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LiFeIsAmIrAcLe · September 2013

How many of you were disappointed when you found out your baby's gender?

The reason I ask is because I'm going for my elective ultrasound this coming Saturday. I'm beyond excited. I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want to have a little girl. My sister-in-law gave my parents their first grandson, and she is currently carrying another little boy that's due in January. It would mean the absolute world to me to give my parents their first grand-daughter. I know it may sound stupid to some of you.....but it's just a big deal to me. My mom and sisters are all hoping for a girl. Hubby's side of the family has no grandchildren yet, and my MIL really wants a grand-daughter too. I just really want a girl. Hubby says he wants a boy but in the end he won't care either way. I just am really afraid of overreacting at the ultrasound and not enjoying the moment because it may not be what I had in mind for myself. I know I will love my little man with my entire heart if it is a boy, but at the same time I know I will be disappointed at first. My gut feeling is telling my I'm having a boy, but I know I'm just telling myself that to prepare myself so I'm not AS disappointed. Guess I have a 50/50 chance

Has anyone gone through something similar?

Ricola · September 2013

No. Good luck with your ultrasound!

dannie2011 · September 2013

I have only found what we were having with Alexis, I was pretty darn sure she was a girl. The other four we were team green, I never felt disappointed at all when I found out. Now with this one we will hopefully find out tomorrow what we are having. I'm really wanting another girl, and have never really cared what I had before so if this one turns out to be a boy I hope I won't get too bummed out.

LiFeIsAmIrAcLe · September 2013

@FarmBoysWife - Your response makes me feel like I need to just snap into reality. After two losses and struggling to get pregnant, I will be so thankful if my baby is just born strong and healthy.

angelsnight · September 2013

Maybe try thinking of all the wonderful things about having a boy (playmates with their cousins...not that girls and boys can't play together, but ya know). Last time I couldn't have cared less what we had, I would love either. We had a girl, but since we lost her, I just can't deny that I am really hoping this one is also a girl. So I also fear that I will be a little dissapointed at first if it is a boy. BUT, I will still be over the moon if it's a boy, and somedays I get really excited about the idea of a boy to the point where I hope it's a boy.

It's perfectly ok to be a little dissapointed and have your moment, but definitely focus on the good if it is a boy, and the overall fact of having a baby. I just want to bring this one home, that is the most important thing to me.

legallyginger · September 2013

I wasn't disappointed. I was kinda stunned for a little bit though, because I didn't realize how much I had convinced myself we were having a girl. When the tech said boy all I could think was "oh yeah, I hadn't really considered that." Then I spent the day browsing pinterest for baseball nursery decorations.

Excitedmum35 · September 2013

Boys are awesome! Even if u feel that way now, when the baby is born you will be fine! Probably something to do with hormones!

ajdmama · September 2013

I am from a family of all girls so I just knew that someday I would have a little girl too- annndd I was gonna be the best at dealing with all the girl stuff..but I found out that I am having a little boy and it's our last kid...idk if I would say I'm "disappointed" but I have had to really change the way I imagine how our family would look and the things I was planning on doing as a mom. I love having a son, and I'm so excited to have another one and for J to have a little bro. But the finality of never doing girl stuff with my little girl was tough for a couple days. Like pp, more than anything, I'm grateful that our babies are healthy and happy. I wouldn't beat yourself up, everyone has dreams about what their life is going to look like and sometimes things look different and it takes some getting used to.

SamJustice · September 2013

Nope. After almost losing my son twice and a two month long NICU stay I'll be ecstatic if baby is healthy. Boy. Girl. Doesn't matter.

jwls84 · September 2013

I would suggest that you start convincing yourself that you are having a boy now and try to get yourself excited for it before the ultrasound. So if you do turn out to be having a boy you aren't disappointed.

