@amberpro I can't believe they want to give you all of these new tasks to take on while you're in your third trimester. A few, I could understand, but this is just unacceptable. I know it sucks your boss is intimidating, but you come first! I would definitely tell her that while you understand you must take on some new responsibilities, you physically cannot do everything on that list and see if she is willing to negotiate on a few of them. Go in with a plan - maybe suggestions on who could take over the parts you need to give up. With hard headed bosses of my last I found if I already had a solution available, sometimes they'd be more likely to hear me out and consider my proposition. Good luck, and I truly hope you can get some of those duties reassigned.
@SailorTink I will be thinking of you and hoping everything is okay for you and LO. Also that you get out of the tunnel ASAP. Keep us updated when you can..
@frankierokx I'm sure it feels a little uncomfortable right now, but speaking with a counselor may open up doors you didn't event know were closed. I hope it is a positive experience for you.
@BootsOrHearts you are soooooo much nicer than me. I just YANK and when H wakes up, I tell him, "share the blanket!!!1!11"
I'm going to see a counselor this afternoon as my OB thinks I'm showing signs of depression....
I've never seen a counselor before and to be honest I don't even want to get out of my pj's
This made me LOL but only because often not wanting to get dressed for the day is a sign of depression. Granted you are pregnant and on bed rest so why would you want to change out of comfy pjs. I hope you are feeling better.
I have a GD specialist "supporting" me through this process. I submit to her a detailed list of my #s for the week along with 5 different questions. She replies with almost no feedback or support and only halfway answered one of my questions. I'm doing my best over here but please at least take two minutes to answer my questions! I can't believe that this is such a big deal and how I'll need all this extra fetal monitoring and sonograms and yet I can't even get simple questions answered.
I'm going to see a counselor this afternoon as my OB thinks I'm showing signs of depression....
I've never seen a counselor before and to be honest I don't even want to get out of my pj's
This made me LOL but only because often not wanting to get dressed for the day is a sign of depression. Granted you are pregnant and on bed rest so why would you want to change out of comfy pjs. I hope you are feeling better.
Lol that's why I put it. I guess I am a little depressed with everything that has been going on. Thank you
I'm going to see a counselor this afternoon as my OB thinks I'm showing signs of depression....
I've never seen a counselor before and to be honest I don't even want to get out of my pj's
Hang in there!!! I am going to talk to the doctor about my anxiety today. Pregnancy brings out all sorts of emotions. It's good you are being proactive. It may help you avoid postpartum depression.
I'm going to see a counselor this afternoon as my OB thinks I'm showing signs of depression....
I've never seen a counselor before and to be honest I don't even want to get out of my pj's
Hang in there!!! I am going to talk to the doctor about my anxiety today. Pregnancy brings out all sorts of emotions. It's good you are being proactive. It may help you avoid postpartum depression.
I am so scared of PP depression, so that's why we are getting the ball rolling early. FX it all works out
I have so much vag pressure that it hurts to walk. It's going to be a long 3 months.
Sorry!! Glad I'm not the only one though. I am going through this too. Is this only likely to get worse? I thought it was a phase. Damn.
I honestly have no idea if it lasts or if it's a phase. I didn't have this with my last pregnancy. I hope it doesn't last but I'm guessing it will only get worse as he gets bigger!
@frankiekrox thinking of you! As PP have said, it won't do any harm to go and see what it's like.
@esf60 I feel your pain, my DH is the same way with his damn fantasy football. I've had a talk with him, you definitely need to also!
@sailortink, thinking of you too and keep us updated!
@mep923, I remember your story about all that with your sisters and dad for his birthday. So what have you guys decided? They should understand that you can't afford the trip. Your already sacrificing a lot for your own family with celebrations/birthdays, why don't they get it? I'm sorry, that's so frustrating.
