First time with a babysitter

kwrecks · October 2013

My LO is a month old. I have only been away from her for 10 minutes while I ran up the road to the gas station and she stayed with my parents. Well, mu husband today told me that next Tuesday, on his day off, he would like for us to leave her (or have them come to our house) with my parents so we can go to a movie, just the two of us. I would love to spend time with him, and get out, but the thought of leaving LO gives me anxiety. I know eventually I need to let others watch her, I just don't know if I'm ready.

Besides daycare, when was the first time you left your LO with someone? Am I crazy that I don't want to leave her yet?

tarapike86 · October 2013

No your not crazy. It's perfectly normal. You will probably be really anxious but the more you do it the easier it will be. Reed was 4 days old and dh and I went out to dinner and a movie

LokiLahve · October 2013

Sadie was 4 weeks and a girlfriend watched her while we went out for DH's birthday dinner.
Surprisingly I did just fine. I completely trust my friend and we were at a restaurant 10 minutes away. It was extremely refreshing to have some adult time over a glass of wine and a great meal without a baby sucking in my boob.

wifemomnurse · October 2013

You deserve a nice dinner and a movie!! It will be hard but if your comfortable with who is watching baby and you trust that they can handle it, try your best to enjoy yourself. Big hubby points! It's really sweet that he wants some time with you.

PackersFan315 · October 2013

LO was 2 weeks when I left him with my mom while DH and I went out for dinner. It wasn't that bad since I knew LO was okay with my mom. I think my anxiety will come when LO is left with someone other than a family member.

LiylaRae · October 2013

I've only left LO once with my mom and I had anxiety the whole time and she was constantly on my mind.

She now goes to daycare for three hours a day while I'm at school and I absolutely hate it. I just wish I could spend every second with her.

( I have really bad separation anxiety.

LO will be 10 weeks on Thursday.

CourtJack · October 2013

Whenever you feel comfortable is the right time. Like everything else is this phase - trial and error. Try going out-if the anxiety is interfering with your ability to have fun, go home. Try again another time

CaliforniaDream87 · October 2013

We try and go on date nights once a week, and started that when LO was 3 weeks old. My mom watches him. It's very important, for us, to continue having a healthy relationship so we make time.

Curls218 · October 2013

At 3 weeks I didn't want to leave DS with a sitter so I had my mom come and sit with him in a room right off where DH's grandfather's funeral was being held.

Now I've been away from him for a few hour stretches while DH was with him so I'm feeling a little better. Next week we have a dinner for DH's company and we have a sitter (my old nursery school teacher!) watching him in another building in the complex.

BellaOso · October 2013

I agree with everyone who said to get out there and do it!

With that said, I just can't do it yet. I don't know why, but I can't. Do as I say, not as I do I guess. I have left her with DH, but not anyone else yet. And this is number 2 for us! SMH - I need to work on this.

CBiggs85 · October 2013

My mom is watching DD overnight on Saturday so DH and I can celebrate our anniversary. I'm so nervous yet excited for a night of uninterrupted sleep!

PB102012 · October 2013

Not crazy at all! I am leaving my LO for a night this month (20th is our wedding anniversary) so DH and I can have a romantic evening. I am nervous about it but I know that my Mom will take great care of her.

janneann1127 · October 2013

We have a nanny with him 5 hours every Wednesday, and we try to do a date night at least every other Saturday. Just do it - it will get easier every time and the adult interaction (and time to reconnect with your hubs) are important.

megnallen · October 2013

Our LO was 3 weeks and my MIL watched her while DH and I went to a movie. The break was really nice and it was great to have time out with my husband. He was more nervous about it then I was and had to call his mother halfway through the movie to check on her

AACaHa13 · October 2013

CBiggs85 said:
My mom is watching DD overnight on Saturday so DH and I can celebrate our anniversary. I'm so nervous yet excited for a night of uninterrupted sleep!

Sounds refreshing! Our anniversary is this Sunday! When is yours? My mom has offered to take our LO but im too afraid witching hour will strike

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girlmama83 · October 2013

We have left her a couple times to run to the store but tomorrow I will be leaving her with the babysitter (my aunt) for a few hours while I go on a job interview.

Lovehavinggirls · October 2013

I left her for the first time when she was 2 weeks old. She is my 2nd and since then I have left get a bunch of times with my mil or mother. It's nice to get out of the house without the girls sometimes even if it's just to the laundromat.

MissyCee · October 2013

The first time I left LO she was about 4 wks and it was only for about 1 1/2 hrs while H and I went out to dinner for our anniversary. I missed her bunches but she was with my parents and we were literally a minute away so I felt ok with it.

Just take it a little at a time and do what you feel comfortable with and you'll be ok!

carrotcake06 · October 2013

I've left them a few times now. Doctors appts, dinner, just getting out of the house. It doesn't bother me at all since they're w family. Sometimes I need a break.

But it's perfectly normal to be nervous.

tanabeans · October 2013

wifemomnurse said:
You deserve a nice dinner and a movie!! It will be hard but if your comfortable with who is watching baby and you trust that they can handle it, try your best to enjoy yourself. Big hubby points! It's really sweet that he wants some time with you.

I'm with this one, you are not crazy at all to feel this way but just think of it as a way for you to get a little better before you have to go to work (I assume? Can't remember if you are camp sahm,sorry)

I have left dd for like an hour to tun errands but i was on call cuz she hadn't taken the bottle yet. Well yesterday she took a whole ounce from me and I hope I can convince SO to take me out for my birthday next week. It will just be a few hours but I need to get out.

Michelle N · October 2013

Definitely normal to be nervous (at least I'd hope so.. LO is 9 weeks and I haven't left him yet!). I'm sure it won't be so bad to leave LO with grandparents. I have tickets to a concert October 18th so I'll have to leave him then... but I've already asked DH if I can return them lol, so we'll see if I leave him or not...

LJUTCMommy · October 2013

I've only left my baby with DH for errands. I would like to get out, but we don't have any family who can help and I haven't hired a nanny yet.

I am meeting potential nannies this week and next, so hopefully I find a fabulous one.

Dd is just over 2 months. I would miss her, but it would be great to be able to eat dinner at the same time. Right now, one of us deals with baby while the other eats, then we switch.

BabyE143 · October 2013

We left her with in laws when she was 2 weeks bc we were celebrating our 1 year wedding anniversary but only for a couple hours. I also had to leave her with a good friend for a couple hours when my mom was admitted into the ER it was either that or have her in a hospital which I didn't want. But I would suggest leaving her with a trusted adult for short periods of time if you're having anxiety. I wasn't even gone long enough to miss a feeding and that helped.

raesue22 · October 2013

I left my LO for the first time with his Dad this week on Saturday for a mommy's day out. I was nervous the whole time, but everything went well! LO was five weeks old. I think it's normal to be nervous!

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