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buggirl72 · September 2013

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This check-in is for Friday, September 27, 2013.
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Welcome to our new members MollySM and arob1998
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No BFPs this week
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This is a check-in designed for us that are AMA (35+) and dealing with that added challenge in our TTCAL journeys. Please feel free to share your insights, vents, thoughts, and anything else. Mostly this check-in is to remind all of us that we are not alone and to offer support to each other. Check in every Friday. New members: Post an introduction and your current TTC status and I will add you to the list! Welcome :-) Current members: Post your updates, link to your chart, upcoming appointments, prayer requests, and if you get a BFP, please feel free to post here (along with your EDD)
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Current Members:
Anitaflora

arob1998

Ashellypnut

ball.and.chain

buggirl72

clh4444

dragonfly711

Eliz77

gscoville

HeyMrsPotter

HoldingOutHope

katib77

kiki4

MollySm

MsAmandaPants

RN536

tuscanbride2007

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ashelleypnut - (((hugs))) How was your weekend with your family?

tuscanbride2007 - It looks like you had to move on to a medicated cycle? How are you doing on the femara? FX for some nice big follies at your monitoring appointment!

Pintobean39 - (((hugs))) how are you?

clh444 - ((((hugs)))) for CD2. How was Oktoberfest?

gscoville - Two weeks until your appointment! Any more news on what is going on with your H’s work schedule and if he is going to be sent out of town?

katib77 - I’m going to admit to being a poor stalking this week. How did your monitoring appointment go? And rereading your post from last week, I love snickerdoodles! I was going to make brownies today but I may have to switch plans and do a batch of snickerdoodles instead.

RN536 - How is your NTNP month going?

ball.and.chain - How are you doing? Did you end up looking into some yoga classes? Here are some (((hugs))) and I hope you are out of your funk.

MsAmandaPants - (((((((Hugs))))))))) and I hope you are feeling better.

HeyMrsPotter - Ugh! It looks like your body is being a bit of a pain! I hope this is just a delayed O cycle and not anovulatory.

MollySM - Looking at your previous chart, I’m goint to guess you are a couple days before O with the temp drop! FX for you.

Eliz77 - Nice temp rise! RedTwizzlers posted something the other day that O-2 and O-1 are statistically the two best days so yay for good timing!

arob1998 - Welcome to our check-in and I am sorry for your loss.

To anyone who missed last week’s check-in: how are you?

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Question of the Week: If you won the lottery what would you do? One of the things I would do is pay for one heck of GTG for all of us and our partners (I’m leaning towards Tahiti at the moment) so that one is covered

buggirl72 · September 2013

Update on me:

CD1 and I promise to be a better charter this cycle! With the move last cycle, I ended up not temping until CD14 and I O'd either CD14 or earlier. It ended up driving me nuts not knowing the exact date. DH and I have not talked about next steps. Donor eggs are not an option because of cost and we really do not have the money to do a medicated cycle at this time - and I don't think DH will ever handle the pressure of TI so spending $$ to make sure that I do ovulate only to have non-existent timing really is not worth it.

I can already see that the next 12 months is probably going to be me coming to terms that I will not have a BFP and I will not have a living child. Optimism is not the word of the day.

Non-TTCAL - I start work on Monday! I'm looking forward to being a productive member of this household again. I'm also going to either bake brownies today or snickerdoodles. Both sound awesome!

katib77 · September 2013

(((Hugs)) Bug. I know the times I've looked at "OK, what will life be like CFNBC" have been hard days, but in the end I always remember that DH & I love each other and we will survive no matter what. I think baking something tasty is a good plan.

As for me things are really rolling on this IVF. I have I have 14 follies at 12 or above (biggest currently 18.5mm). I'm thinking ER will be Monday or Tuesday but who knows. I'm now off work for the next 12 days and it couldn't come at a better time because I'm in need of yoga pants to feel comfortable and so tired. I also asked to be sure to have Oct. 16th off as that was my EDD and no matter what I'm sure it will be a hard day. My boss was very understanding and since I'm just in retail management they're easily able to work around that.