I would love to have a girl this time but I will be super happy if it's a boy too. You can't change what your child is, but you can change your mindset.

liamandlettie · September 2013

There was a long post about this weeks ago. Its normal to be a bit disappointed if you really had your heart set. It doesn't mean you won't attach or that you're a bad mom. I wanted a girl but I knew it was a boy and it was! Honestly my reaction was almost a non-reaction at the ultrasound. There was a moment of mommy-daughter dreams crushed but almost just as quick I was in love with my little boy. This is our last baby and everyone assumes I'm dying for a girl but I would love 2 boys. Itll be ok! Enjoy the ultrasound and meeting your little baby!! I hope everything goes really well!

DRFleener · September 2013

Well, we won't know until this Saturday at our party. But I saw my sister really want a girl and it took her probably a month to get over it once she learned she was having a second boy. Because I have seen that I am bracing myself because I too really really want a girl. We are very girly girls and funny enough have a lot of family jewelry and just want a girl to share all these things with...on the flip,side I am an avid sports fan so can see myself as a soccer mom too!

cdnmomma · September 2013

I think sometimes the more you talk about which gender you want the more you set yourself up for disappointment. I was initially also kinda hoping for a girl, but only because I've envisioned and imagined all the things I would do with my daughter. It's hard for me to imagine the same for a boy because I'm used to being around girls. BUT, that being said, there are plenty of amazing things about having a son. I've imagined what it would be like and its exciting. I will be happy with a boy or girl and now i actually dont have 'hopes' for either gender. Happy and healthy is really all I want at this point.

Nadeau Photography · September 2013

I think it's completely normal for some to "hope" for one sex or the other and we all have our own personal reasons to "care" or not to care what the sex is. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that... In the end all anyone truly wants is a thriving healthy baby. We all are only human after all. It's like anything in life, you get yourself worked up for something, and when it's not as expected, you may feel a moment of disappointment, but you readjust your expectations, and move forward with different, but equal excitement.

I have 2 boys and am hoping for a girl since this is likely our last child. I have a close relationship with my mother, and hope to share that bond with a little girl, and I don't feel the least bit guilty about feeling that way. If its a boy? Awesome. I'll readjust my expectations, love him, cherish him and with be the proud mother of 3 handsome little devils!

karacakes98 · September 2013

Nope.

ceh789 · September 2013

legallyginger said:

I wasn't disappointed. I was kinda stunned for a little bit though, because I didn't realize how much I had convinced myself we were having a girl.

This was me - when the nurse told me (found out via Verifi test, not US) my immediate response was 'are you sure?' because I was absolutely, 100% positive it was a boy. To be honest - I won't be entirely shocked if, when the baby comes, it turns out that the test was wrong after all.

That said - it took me no time at all to start thinking of 'him' as 'her' and I'm fully immersed in cute girl things and thinking about our daughter. I can't imagine I'd be more excited about a boy than I am about a girl.

springbaby03 · September 2013

jwls84 said:
I would suggest that you start convincing yourself that you are having a boy now and try to get yourself excited for it before the ultrasound. So if you do turn out to be having a boy you aren't disappointed.

I would love to have a girl this time but I will be super happy if it's a boy too. You can't change what your child is, but you can change your mindset.

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This. If your more open to the idea it will help with that moment so you can fully enjoy it.

Amydarg · September 2013

Almost every1 on here will jump on you be greatful for what you have and that its healthy .... Not me Hun I get it I find out Saturday what I'm haveing I have a son already and have my heart set on a little girl so I will be a little upset if its a boy but ill still love him xx

nelson1981 · September 2013

I had 2 losses back to back and I am very happy to be having a healthy pregnancy this time. Although I did have a little let down moment when they said girl because I already have 3 girls. It didn't take long at all to be overcome with joy knowing we have another princess on the way! You will get over the shock and be madly in love very quickly!!!

amberlynnr7 · September 2013

I must say, I was a little disapointed when we found out we were having a girl the first time, but I have had a few losses and was glad to be pregnant so I came out of it quickly.

