put up with bullshit. My girls may push DS around, but he'll get back at them when they least expect it.

They are seriously the sweetest. DS is my mellowest kid so far, and a huge sweetheart

(I have lots of nice things to say about my girls too of course, but since you asked about boys

calimama2007 · October 2013

Also, DS tries to eat dirt any chance he gets, the little punk!

mamatobe2012 · October 2013

I thought I was having a girl the whole time until they told me "it's a boy!".

I thought what am I going to do with a boy? Well, they are so fun. And a boy always loves his mommy. My son is rough and tumble. A real jokester. I love watching him and DH interact. He loves his mama. He goes around the house and always picks up pictures and says mama and points me out and carries them around. He's a real sweet heart. It comes naturally. I don't know what it's like to have a girl, which I'm having this time and I know that will come naturally too!

AshandThree · October 2013

I was fairly certain this LO was a girl too, but nope! DS is going to be a big brother. I love my little guy and the boy parenting experience for all the reasons mentioned above, but also I think with my personality type a huge hurdle for me as a mom to a girl would be not projecting and trying to live vicariously through her as she grows up. I am girly, and a perfectionist, and can be overly vain, none of which are traits I would like to pass on to a daughter, so the relief of not worrying about how that will affect the mother child relationship is huge for me. I bow down to all moms who can raise a secure, confident, well rounded and well balanced daughter with everything society bombards them with these days related to their appearance and specifically their sexuality. I think I will have an easier time teaching my sons to respect and appreciate women than I would working through my own issues to teach a girl to respect and appreciate herself.

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