QOTW: I have so many things - pay off our infertility debt, give a grant to our town's festival that we've volunteered for years, start a scholarship at our H.S. and hit Vegas up gansta style with bottle service, high roller rooms and villa suite etc. And I'd totally be down for your Tahiti GTG!

buggirl72 · September 2013

katib77 said:

(((Hugs)) Bug. I know the times I've looked at "OK, what will life be like CFNBC" have been hard days, but in the end I always remember that DH & I love each other and we will survive no matter what. I think baking something tasty is a good plan.

As for me things are really rolling on this IVF. I have I have 14 follies at 12 or above (biggest currently 18.5mm). I'm thinking ER will be Monday or Tuesday but who knows. I'm now off work for the next 12 days and it couldn't come at a better time because I'm in need of yoga pants to feel comfortable and so tired. I also asked to be sure to have Oct. 16th off as that was my EDD and no matter what I'm sure it will be a hard day. My boss was very understanding and since I'm just in retail management they're easily able to work around that.

QOTW: I have so many things - pay off our infertility debt, give a grant to our town's festival that we've volunteered for years, start a scholarship at our H.S. and hit Vegas up gansta style with bottle service, high roller rooms and villa suite etc. And I'd totally be down for your Tahiti GTG!

Wow! Great response! I'm glad you are off and that your boss has been so understanding.

One of the big things I remind myself of is that I married my husband at a time when I had a pretty hardcore IF diagnosis - so we both went into this "knowing" I could not have kids. This process sucks but being with the person you love and you know has your back no matter what makes it bearable.

buggirl72 · September 2013

RN536 said:

Hi Bug. I know how hard it is to optimistic, pessimism is just easier but try to stay positive. Have you guys ever looked into adoption? Although I know how expensive that is too. You never know what can happen so I would say keep temping, try to start earlier in your cycle if you can and then go jump on DH!! At least you can have fun trying! I am CD15, got my positive OPK today. I know does not sound like we are NTNP this month! I guess I couldn't do it. We are just not going nuts with DTD every day during the FW. We will do it a few times and what ever happens, happens. We will see. QOTW: I would pay off my mortgage and credit card bills, give some to my family and then a vacation is definitely in order. I have always wanted to go to Hawaii. Oh and both DH and I would quit our jobs!!!

We have talked about adoption and DH's company actually has good benefits that help cover the cost so it is something we plan on looking into.

Your NTNP sounds like it went as well as mine ; ) Stepping away from that BBT (and OPKs) is just so hard!

HeyMrsPotter · September 2013

((Hugs)), Bug. I'm sorry today is so hard. Have a great first day at work next week.

HeyMrsPotter - Ugh! It looks like your body is being a bit of a pain! I hope this is just a delayed O cycle and not anovulatory.

Yes. I'm not as worked up about it as I was last week. At least for today, I am resigned to the fact that I just can't predict what will happen. I'm charting carefully, waiting for O or AF and trying to enjoy life in the meantime.

On a more positive note, this week DH got off the blood pressure med that was causing an ED side effect. He's already feeling more like himself in that regard, so maybe we'll have some FWOP (without purpose!) this weekend -- just because he can.

...It would figure, though. We get his body working better, and now mine won't O!

buggirl72 · September 2013

HeyMrsPotter said:

((Hugs)), Bug. I'm sorry today is so hard. Have a great first day at work next week.

HeyMrsPotter - Ugh! It looks like your body is being a bit of a pain! I hope this is just a delayed O cycle and not anovulatory.

Yes. I'm not as worked up about it as I was last week. At least for today, I am resigned to the fact that I just can't predict what will happen. I'm charting carefully, waiting for O or AF and trying to enjoy life in the meantime.