My b*tchfest isn't too bad but to my family...would you please rsvp to my shower???? My sister keeps texting me that like no one has rsvp'd and it's Sunday. Soo frustrating! She has an email and phone number on there, just please respond! Also my MIL, we were at a bday party for our niece (DH side) and she would not stop with "what can I get you?" "do you want water?" "a cookie?" "are you feeling ok (every 5 min)" I wasn't complaining that I didn't feel good or anything and I was just sitting around like everyone else, please woman, lay off. I know she means well but this how it is every single time I see her. Blah.
We love our landlords and don't want them to lose out on a months rent while they show the place after we move. A family came to look at our house yesterday. 2 parents and 2 teenagers. Both of the dogs were in their kennels. Our big guy was a bit upset with people being in there, but we figured it was safer for everyone if he was in the kennel instead of on a leash. Anyway, after telling them to please ignore Kody, one of the teenagers (about 17) tries to pet him through his kennel. He stuck his hand in there with a 150lb growling dog...and got bit. Big fucking surprise there. They were kind about it, said everything was okay, and confirmed that their kid is an idiot. This morning the dad calls me to request shot records (which is fine) and to let me know that they went to the ER and he'll be mailing me the bill. The kids hand was bruised, but the skin wasn't broken...I don't quite understand the ER visit. And I'm a stubborn bitch and seriously considering telling them to fuck off. I HATE people sometimes.
Went to dinner last night with DH, FIL, FIL's long time girlfriend, and DH's Grandparents. My FIL likes to joke with me about riding home our newborn on a motorcycle since motorcycles are a big deal in our family. He obviously is only saying it to get under my skin so I usually just laugh it off rather than engage. Last night, no joke, his GIRLFRIEND who has a habit of being obnoxious about giving advice, argued with me for about 10 minutes about how it isn't illegal to ride an infant on a motorycle! She grabbed my leg and told me to read the motorcycle handbook that the DMV has because it says nothing in there about allowing an INFANT TO RIDE A MOTORCYCLE. Is she nuts or what???
DH. I won't get into details because I could go on forever. But, basically, I'm on bed rest and he is being so unsupportive. I married a man-child with the emotional capacitance of a 16 year old girl.
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~Miscarriage July 2010~
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Fucking fantasy football is taking over our lives.
Yesterday, in my excitement that we're 31 weeks, I tried to talk to my husband about it (he's usually into our weekly discussions about different fruits & what developments the babe is making), and in the middle of my sentence, he started telling me about some running back... it was like I was never even talking. Our ENTIRE DAY revolves around it, as does every conversation from morning until bedtime, and I don't even care that he does it, but would it kill him to listen to me for like, 30 seconds each Sunday?
We're only in the middle of buying a new house, remodeling it, putting our house on the market, selling furniture, running two businesses, oh, and growing a human. Let's talk more about what Chris Johnson's doing!
I am part of a new "project management" team and my boss is implementing all these new tasks: tracking data, formalizing request etc etc. but I am the only one in the group who was around before the project management team was formed so I still have all my old case load plus the new tasks. I don't think my manager realizes how much extra work I am doing in comparison to my team.
Also, I am just so damn tired today. UGH! Bitch. Bitch. Bitch. Whine. Moan.
@tarashea721 You're practically my cross-river neighbor! (but still two counties to the south)
My Monday bitch: the exterminator that visited us in August is coming back tomorrow. This has sapped my will to live. Refraining from burning this building to the ground. They start work on the walls on our new house this week, and then we can move the f*ck out of this dump. Can't come soon enough.
DH threw a party last night without consulting me. Seriously. He was making grilled pizzas for dinner, and my mom was coming over to visit. He decided to make extra crusts (to freeze for later, sure), and then 15 minutes before we were supposed to eat, he went around and invited all the neighbors and their kids to come over for dinner. Seriously?!