When I found out we were having a boy this time, I was thrilled. All things in God's time they say...

Mcsweets · September 2013

Honestly, we went in and I can say without a doubt that we thought we had absolutely no preference to what we were having. We really just wanted healthy babies - and the second I found out 1 gender I started bawling. It just made it so real. Looking back, I think we were hoping for one of each - but I really truly think we would have been just as happy no matter what the Dr. told us.

cablecar2525 · September 2013

We just had our elective ultrasound on Friday. We both really wanted a girl, for many of the same reasons you listed. I also thought it was a boy and was worried I would be disappointed. Our ultrasound tech wrote" Im a prince" on the screen and we were both ecstatic. I wasn't disappointed at all. So happy, in fact.....but then after a second or two she added the two s's, making it read, " I'm a princess!" Haha. We were thrilled with that too! Go in there knowing that your family and you will adore that baby no matter what, and you'll have a great experience. It's the best $100 we've ever spent! Such a great day! Good luck, let us know how it goes!

PerkyErky · September 2013

Yes. We have a DS and lost our DD. I was hoping for another girl for a few reasons 1. We already have a little boy so a little girl would be great, 2. There are only grandsons on both sides (DS on my side and DS and his cousin on DH's side) and only my DH and his brother and then there is me, but I have 2 brothers as well. So a little girl infusion would be fun, and 3. I dread the question "will you try for a girl?"...we have a daughter she just isn't here.

We found out we are having a little boy. I was disappointed but it in no way means I don't love my baby or that I love him any less because he sports a wiener. While I wanted a girl, I really want to take home my living baby. It's alright to be disappointed. And of course once baby is here you won't care one bit.

liamandlettie · September 2013

cablecar2525 said:
We just had our elective ultrasound on Friday. We both really wanted a girl, for many of the same reasons you listed. I also thought it was a boy and was worried I would be disappointed. Our ultrasound tech wrote" Im a prince" on the screen and we were both ecstatic. I wasn't disappointed at all. So happy, in fact.....but then after a second or two she added the two s's, making it read, " I'm a princess!" Haha. We were thrilled with that too! Go in there knowing that your family and you will adore that baby no matter what, and you'll have a great experience. It's the best $100 we've ever spent! Such a great day! Good luck, let us know how it goes!

Thats a tricky tech!!!

TradeMama · September 2013

I have no preference... I don't know what this LO is but this is our last baby. We are just hoping for a healthy one!

cablecar2525 · September 2013

So tricky!! It was nice to know that we would have been elated either way.

bran0915 · September 2013

I went back and forth with what I "wanted" the last time. As I have this time. This is our last so I'm "hoping" for a boy. That being said, I have convinced myself about how great another girl would be - so I'm prepared either way. I would think of it this way, if by chance you get a boy this time, that doesn't mean you won't have another baby next (before SIL) and that could be a girl. Either way, once it's here, you won't be able to picture your life any differently so I highly doubt you'll have the "I wish it had been" feeling :-)

MNmama7112 · September 2013

You might even be surprised by your reaction if they tell you it's a boy. I REALLY wanted a girl with our first and when she told us he was a boy I honestly was so excited. I thought I'd be disappointed but I didn't even have a glimmer of disappointment. Not to say it wouldn't be OK if I had been disappointed, but you just might be surprised when you're in the room looking at your baby on the screen.

PS- I LOVE having a boy and I'm sure you will too if it's a boy

JKS21 · September 2013

We didn't find out with our son - and I honestly was fine with either as long as it was healthy. Same with this one. Would I like a girl? Of course! But I would like a boy too!

PeytonEliMama · September 2013

With my daughter, I was convinced she was a boy. So convinced, in fact, that I was flabbergasted when the tech said it was a girl and had a hard time wrapping my head around it. This time, I have no strong feeling about whether it is a boy or a girl, and while it would be nice to experience being the mother of a boy, I will not be disappointed if it is another girl because I know now that the love and awe I will feel will be same regardless of the baby's sex.