On a more positive note, this week DH got off the blood pressure med that was causing an ED side effect. He's already feeling more like himself in that regard, so maybe we'll have some FWOP (without purpose!) this weekend -- just because he can.

...It would figure, though. We get his body working better, and now mine won't O!

FWOPing is awesome! Maybe your body was just waiting for his to get back in order? Enjoy the weekend!

HeyMrsPotter · September 2013

katib77 said:

(((Hugs)) Bug. I know the times I've looked at "OK, what will life be like CFNBC" have been hard days, but in the end I always remember that DH & I love each other and we will survive no matter what. I think baking something tasty is a good plan.

As for me things are really rolling on this IVF. I have I have 14 follies at 12 or above (biggest currently 18.5mm). I'm thinking ER will be Monday or Tuesday but who knows. I'm now off work for the next 12 days and it couldn't come at a better time because I'm in need of yoga pants to feel comfortable and so tired. I also asked to be sure to have Oct. 16th off as that was my EDD and no matter what I'm sure it will be a hard day. My boss was very understanding and since I'm just in retail management they're easily able to work around that.

QOTW: I have so many things - pay off our infertility debt, give a grant to our town's festival that we've volunteered for years, start a scholarship at our H.S. and hit Vegas up gansta style with bottle service, high roller rooms and villa suite etc. And I'd totally be down for your Tahiti GTG!

GL for your ER next week! ((HUGS)) for your upcoming EDD. I'm glad you're taking some time off for yourself.

buggirl72 · September 2013

HoldingOutHope said:

(((hugs))) Buggirl!! I wish I had something really uplifting to say, but I'm sure you've heard it all. Knowing that you're with the right man and things will be OK no matter what is a wonderful thing at this time - not everyone could say that. Chin up, lady. You are loved!!
I missed the check-in last week after some fun times at the doctor. I'm fighting a freaking mold infection and am benched until I am cleared of that now. It's always something. I started OPKs and I hate them; will switch to cheapies on mlal's advice, as the stupid digital keeps giving me errors. I'm apparently having a long cycle as well, and even though we're TTA for now, that doesn't help my mood or optimism. I'm just one gigantic pity party today...haha!
QOTW: I can't WAIT for that GTG! Hope you win! If I won the lottery, the first thing I'd do is move all my family within driving distance. I'd definitely donate some $$ as well (though I'd have to do some pretty deep research to determine to which charities). I'd also like to take a sabbatical and do some pretty intense traveling. Ahhh, so nice to dream.

Oh no! I had a fungal infection that was in my lungs and the meds were pretty intense. I can only imagine what you are going through with a mold infection.

I agree about the cheapie OPKs. My RE actually recommended the Walgreen ones as the most reliable. I used them as well as my wondfos and got similar results. I like the wondfos better since they are individually packaged and are a bit cheaper.

buggirl72 · September 2013

RN536 said:

On a completely different note, anyone know how to remove the pic from my siggy? I went to avatar and erased it from my signature and then hit save but its still there???

You want to click on the little head in the upper right and select preferences. You can pick edit your signature from their and its pretty easy.

MsAmandaPants · September 2013

I have to post and run (again! *shakes fist at work*), but will circle back and connect with everyone else later.

My update: I've been really sick, but thankfully am starting to feel better (I just need to kick this bronchitis and sinus infection).

I am on CD 2. Even with the BP meds, I managed to psych myself up for the last cycle and really thought it was "it." Alas, no. I just got back from the RE. He wants me to do one more medicated IUI before we "need to have a serious talk." Serious talk = IVF. I'm not sure I'm ready to have that talk because how I feel about IVF swings in wildly different directions every day. I had my baseline this morning and had a AFC of 14. I'll start Femara tomorrow and then injectables. I have absolutely zero faith that it will work. I'm rotating between feeling numb, sad, angry, tired, and desperate at any given moment. Blerg.