It was a madhouse in our backyard. Hosting 15 kids aged 2-10 is basically my idea of hell, and I sure as hell don't do it spur-the-moment... which of course is why he didn't ask before inviting everyone over. At least he did all the cooking and most of the cleaning up... but I was still pissed. And then a got a "sorrynotsorry" from him about it that evening, because I would have just said no if he'd asked.
My DH so graciously volunteered our home for their 10 year class reunion a few months back...didn't ask me about it! When I got upset he told me that I wouldn't need to do anything...sure.
Well, the party is this Friday, and now all of a sudden we have a list of things that need to be done before hand. So of course, when I reminded him that he said I wouldn't have to do anything for the party, he is all of a sudden super busy with work this week and will need my help.
I have been having SPD pain this past few weeks, along with tons of BH (have a hx of pre-term labor with DS)...I knew this was going to happen!
I'm going to see a counselor this afternoon as my OB thinks I'm showing signs of depression....
I've never seen a counselor before and to be honest I don't even want to get out of my pj's
Just lending support... I am seeing a counselor and she's wonderful (also dealing with prenatal depression/anxiety). I know it's hard, but hopefully it'll be helpful, and it's SO much better to start getting that stuff sorted out now, especially if you end up with PPD (not saying you will, but if you do).
We love our landlords and don't want them to lose out on a months rent while they show the place after we move. A family came to look at our house yesterday. 2 parents and 2 teenagers. Both of the dogs were in their kennels. Our big guy was a bit upset with people being in there, but we figured it was safer for everyone if he was in the kennel instead of on a leash.
Anyway, after telling them to please ignore Kody, one of the teenagers (about 17) tries to pet him through his kennel. He stuck his hand in there with a 150lb growling dog...and got bit. Big fucking surprise there.
They were kind about it, said everything was okay, and confirmed that their kid is an idiot.
This morning the dad calls me to request shot records (which is fine) and to let me know that they went to the ER and he'll be mailing me the bill.
The kids hand was bruised, but the skin wasn't broken...I don't quite understand the ER visit. And I'm a stubborn bitch and seriously considering telling them to fuck off.
I HATE people sometimes.
We babysat my niece (3mos) sister is law (12) and brother in law (8) this weekend from Friday at 3pm until Sunday at 11am. We switched with dh brother when we ran into him at church and he watched them for an hour so we could do our hospital tour. We get no thank you from in laws, no text, nothing-they took bro in law out to dinner to thank him for 1 hour. Wtf????
Got a notice that they would be replacing vent filters in my townhouse today in the morning. Its almost noon and no one has showed up, and I've been trying to hide our dog which is on the breed restriction list. Poor puppy has been cooped up all morning. Where the hell are you people!?
We love our landlords and don't want them to lose out on a months rent while they show the place after we move. A family came to look at our house yesterday. 2 parents and 2 teenagers. Both of the dogs were in their kennels. Our big guy was a bit upset with people being in there, but we figured it was safer for everyone if he was in the kennel instead of on a leash.
Anyway, after telling them to please ignore Kody, one of the teenagers (about 17) tries to pet him through his kennel. He stuck his hand in there with a 150lb growling dog...and got bit. Big fucking surprise there.
They were kind about it, said everything was okay, and confirmed that their kid is an idiot.
This morning the dad calls me to request shot records (which is fine) and to let me know that they went to the ER and he'll be mailing me the bill.
The kids hand was bruised, but the skin wasn't broken...I don't quite understand the ER visit. And I'm a stubborn bitch and seriously considering telling them to fuck off.
I HATE people sometimes.
What an idiot. I'm not a dog person, but this is just blatant stupidity. I can't believe they have the temerity to send you the bill.
