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Announcement-- and now extra anxious!

Anyone make the big official announcement and then suddenly feel more anxious than ever?? We had our ultrasound Wednesday (baby measuring at 11wks with heart rate 174) and we told family today and announced it publically. I feel like I was handling things pretty well...until all the congratulations came rolling in! Now I'm terrified something is really going to go wrong, like I've jinxed myself or something. Though I don't even believe in jinxes. 

Oh PGAL brain, you suck so hard.

Re: Announcement-- and now extra anxious!

  • Everytime we tell someone else I get a little more nervous.  Same thing, totally afraid we're jinxing it.  PGAL brain sucks!
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  • A couple of weeks ago my Mom asked when I wanted to start planning the baby's room. All I do do was think, "Ahhhh!!!!!!!"
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  • Yes, the maternity clothes too!  I've given in on the pants, but all I do is occasionally look at the shirts.  I can't bring myself to pull them out yet!
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  • I feel the same way. We just told all the family and some closer friends and now I regret it. I feel like my list of people to un-tell is getting too large. I wish we didn't need to feel this way.

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  • We just told our parents because we were at a community event and it would have been obviouse if I didn't get a beer along with everyone else. They have been instructed to not say anything yet at least until my appointment on Oct 11.
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  • It's such a mixed bag! It's lovely having so many people loving on us and our baby, but then at the same time I'm like "Noo!!! You can't know yet!". I guess it's just a matter of taking it one day at a time and enjoying that today baby is well and being loved and celebrated. I wish we could just skip this whole pregnancy part and just have them born!
  • I still feel that way now. It's got to be pgal brain.
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  • We haven't gone public yet but a few people know, including my boss. I do ok until I hear "congratulations" and then I cringe and think "Oh shit I can't handle it" - my boss said congrats and I sheepishly said thanks and right away (she knows we had a recent loss) she was like "I can see you are very guarded when you hear that" - And that is exactly it. I feel like acknowledging it makes me vulnerable to being let down.
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  • I still feel this and I'm 31w tomorrow.




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  • I felt that way with my DS, and also now with this LO. 
    I don't want to plan/make a nursery, or buy any new clothes until I'm bursting out of these.
    I agree, I think it's our PGAL brains, making us think we'll jinx it (which is actually quite ridiculous, but hey, you can't help how you feel).

    Sorry hun ~ just gotta try to hang in there!

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  • ((Hugs)). I am terrified to tell anyone. I'm 12w and we still haven't told our family yet. I have my NT u/s and materniT21 testing Tuesday and if all looks good with this baby I hope that I'll finally be able to tell the family at least. I'm so scared after losing 2 babies with no living children. You almost feel like you'll jinx something and can't handle the attention. Not to mention I am dreading people telling me I shouldn't be doing things or eating/drinking things because of my loss history. PgAL is so hard.

    I hope as the weeks go by it will be easier for you and excitement and some level I comfort sinks in :)

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  • @porterlove525 Good luck with your NT scan!!! I just scheduled mine, and it is the 15th, I am trying to ignore the fact that that is National Pregnancy and Infant loss awareness day... I really don't need to be more aware. Sending good thoughts your way!!
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  • As everyone else says, this is normal. I am 30 weeks and afraid to paint my nursery. It sucks and I am sorry you are dealing with it.
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  • Veganlady said:
    I'm afraid to do all kinds of things - tell people, buy maternity clothes, make plans of any kind. It's like this BFP is a fragile thing and I have to be careful not to scare it away or something.

    I agree with this 100%...

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  • kjsx988 said:

    A couple of weeks ago my Mom asked when I wanted to start planning the baby's room. All I do do was think, "Ahhhh!!!!!!!"

    This! My GMIL has volunteered to buy us a stroller and other things, my MIL has started knitting and asking me what sex I think the baby is, and my own mother has been buying me maternity clothing. Whew it is all I can do to not flip out everytime I have a twinge, I don't want to take away their excitement but I kind of wish they would lay off for a little bit. Luckily DH has been able to stem the tide from his side of the family.



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  • @porterlove525 and @allieschur good luck ladies :) I hope to see some awesome pips.



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    BFP #2 7/17/13, EDD 3/29/14 ended in a CP on 7/22/13.
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  • ((Hugs)). I am terrified to tell anyone. I'm 12w and we still haven't told our family yet. I have my NT u/s and materniT21 testing Tuesday and if all looks good with this baby I hope that I'll finally be able to tell the family at least. I'm so scared after losing 2 babies with no living children. You almost feel like you'll jinx something and can't handle the attention. Not to mention I am dreading people telling me I shouldn't be doing things or eating/drinking things because of my loss history. PgAL is so hard. I hope as the weeks go by it will be easier for you and excitement and some level I comfort sinks in :)
    I have people telling me what to do differently this time. Everyone's is telling me how I shouldn't be stressed out about it. As if I can just turn off a PGAL brain because you said so. Even the woman taking my blood gave me advice. STOP. Unless you want me to lie in bed in an induced coma I can't follow everyone's advice.

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  • @allieschur, having an NT scan on the 15th has got to be tough for any PgALer. I have everything crossed for good news from you and hope that the next 2 weeks fly by waiting ((hugs))

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    BFP#2 3/1/13   EDD: 11/5/13   Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w   D&C 4/11/13  
    Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.

    BFP#3 8/5/13   EDD: 4/13/14   Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14. 

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  • I absolutely feel this way. i was PUSHING my DH to tell his Mom (she is older and lives in another country, so I wanted her to feel connected.) But the SECOND he told her, I freaked out.  I know this is horrible, but I am terrified of disappointing people if things go wrong.  I didn't tell her about my first loss.
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