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Just for fun... advice
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For MoMs with outside babies who survived the newborn months...
If you could go back in time and give yourself only one piece of advice for getting through those months, what would you say?
If you could go back in time and give yourself only one piece of advice for getting through those months, what would you say?
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Re: Just for fun... advice
Snuggle AS MUCH AS YOU CAN! So many times I was sitting on the couch pumping up a storm while my stepmom or husband was holding babies in post feed bliss. I wish I would have taken more advantage of those snuggles.
And find a schedule that works for you. Everyone says to get the girls on the same eating schedule. Well, it just didn't work for me. I found feeding twins at the same time way more stressful. So, it took a minute to trust myself but once I did, I was so much happier. Just find what works for you and go with it. I'm always jealous of tandem feeding mamas, but it just wasn't for me.
Along with the schedule and pressure thing- also know when to leave. We'll try going to park or store and sometimes it's great and sometimes everyone's screaming. If it gets stressful- just go home. Don't try to save face or force something. It's ok, there is plenty of time to go for long walks and play dates. But don't make it a negative thing or get upset when it doesn't work out. Go home and regroup and try again tomorrow. I see to many moms get upset because they had a whole planned out park date an the babies scream the whole time. It's hard enough when one is crying. Just take the pressure off of you to be Wonder Woman. I hope that makes sense!!!!
Good luck and enjoy those babies! Twins are really so special and cute!
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PPs have awesome advice! I will also echo the "don't put pressure on yourself" part....when it comes to schedules, milestones, bfing, whatever. You WILL figure out what works for you, and that might not be what works for someone else. Learn your own parenting style and be confident in it.
Relax and have fun. The more relaxed you are, the more relaxed the babies are.
Trust yourself. Find what works for you - schedule, how & what you're going to feed them, where they will sleep, etc. And go with it. And ignore anyone who tells you you are doing it wrong.
Oh and whether you go for a schedule or not, the one thing I think is a must is have a bedtime schedule and a routine. The babies do so much better when they know that a certain routine means it is time to go down for the night. For us, it's baby einstein video, bottles (they BF the rest), bath, music and bed.
Having the best time ever as mom to Max and Emma, born April 6, 2013!
NYer by birth, I now call Buenos Aires home.