We love our landlords and don't want them to lose out on a months rent while they show the place after we move. A family came to look at our house yesterday. 2 parents and 2 teenagers. Both of the dogs were in their kennels. Our big guy was a bit upset with people being in there, but we figured it was safer for everyone if he was in the kennel instead of on a leash. Anyway, after telling them to please ignore Kody, one of the teenagers (about 17) tries to pet him through his kennel. He stuck his hand in there with a 150lb growling dog...and got bit. Big fucking surprise there. They were kind about it, said everything was okay, and confirmed that their kid is an idiot. This morning the dad calls me to request shot records (which is fine) and to let me know that they went to the ER and he'll be mailing me the bill. The kids hand was bruised, but the skin wasn't broken...I don't quite understand the ER visit. And I'm a stubborn bitch and seriously considering telling them to fuck off. I HATE people sometimes.
I would fight paying the bill. Your dog was in his kennel and the dumb kid put his hand in there when the dog was clearly upset so I don't see how they could even come after you. And ER visits are not cheap! Shot records I understand but not expecting you to pay for their kid's lack of common sense.
Heels have become uncomfortable for me to wear so I bought a comfy pair if black flats this weekend. They're great except for the fact that it sounds like I have a whoopee cushion in my shoes when I walk. So I'm getting a lot of looks from people at work as I walk down the hallways today, like "look at the pregnant chick waddling down the halls, farting all the way".
I pulled a muscle over the weekend right below my right shoulder blade. It hurts so bad!! Tylenol is not cutting it. I've tried both heating pads and ice packs...the ice only helps a teeny tiny bit. I called my doctor and the nurse said to call my primary care physician since it isn't pregnancy related. I left a message but they take FOREVER to call back..I'm practically in tears!!
My 25 year old sister just emailed me. Our dad gave her $ to buy me stuff for the baby (stroller and whatever else I want) from him. My sister emailed me this morning and said she is taking $30 out of the $ from dad to pay to ship the stuff she's bought because it's going to cost $30. She said if I didn't like it she would return the stuff she bought. I never asked her to buy so much stuff...it just annoys me that she makes 2 times as much money as I do, doesn't have half the bills, and acts like she's poor. I appreciate that she bought things for LO...it's just annoying.
Went to dinner last night with DH, FIL, FIL's long time girlfriend, and DH's Grandparents. My FIL likes to joke with me about riding home our newborn on a motorcycle since motorcycles are a big deal in our family. He obviously is only saying it to get under my skin so I usually just laugh it off rather than engage. Last night, no joke, his GIRLFRIEND who has a habit of being obnoxious about giving advice, argued with me for about 10 minutes about how it isn't illegal to ride an infant on a motorycle! She grabbed my leg and told me to read the motorcycle handbook that the DMV has because it says nothing in there about allowing an INFANT TO RIDE A MOTORCYCLE. Is she nuts or what???
This reinforces my disdain for humanity.
What makes it worse... I seriously can't find a law that enforces a minimum age requirement as a passenger on a motorcycle. It must be some kind of loophole or something. Only the Child Safety Restraint law that requires all children under 8 (in VA) to be in child safety restraints. I'm guessing that would apply, right?? Obviously no one will ever be riding my child on a motorcycle but I still don't like being wrong.
@frankierokx hugs! and I'm so glad you're getting treatment, seeing a counselor/psychologist is so helpful. It has helped me tons over the years in different situations. Before I go, I always feel like my brain is a tangled ball of yarn, and after a few sessions, the yarn's still there, but it's unraveled and doesn't look like such a mess. Keep us posted.
Thank you @Ktrue85 I know I just need to go talk to her. I'm pretty nervous about it, but know I need to just suck it up. I have my priorities. It helps to know that I'm job hunting this Spring, so hopefully, I will be somewhere else next year.
After having a 4 week cold, I finally started to feel better. It came back over the weekend. Now today I can't stop blowing my nose and my eyes don't want to stay open. #-o
The worst! I've been sick since Friday Tylenol is useless and can't do anymore OJ due to excessive heartburn! There has to be a better way...
Oh man! It's too early for this already! But here I go.... DH told me Friday that work has asked him a third time to go to Germany again for two weeks in December. He keeps telling them no. I don't get it?! We both work for the same company and I waddle past the guy who keeps asking office everyday to use the bathroom and leave the building. Am I clearly not pregnant?! He has conversations with me at least once a week.