In related news, my fiance is officially off the BP meds. My RE is downplaying the impact of calcium channel blockers saying there is no good research, but that he still wants him off of them. He thinks we should not wait, though. I also asked him about the HSG and he said they had a good enough indication via my sonohysterogram and that he didn't want to risk the radiation on my already fucked up ovaries and eggs (I might be paraphrasing). Some of his comments have me questioning if he knows WTF he is talking about, but I'm going with it. Whatever.

MollySm · September 2013

((hugs)) Bug. I'm sorry things are looking so bleak at the moment, but I agree with everyone that hopefully you can find some positive things to hold on to. And adoption is a wonderful way to build a family. We are hopeful that we can adopt in the future regardless of my ability to get pregnant again.

I just have a minute to post. My sister is in town (visiting San Diego all the way from Maine for a conference) and she leaves tomorrow, so we have having lots of quality sister time. She's my best friend, and we don't see each other nearly often enough.

I do seem to be getting close to O. I have tons of random pains, so I wake up each morning looking for a temp spike. Of course, that means I don't sleep as well, which is why I got an open circle this morning (I never slept a chunk that was longer than 3 hours). H is sick, so we are HIO, but I know it's exhausting him and I'd love to O sooner rather than later so he can have a break.

I hope everyone else is having a good week. I'll try and catch up on everyone tomorrow, but for now it's back to sister time!

Oh, and QOTW : I would pay off school debt for myself and my family. I'd invest a lot of it so I could help family members out over time, rather than all in one big chunk. And I'd take my H to Italy - he's never been and his family is Italian, so he'd love it. And I'd buy a house - we could use more space!

buggirl72 · September 2013

MsAmandaPants said:

I have to post and run (again! *shakes fist at work*), but will circle back and connect with everyone else later.

My update: I've been really sick, but thankfully am starting to feel better (I just need to kick this bronchitis and sinus infection).

I am on CD 2. Even with the BP meds, I managed to psych myself up for the last cycle and really thought it was "it." Alas, no. I just got back from the RE. He wants me to do one more medicated IUI before we "need to have a serious talk." Serious talk = IVF. I'm not sure I'm ready to have that talk because how I feel about IVF swings in wildly different directions every day. I had my baseline this morning and had a AFC of 14. I'll start Femara tomorrow and then injectables. I have absolutely zero faith that it will work. I'm rotating between feeling numb, sad, angry, tired, and desperate at any given moment. Blerg.

In related news, my fiance is officially off the BP meds. My RE is downplaying the impact of calcium channel blockers saying there is no good research, but that he still wants him off of them. He thinks we should not wait, though. I also asked him about the HSG and he said they had a good enough indication via my sonohysterogram and that he didn't want to risk the radiation on my already fucked up ovaries and eggs (I might be paraphrasing). Some of his comments have me questioning if he knows WTF he is talking about, but I'm going with it. Whatever.

I am glad you are starting to feel better but I am so, so sorry (((hugs))).

buggirl72 · September 2013

MollySm said:

((hugs)) Bug. I'm sorry things are looking so bleak at the moment, but I agree with everyone that hopefully you can find some positive things to hold on to. And adoption is a wonderful way to build a family. We are hopeful that we can adopt in the future regardless of my ability to get pregnant again.

I just have a minute to post. My sister is in town (visiting San Diego all the way from Maine for a conference) and she leaves tomorrow, so we have having lots of quality sister time. She's my best friend, and we don't see each other nearly often enough.

I do seem to be getting close to O. I have tons of random pains, so I wake up each morning looking for a temp spike. Of course, that means I don't sleep as well, which is why I got an open circle this morning (I never slept a chunk that was longer than 3 hours). H is sick, so we are HIO, but I know it's exhausting him and I'd love to O sooner rather than later so he can have a break.

I hope everyone else is having a good week. I'll try and catch up on everyone tomorrow, but for now it's back to sister time!

Oh, and QOTW : I would pay off school debt for myself and my family. I'd invest a lot of it so I could help family members out over time, rather than all in one big chunk. And I'd take my H to Italy - he's never been and his family is Italian, so he'd love it. And I'd buy a house - we could use more space!

