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Standing = Sleeping Issues (HELP!)

AlexamesAlexames member
in November 2012 Moms
For the past couple of nights, LO have been behaving very unlike herself. After our bedtime routine, we usually give her a bottle and off she goes to bed (sometimes drowsy and sometimes not) and eventually, she'll fall asleep on her own. But the last couple of nights, she would stand herself up and cry really hard..and not sleep until we carry her.  She also have no interest in her last bottle of milk.  Does it have anything to do with her...just learned out to stand in her crib (curiosity)? It's the same for her middle of the night feeding. Usually, after we feed her, she'll go back to bed, but last night, she cried and cried until we rock her to sleep in our arms. I'm a FTM...in lost of words and are quite confused of what's been going on.  A Phase?  Testing our limits?  

What are your thoughts?   Thank you in advance.
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Re: Standing = Sleeping Issues (HELP!)

  • maven212maven212 member
    My baby did this all of last month. Turns out she was sick. She had a UTI, followed by a cold followed by an ear infection. When we got the illnesses cleared up, she stopped waking up and sleeping cruising for a while. Basically she was in pain, woke up and needed comfort.  When she was really sick with the UTI, before she developed a fever, she would wake up inconsolable - sometimes every half hour. She did something similar when she had an ear infection. Now we are back to teething, so we are back to sleeping cruising but she can be consoled.

    When my LO has woken up, inconsolable she has been in pain. We had a rough month so I'm now a little paranoid about various infections. If your child has suddenly started this behaviour, I'd try to rule out various simple illnesses and sources of pain first.

    Good luck. We spent much of last night like this, so I am very sympathetic to your problem. 


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  • AlexamesAlexames member
    thank you for your insight, maven212.  much appreciated.
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  • billybumblerbillybumbler member
    My LO has been doing something similar for naps. She will stand up and cry and cry when she used to go right to sleep when we laid her down. She did this at bedtime the other day. We just go in every 5 min and lay her back down and try to calm her without picking up. It worked for bedtime but for naps sometimes it doesn't so we give up on the nap after a couple of tries. However, because your LO has been refusing bottles I would investigate an infection before doing CIO/sleep training. I also realize what I described might not be an option if you don't do CIO.
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  • LBStewartLBStewart member
    DD has been doing something similar for the last two weeks.  For me, I think she was adjusting to me being away from her more often.  DH and I were out of town two weekends ago and certain nights I have commitments that keep me away from her.  Some nights she's totally fine, but I've been noticing that it's the night's I get home late when she struggles.  Plus she's walking more and more which I think is contributing to it as well.
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  • maven212maven212 member
    PaulaKNL totally picked up something I missed - ya, if she is refusing, particularly at night that can sometimes be a sign of specifically an ear infection. The pain gets worse as they get tired, and really bad when they lie down. They sometimes refuse food as the day ends, and then wake up with aches at night.

    Not to harp on the ear thing. Your LO might be up for any number of reasons. It's so hard to tell when they can't just say "my ear hurts" "I'm so over this crib" and so on.
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  • winecastle14winecastle14 member
    As other said, if she isn't eating well and is REALLY screaming and can't be consoled then it could be an infection. However, O always did this at night with any new skill. She did it with sitting up, crawling, and standing. She also wakes up more at night during a mental developmental leap. It could very well be that she is going through a leap. 
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  • AlexamesAlexames member
    thank you, Amber.

    thank you, Ladies...we took LO to the Dr this morning.  it's cleared..not an ear infection.   hopefully, it's a phase?  it's heart breaking, yet frustrating.  
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  • maven212maven212 member
    Well, that's good news :)

    So, LO fully awake when she stands up? Do you use a nightlight?
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  • AlexamesAlexames member
    yes, fully awake when standing.  and yes to nightlight.
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  • alphaphi98alphaphi98 member

    Since you ruled out infection, then it's a phase. We went through the same thing with DD a month ago. Ever since she could stand and was more mobile, she'd fight us on napping and sleeping. I ended up straping her in a swing. Since she was stuck and couldn't get out, it forced her to 'give up' and go to sleep. I did that for two weeks before I realized it was a bad habit. She really needed to learn to fall asleep on her own.

    So here's what we did:  we stopped the swing and I put her in the crib to sleep at night. We cried it out. Night one was really rough! I tucked her in and left the room immediately. I saw in the monitor that she immidiately stood in the crib and cried & screamed for me. She cried non-stop for 40 minutes. It was awful, but part of the process. I only went in to check on her once but never picked her up. After 20 minutes, she sat on her butt but still continued to cry. Ten minutes after that, she laid her head down on the bed while still crying. And soon after, she gave up and went to sleep on her own. It was long, loud and hard for 40 minutes.

    Night two was much better. We did the same routine and she only stood and cried for 10 minutes before giving up and fell alseep on her own. I was so impressed with her progress. The third night, we put her in the crib and she didn't stand up at all. She just went to sleep on her own without crying! It was amazing! No problems or issues. The 4th night was the same. No issues. She just went to sleep immediately on her own without crying. It's been about a month, and she's still doing well. Some nights she'll fuss, but it's only for 2 minutes before she falls asleep on her own. We're consistent about cry it out.

    My advice to you is BE CONSISTENT! That's the most important thing. Do what ever works for you, but be consistent, and your LO will eventually get it and fall asleep. Good luck!

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  • AlexamesAlexames member
    Thank you do much for sharing your experience with your LO. Being a FTM, I feel very hyper sensitive to every little thing and get stress easily. I hope this is a phase as well.
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