What do they need him to go for? It obviously sounds important!
He is a manufacturing engineer so when they purchase new equipment they send him and other engineers to make sure it's running correctly and that all the bugs are out before they put it on the snail boat to us. It's pretty important but seriously?! I'm due on dec 14th!
I feel like shit. I can't explain it better- I can't tell exactly what's wrong. But we are super busy at work right now (and will be for the next month) and I don't feel that I can take any time off. But I really don't want to be at work right now. I honestly don't know how I'll manage another 3 months of this.
My dog is throwing a hissy fit. It's like he's an only child who knows a baby is coming soon and he's saying "No! I don't want a little brother! Take him back (to the store where you got him from)!!!!!" Brat.
And DFs mother is SO negative about all the names we suggest. I know I know, "just don't tell her" and I've tried! DF insists on telling everyone to hear their opinion and I'm don't with it! That was the one way I wanted to nest since we can't set up a nursery yet (we are in the process of buying a house) and I haven't had a baby shower yet. So I don't even feel like this is real because I have nothing for the baby, no house or plans, and I can't even pick out a name bc DF can't keep his mouth shut/agree with me on ANYTHING.
Sorry for the long stupid vent. Y'all have alot worse problems than me so I'm sorry, good luck, and feel better everyone!!
I had an emotional breakdown the other day. I wanted so badly to be pregnant and to be able to have this experience... and I am just.so.tired. I didn't realize how hard it was going to be. I was crying and SO said "just think, in 10 weeks you will have our son in your arms." Then I started crying even more... because honestly, that scares the shit out of me as well.
I had to call in sick to work twice this week. Once because I was sick with a cold... and then again because I woke up with the worst vertigo of my life at 2am and couldn't get the room to stop spinning by the time my alarm went off to get up for work.
I guess my bitchfest is just that I am so tired. I love feeling my little one moving and kicking inside of me... and I don't want to sound ungrateful. but FUCK. 9 months is a LONG time.
ETA: wording
Oh, I SO get this. Being miserable does not diminish how much you want this baby, and being scared about having a newborn is, frankly, justified. But it is all worth it... eventually. Does that help? Probably not. Just saying I get where you are coming from!
Oh man, there is just too much bitch to make it just a fest, it would have to be a bitchathon that lasted a good solid 3 months. ETA: I mean this personally for myself and all the bitching I could do right now that I just don't feel like typing out.
my MBF is my sister is having more people over in her house tmw and we are crowded as it is ... i hope i have enough patience this week, i miss my home plus my BIL just charged me with 500 dollar rent which i wasnt expecting on spending and was planning to use on baby stuff, overlyannoyed
So after waiting since last November to get my review at work, I asked my boss again today when she thought we could talk about it. I was told that because the doctor I work for broke his foot that we wouldn't be getting any raises and I can't expect any review until I come back from maternity leave anyway. AND, since there are 3 of us pregnant right now at my office (a VERY small office, and the 3 pregnant girls pretty much run the whole office) That we need to try to not request any time off. Also, my boss won't be hiring anyone to help out while we are on maternity leave, and no one will be assisting me with my job (I am the only one who does billing). Also we get no pay on maternity leave, but she would appreciate it if we took the least amount of time possible off. Screw you office!!!!!
Re: Monday Morning Bitchfest
CP: 01/2011 | MMC: 01/2012 | MMC: 10/2012 | DS: 11/2013 | MMC: 11/2014 | DD: 01/2016
BFP: 06/2018 - EDD: 02/09/2019
@esf60 I feel your pain, my DH is the same way with his damn fantasy football. I've had a talk with him, you definitely need to also!
@sailortink, thinking of you too and keep us updated!
