1 week ago today, my cousin tragically lost her baby girl at 20 weeks. I had planned to announce after my appointment last week on Tuesday, but with her loss just one day before I decided not to. So ladies, how long do you think I should wait to announce? I'll be 9 weeks in a couple days.
Re: She had a loss 1 week ago, how long should I wait to tell her?
I would wait a few more weeks to announce and then call her to tell her a couple days before hand, so she can try to process. If I were in her shoes, I'd appreciate a call, text, or email to give me a heads up first.
I'm sorry to hear of her loss. What a tough situation for your family.
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From my experience, telling her in person is a terrible idea--she'll be put on the spot to react a certain way and will then feel incredibly guilty about not being able to react with the happiness that she feels you deserve. So I agree with the previous posters that a separate email is a nice way. She'll have the freedom to react the way she needs to and then will be able to give you the love and support that you need too. I'm so sorry for your cousin and her loss--I've been there and it's some unimaginable pain. Thank you for being so considerate of her feelings!
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