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February 2013 Moms
DublinMama
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Am I missing something? Long, so sorry!
DublinMama
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I am a FTM, so all of this is new to me. I am also a working mom. I have posted a few times about my concerns about my DCP, so I realize that I have been told in the past that I need to find a new DCP, and suspect I will be told this again. But I want to clarify something before I send DS off to some place new, just in case it is me that is somehow the stupidest mother on the planet.
DS has had a cold for about a week and a half. He has never spiked a fever of any kind. In fact, his demeanor hasn't even changed. He's been congested and had what I would call a slight cough. Last Thursday, the daycare called me and said that DS sounded croupy and she was concerned about RSV. So naturally I go flying to get him and get him into the pedi. She looked him over, listened to his lungs and throat, and asked if he was eating and making wet diapers. He was. She told me that he had a little seal bark, and said I could take a conservative route of steam showers and all the smart things mamas on here said to do with a baby cold, or put him on steroids. She felt like he could kick the cold on his on in a few days, and steroids sounded kind of extreme given that he was by NO means hacking, or even showing heavy signs of illness. So I skipped the steroids. I felt like over this past weekend DS had improved. Still a little congested, but nothing serious.
He goes to daycare today. The phone never rings at work all day. I go to pick him up and the DCP sort of shoves him at me and says, "Here's you sick baby!!" Uhhhhhh, what??? Of course I'm falling all over myself asking if he's ok and if he had a bad day. She tells me he took crappy naps and was having a hard time breathing because he was so wheezy, then said I must not be getting any sleep at night because of his cough. What cough?!? I fail to see evidence of this extreme croup my son apparently is stricken with. She seemed aggravated with me, like I should know better than to have brought him in today. Which I wouldn't have, if I THOUGHT HE WAS SERIOUSLY ILL AND HIS DR. HADN'T TOLD ME HE HAD A MINOR COLD. And if she thought it was so serious, why didn't she call me to come get him?? So I leave feeling like the crappiest mother on the planet.
After this novel, my question is...what is the standard for leaving a "sick" baby at daycare? I know she has other children to think of, and I certainly don't want to expose anyone to anything serious. But I can't justify taking a day off of work for a stuffy nose and a little bark when he's crying or laughing. And again, my doctor already said she did not think this was a serious issue. Was I wrong to take him to DC today, and I just don't get the protocol as a FTM? I don't want to look like an a-hole at the next place he ends up going.
DS has had a cold for about a week and a half. He has never spiked a fever of any kind. In fact, his demeanor hasn't even changed. He's been congested and had what I would call a slight cough. Last Thursday, the daycare called me and said that DS sounded croupy and she was concerned about RSV. So naturally I go flying to get him and get him into the pedi. She looked him over, listened to his lungs and throat, and asked if he was eating and making wet diapers. He was. She told me that he had a little seal bark, and said I could take a conservative route of steam showers and all the smart things mamas on here said to do with a baby cold, or put him on steroids. She felt like he could kick the cold on his on in a few days, and steroids sounded kind of extreme given that he was by NO means hacking, or even showing heavy signs of illness. So I skipped the steroids. I felt like over this past weekend DS had improved. Still a little congested, but nothing serious.
He goes to daycare today. The phone never rings at work all day. I go to pick him up and the DCP sort of shoves him at me and says, "Here's you sick baby!!" Uhhhhhh, what??? Of course I'm falling all over myself asking if he's ok and if he had a bad day. She tells me he took crappy naps and was having a hard time breathing because he was so wheezy, then said I must not be getting any sleep at night because of his cough. What cough?!? I fail to see evidence of this extreme croup my son apparently is stricken with. She seemed aggravated with me, like I should know better than to have brought him in today. Which I wouldn't have, if I THOUGHT HE WAS SERIOUSLY ILL AND HIS DR. HADN'T TOLD ME HE HAD A MINOR COLD. And if she thought it was so serious, why didn't she call me to come get him?? So I leave feeling like the crappiest mother on the planet.
After this novel, my question is...what is the standard for leaving a "sick" baby at daycare? I know she has other children to think of, and I certainly don't want to expose anyone to anything serious. But I can't justify taking a day off of work for a stuffy nose and a little bark when he's crying or laughing. And again, my doctor already said she did not think this was a serious issue. Was I wrong to take him to DC today, and I just don't get the protocol as a FTM? I don't want to look like an a-hole at the next place he ends up going.
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Re: Am I missing something? Long, so sorry!
I have a Daughter born 2/26/2013. She is pretty much amazing!
It goes on to say, "Parents will be notified if any of the following is evident: fever of 101 degrees or higher, diarrhea, respiratory difficulties, vomiting of two or more episodes, eye discharge, head lice, sore throat, not feeling well (pale, unusually tired, loss of appetite). If you are notified of any of these symptoms, you must make arrangements to remove your child from the Center as soon as possible." I guess I just disagree with the assessment of "respiratory difficulties" my son supposedly is having. And today she never called me once to say he was having a difficulty of any kind.
Edited for grammar.
Someone who treats the mom in a way that makes her feel like a bad mom is not someone you need to be dealing with on a regular basis. Of course, that's coming from me, and my pedi regularly makes me feel like an awful mom and I still haven't switched. So, yeah, I know it's not easy. The reason I stay with my pedi is that I feel like she's a great doctor and good with the kids, just not with me.
If you feel the same level of confidence in your DCP, then I can understand why you would stay. If you don't feel that way, then I think you should shop around.
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.