Enjoy your visit with your sister!

gscoville · September 2013

((Hugs)) Buggirl! I know I'm not near where you are in the spectrum of TTC, but I often tell myself that same thing, I love my hubby very much and know that if we never do end up with a child, we'll be ok. Part of that also comes out of meeting and marrying so late and half expecting that things just might not happen anyways, but there it is. We love travelling and I think if we don't get anywhere TTC we'll likely focus more on that.

In the meantime, though, I'm getting more and more antsy for our OB appointment in too weeks. Both of us go, hubby was a bit surprised that they requested specifically that he come too, but I think he's rather pleased to be a part of things in some way. I rather suspect the OB will have something to say about my Estradiol levels, my GP said all looked fine but everything I've read points to high Estradiol suppressing other levels artificially, and 161 is pretty up there high, so I'm guessing that will come into play somehow.

It looks like hubby won't be out of town for work for now, although that could change anytime and they might be asking him to go...but he knows we're getting down to brass tacks with TTC and depending on what our next steps might be he'll have to be available and not out of town for weeks at a time, so he will stress that to his boss and make sure it happens. Weird way to look at it, but luckily his boss and his wife experienced fairly significant fertility issues for many years before finally getting their rainbow a couple of years ago, so some understanding and leeway with scheduling should be forthcoming.

If I won the lottery, we'd be buying a place in London and flying there first class, like immediately! We'd still maintain a house here, but would quite happily split our time between England and Canada.

clh4444 · September 2013

clh444 - ((((hugs)))) for CD2. How was Oktoberfest?

It was great, craft beer is exploding in our city and they had 55 different craft beers to sample. Of course, no way to sample them all but I had a very tasty Scottish ale from a new brewery near where I grew up.

I'm stressing after this last cycle as I am back to a very short LP. We just paid off the last round of fertility costs and the thought of going back into more debt is just overwhelming. Need to make some tough decisions.

buggirl72 · September 2013

gscoville said:

((Hugs)) Buggirl! I know I'm not near where you are in the spectrum of TTC, but I often tell myself that same thing, I love my hubby very much and know that if we never do end up with a child, we'll be ok. Part of that also comes out of meeting and marrying so late and half expecting that things just might not happen anyways, but there it is. We love travelling and I think if we don't get anywhere TTC we'll likely focus more on that.

In the meantime, though, I'm getting more and more antsy for our OB appointment in too weeks. Both of us go, hubby was a bit surprised that they requested specifically that he come too, but I think he's rather pleased to be a part of things in some way. I rather suspect the OB will have something to say about my Estradiol levels, my GP said all looked fine but everything I've read points to high Estradiol suppressing other levels artificially, and 161 is pretty up there high, so I'm guessing that will come into play somehow.

It looks like hubby won't be out of town for work for now, although that could change anytime and they might be asking him to go...but he knows we're getting down to brass tacks with TTC and depending on what our next steps might be he'll have to be available and not out of town for weeks at a time, so he will stress that to his boss and make sure it happens. Weird way to look at it, but luckily his boss and his wife experienced fairly significant fertility issues for many years before finally getting their rainbow a couple of years ago, so some understanding and leeway with scheduling should be forthcoming.

If I won the lottery, we'd be buying a place in London and flying there first class, like immediately! We'd still maintain a house here, but would quite happily split our time between England and Canada.

Before we got our BFP with Zachary, we had actually talked about a ten year plan that would have us be ex-pats (Rome). For the time being, that plan is out the window but we definitely want to travel more.