@mep923, I remember your story about all that with your sisters and dad for his birthday. So what have you guys decided? They should understand that you can't afford the trip. Your already sacrificing a lot for your own family with celebrations/birthdays, why don't they get it? I'm sorry, that's so frustrating.
My b*tchfest isn't too bad but to my family...would you please rsvp to my shower???? My sister keeps texting me that like no one has rsvp'd and it's Sunday. Soo frustrating! She has an email and phone number on there, just please respond! Also my MIL, we were at a bday party for our niece (DH side) and she would not stop with "what can I get you?" "do you want water?" "a cookie?" "are you feeling ok (every 5 min)" I wasn't complaining that I didn't feel good or anything and I was just sitting around like everyone else, please woman, lay off. I know she means well but this how it is every single time I see her. Blah.
Anyway, after telling them to please ignore Kody, one of the teenagers (about 17) tries to pet him through his kennel. He stuck his hand in there with a 150lb growling dog...and got bit. Big fucking surprise there.
They were kind about it, said everything was okay, and confirmed that their kid is an idiot.
This morning the dad calls me to request shot records (which is fine) and to let me know that they went to the ER and he'll be mailing me the bill.
The kids hand was bruised, but the skin wasn't broken...I don't quite understand the ER visit. And I'm a stubborn bitch and seriously considering telling them to fuck off.
I HATE people sometimes.
I am part of a new "project management" team and my boss is implementing all these new tasks: tracking data, formalizing request etc etc. but I am the only one in the group who was around before the project management team was formed so I still have all my old case load plus the new tasks. I don't think my manager realizes how much extra work I am doing in comparison to my team.
Also, I am just so damn tired today. UGH! Bitch. Bitch. Bitch. Whine. Moan.
k. thanks. I'm done.
Well, the party is this Friday, and now all of a sudden we have a list of things that need to be done before hand. So of course, when I reminded him that he said I wouldn't have to do anything for the party, he is all of a sudden super busy with work this week and will need my help.
I have been having SPD pain this past few weeks, along with tons of BH (have a hx of pre-term labor with DS)...I knew this was going to happen!
Wow, I would be so irritated by this.
My 25 year old sister just emailed me. Our dad gave her $ to buy me stuff for the baby (stroller and whatever else I want) from him. My sister emailed me this morning and said she is taking $30 out of the $ from dad to pay to ship the stuff she's bought because it's going to cost $30. She said if I didn't like it she would return the stuff she bought. I never asked her to buy so much stuff...it just annoys me that she makes 2 times as much money as I do, doesn't have half the bills, and acts like she's poor. I appreciate that she bought things for LO...it's just annoying.
What makes it worse... I seriously can't find a law that enforces a minimum age requirement as a passenger on a motorcycle. It must be some kind of loophole or something. Only the Child Safety Restraint law that requires all children under 8 (in VA) to be in child safety restraints. I'm guessing that would apply, right?? Obviously no one will ever be riding my child on a motorcycle but I still don't like being wrong.
He is a manufacturing engineer so when they purchase new equipment they send him and other engineers to make sure it's running correctly and that all the bugs are out before they put it on the snail boat to us. It's pretty important but seriously?! I'm due on dec 14th!
DS1 born 11/3/06 * DS2 born 3/29/08 * DD born 3/15/11
Scarlett Mae born 1/14/14 Our family is now complete!
And DFs mother is SO negative about all the names we suggest. I know I know, "just don't tell her" and I've tried! DF insists on telling everyone to hear their opinion and I'm don't with it! That was the one way I wanted to nest since we can't set up a nursery yet (we are in the process of buying a house) and I haven't had a baby shower yet. So I don't even feel like this is real because I have nothing for the baby, no house or plans, and I can't even pick out a name bc DF can't keep his mouth shut/agree with me on ANYTHING.
Sorry for the long stupid vent. Y'all have alot worse problems than me so I'm sorry, good luck, and feel better everyone!!
ETA: I mean this personally for myself and all the bitching I could do right now that I just don't feel like typing out.