Babies on the Brain
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needing some input
Mexasam
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i want another baby so bad but part of me is scared of having too much on my plate. my husband just got a new job and he will be gone ALOT!!!! Part of me just wants to get on with it but im also afraid of not getting the emotional support i need form my husband because of his new job but he will be in this new job for 2-3 years and i don't want to wait that long. my daughter will be 2 in May and she is already a handful. i have lots of friends and family that help me but it seems like when i need them most they are unavailable. i understand that babys just happen weather your ready or not, thats how my daughter came around, but this whole planing a baby busyness has got my mind running wild!!! so am i over thinking things or should we just go for it?!?!
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Re: needing some input
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September 2012: Start IF testing
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
April 2015: FET #2.1
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It isn't a race. if you are not ready you are not ready. If your plate is already full it is stupid to put more on it.
I was in a job where it was awful and I was incredibly stressful. I wanted a baby badly and wanted LO to have a sibling. But we waited. We waited until I was able to find a better job and am now not so stressed and miserable. NOW we are ready for a baby, LO is 3, he is ready for a sibling. And the timing is better all around. Had we rushed into something 1 - 1 1/2 years ago, I honestly don't know what would have happened, but it wouldn't have been good.
Cool your jets, get your life calmed down and the try for number 3
Also- DH got laid off while I was pregnant and got a job that took him out of town almost every week. When LO was born, he was home for 1 week, and then was gone every single week and was only home on the weekend. It sucked. It sucked so bad. He still travels a lot but it has calmed down a bit. There is no way in hell I would willingly have another baby if he was traveling as much as he was when LO was first born. No effing way.
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