Maddeegal · September 2013

Yes, first time around I wanted a girl, horribly, I have 6 brothers, my husband has 2 brothers, and I only have two girl cousins who are very very young and weren't around when I was growing up and 1 girl cousin close to my age who was also never around. My dad has 4 brothers we have a male curse in our family so I desperately wanted one girl!! Just one, then I got her! So I was super happy! I get wanting it to be a certain gender!
This time around, I want a boy, but don't care much, the only reason I really want a boy is because I have been calling my baby... Baby Zeke (the name If it's a boy) and my DD says she wants a brother and also calls LO "baby Zeke in mom's belly," so it will be super weird if it isn't a boy! I don't care much though I would love another girl as well, I guess we'll find out my appt. is Friday, and we are doing a reveal dinner that night with all our family! Good luck with yours!

BrandiF86 · September 2013

With my first a was a little bit let down, I had always wanted a boy first.

But once I thought about how much fun little girls could be I was thrilled, I now have one of each and waiting to find out on third.

hemeyer31 · September 2013

I know exactly how you feel. I have three nieces and another on the way!! I was convinced I would have a boy, but I too am having a girl! granddaughter #5! I have to say I was shocked, but not disappointed because my parents are still so excited and to be honest, it's different for them that their own daughter is pregnant, (not that they don't love my SIL or my nieces), but I'm sure they will be just as thrilled if you have another boy. Just focus on not depending on the outcome for your happiness. Remember, your baby will be an individual and lovable regardless of the gender.

LiFeIsAmIrAcLe · September 2013

Thank you all for your wonderful, encouraging responses. I know I will definitely love my little guy if it is a boy. No doubt about that! 5 more days

I'm getting nervous and excited!!!

mhilpisch10 · October 2013

6 of my cousins had girls last year and I have 4 sisters! I'm ready for a little man in my life! I really want a boy, but feel like God will give me a girl to remind me that He is the master mind! Haha. At least if I have a girl she will have a crap ton of play mates!

futurecody · October 2013

I thought this baby was a boy... It's a girl! My friend thought hers was a girl.. It's a boy! Literally took us both maybe 30 min tops then we were super excited and cant stop talking about it even though it was different than what we both thought or "wanted". I think the same will happen for you if it's not what you "want."

avigailandcharlie · October 2013

A couple things. Definitely prepare yourself, and start believing that it's probably a boy. I am very girly, come from a family of girls, and want a mother daughter relationship. If I have 4 kids and they are all girls, I wouldn't feel loss at not having a boy. But I would seriously keep trying until I got a girl. Well, this baby is a boy, and I mentally prepared myself for it, and am really excited now. I do get a little jealous when I hear about like, friends or bumpies having twins and they're both girls, but then I get over it and remember I have a little baby boy to meet soon! Find a few things to fixate on that you are so excited about for a boy. You can monogram everything he owns, you can watch your husband play sports with him or take him fishing (or whatever DH likes to do), you'll get to teach him how to treat ladies, etc. I would definitely NOT do a big gender reveal but find out with just you and DH (or whoever you're comfortable) in case you are disappointed. Also, please know that it's okay if you feel like this, and it does not make you a bad mother. We all want healthy babies. We've all suffered on our own at different levels, and are just thrilled to have any baby to hold in our arms in march that will god willing be healthy. Because you envisioned a girl baby, and you may grieve that girl, does not mean you are not just as excited and grateful for a boy baby to hold in your arms.

babylimas · October 2013

Disappointment is super normal. If it goes beyond the mild then you can be concerned. If you are disappointed you will get over it quickly and get just as excited for the opposite.

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Ceventa · October 2013

It's our first baby, so we'll be happy whether it's a boy or a girl. I've had a feeling from the beginning that it is a boy though. If the baby turns out to be a girl, I will be really surprised!

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