So...my girlfriend and I both had two boys and got pregnant again within six weeks of each other. From the beginning she made it clear to the world she really wanted a girl. Okay, I would have loved a girl but not once did I pray for one. I just wanted a healthy and happy baby. Well, I found out I was having a boy and she posted today she was having a girl. That is awesome but the comments! Oh my goodness. People said, "I am so happy for you, you deserved a girl!" Her husband posted how they prayed for a girl every night.
I guess I want to know, what is "wrong" with boys! Why on earth would you pray for one sex over the other and what if the poor kid had been a boy? It is just a bit offensive. I know, silly. But it is how I feel!
Our angel is in heaven 12/12/08
BFP 2/25/09
HCG 3/6=518 3/8=1230
1st Ultrasound 3/18 FHR=103
2nd U/S 3/20 FHR=118!!
3rd U/S 4/1 FHR=169
BIG U/S 5/22=IT'S A BOY! FHR-148
DS Born October 30, 2009
BFP 5/27/11 Stick baby, stick!
HCG 5/31=140 P=9 HCG 6/2=292 P=11
1ST Ultrasound 6/15 FHR=109!!
U/S 8/18=IT'S A BOY! FHR-141
DS Born January 20, 2012
BFP 5/27/13 EDD 2-5-14
U/S 8/17 FRH-141 It's a boy!!
Re: Silly FB vent!
DD#1 is 3! And LO#2 is on his/her way! Due Feb 26th, 2014.
BFP#1: EDD 5/7/2010 born on 5/20/2010. A little girl named Emily.
BFP#2: m/c 10/29/2012 EDD was 6/21/2012 Baby Hope was 6 weeks 3 days.
BFP#3: Twin B stopped growing at 8 weeks and 5 days. Found on 8/10/2014. EDD was 2/26/2014. Twin A is still doing great and due date is 2/26/14.
I have mentioned before the issues I had with #2 being a boy; my biggest fear was I wouldn't be able to love him/bond with him as he deserved b/c I'd always see him as a little ticking time bomb. Thankfully, that wasn't the case, I was in love with him shortly after I was able to hold him, but that attitude was something I'd worked on for a good 7-8 months, whereas with DD, it was more effortless, there was no psyching up, or self-talk to realize it.
DS's just as loved & cherished as DD is, & he & I are very close. I had what I felt were legitimate fears (3 generations worth) before his birth that were at the base of my concerns/fears, and so, I try not to base too strong an opinion on those that are vocal about wanting a certain sex. They may have multiple reasons, some of which they're not trotting out to the public for them to examine, so yeah, they're going to come off as fickle & shallow. If you saw all the skeletons in the closet, maybe it would be more understandable.
Then again, I'm sure there's plenty of parents that ARE fickle & shallow. I don't understand the "I NEED this sex in order to have a "perfect" family" feeling, b/c I don't believe in perfect, but, I also have one of each, so maybe I don't feel the same pressure or disappointment someone else might, if they've been dreaming of the "perfect" family since childhood, & it's just not happening that way.
IMO, it's a personality thing. Some people strive for perfect, & they get upset when there's roadblocks, or things don't work out as planned. I'm guessing those are the ones that can't let go of the idea that if they have this sex or that sex, only then will things be perfect in their lives. I guess it depends on whether you believe there's a specific recipe for "perfect."
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But ITA with Kendra's points that there may be other reasons why they felt so strongly about having a child of a certain sex. It's hard to always know but FB is known for bringing out the stupid in people.
So since we found out we are having a boy I'm excited to have one of each but, the comments like you are going to have such a perfect family or I bet DH is over the moon or how my FIL has bought me my fav food or presents for Bo when that was not his behavior when I was pg with Aimsley is just eye roll worthy!
People just put a lot of stock into sex either way!
People need to really think about what they say. I had to ask people to quit referring to this LO as a boy. They even got me doing it too. Well, she's not a he....
BFP 2/25/09
HCG 3/6=518 3/8=1230
1st Ultrasound 3/18 FHR=103
2nd U/S 3/20 FHR=118!!
3rd U/S 4/1 FHR=169
BIG U/S 5/22=IT'S A BOY! FHR-148
DS Born October 30, 2009
BFP 5/27/11 Stick baby, stick!
HCG 5/31=140 P=9 HCG 6/2=292 P=11
1ST Ultrasound 6/15 FHR=109!!
U/S 8/18=IT'S A BOY! FHR-141
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It turns out he had been planning for a few weeks all the things he could do with the baby if it was a boy. His attitude has changed since but I really don't understand him or anyone else being upset because they didn't get the sex they wanted.
dx PCOS 2007
BFP #1 (natural) 12/23/2010. Stillbirth due to IC 4/2/2011
TTC #2 starting 03/2012
RE starting 07/2012
05/2013 BFP on a Letrozole (Femara)/trigger!
Cerclage, Procardia, Makena, GD (with insulin), MBR, and we made it!
Our Angel was born sleeping at 20 weeks due to IC.
obviously i thought that was a stupid and effed up thing to say or think but now that I myself am pregnant I couldn't see myself dealing with that too well if my husband had said some shit like that!