I'm glad your husband's boss is so understanding. It makes it a lot easier. And I'm glad he is looking forward to going with you. I liked having my husband at all TTC related appointments. It definitely made him more of a part of what was going on.

buggirl72 · September 2013

clh4444 said:

clh444 - ((((hugs)))) for CD2. How was Oktoberfest? It was great, craft beer is exploding in our city and they had 55 different craft beers to sample. Of course, no way to sample them all but I had a very tasty Scottish ale from a new brewery near where I grew up. I'm stressing after this last cycle as I am back to a very short LP. We just paid off the last round of fertility costs and the thought of going back into more debt is just overwhelming. Need to make some tough decisions.

I'm sorry. Are doing progesterone sups post O an option? That would be a little more affordable than a full medicated cycle.

I need to check to see if we have any beer tasting festivals going on. DH is the big beer drinker but we lost all of our favorite beers with the move because they were either a local or regional brewery that does not distribute here.

ball.and.chain · September 2013

Hi all! Sorry I'm late. Yesterday was super busy.

Yes, I did look into yoga...a bit. Since I've barely tried it, I wanted to start out with a free class at the gym I belong to, rather than paying for classes at a yoga studio. But there is an issue with my membership that is taking a while to iron out, so that's kind of annoying. It's also hard to fit yoga and PT (2h a week) and cardio (just the bike at the gym right now, since it is not too weight-bearing) into my schedule (I spend ~3h a day commuting). But it's definitely not off the table.

I started Lupron and progesterone yesterday -- officially in the suppression phase of my FET cycle. I'll stop estrogen and progesterone on Tuesday and should get a period next week. Then if all goes well at my suppression check, I'll probably be transferring the week of 10/21.

The funk seems to have subsided. I am pretty sure it was all anxiety-driven. I met with my therapist on Wednesday and she said it sounds like a manic defense. I've talked a lot about it this week with a couple of good friends (who are also AL/AMA/IF/LGBT ladies) and with my wife, and I feel like I'm in an OK place, considering. I also started the suppression section of my Circle + Bloom FET recordings yesterday, so that should help center me a bit.

OTOH, one of the things that is making me calmer is the new-found knowledge that it is OK to stop if I want to. I'm definitely reaching the tipping point where the appeal of a TTC-free life is getting stronger than the appeal of a child, and it's comforting to know I don't have to proceed if I don't want to. I doubt I will call it off before using all our embryos up, but giving myself permission to do so has been huge. Sounds like I am not the only one thinking about this stuff a lot these days! Big hugs, @buggirl72.

In non-TTCAL news, I went to work in two shoes yesterday (though I brought the walking boot along just in case)! I also bought a new car and got to drive it for the first time yesterday. Dinner with a good friend last night and waffles and laziness today, so it's shaping up to be an excellent weekend so far.

QOTD: Pay off student loans and the car I just bought, have our house re-wired (old house, old electrical), take a dream vacation.

@katib77 - Great response! Hope ER goes well -- keep us posted!

@HeyMrsPotter - Glad your H got off the meds. Hope it helps - enjoy the weekend!

@HoldingOutHope - How long do you expect the mold infection will bench you? Sounds like a drag. Hope it clears up soon.

@MsAmandaPants - Glad the illness seems to have subsided, but sad about CD2 for you. I was hopeful too. IVF can be a little scary but the odds are so much better than IUI, so who knows. I'm happy to chat about it anytime! Glad your fiance is off the meds and hoping it makes a difference for you.

buggirl72 · September 2013

ball.and.chain said:

Hi all! Sorry I'm late. Yesterday was super busy.

Yes, I did look into yoga...a bit. Since I've barely tried it, I wanted to start out with a free class at the gym I belong to, rather than paying for classes at a yoga studio. But there is an issue with my membership that is taking a while to iron out, so that's kind of annoying. It's also hard to fit yoga and PT (2h a week) and cardio (just the bike at the gym right now, since it is not too weight-bearing) into my schedule (I spend ~3h a day commuting). But it's definitely not off the table.

I started Lupron and progesterone yesterday -- officially in the suppression phase of my FET cycle. I'll stop estrogen and progesterone on Tuesday and should get a period next week. Then if all goes well at my suppression check, I'll probably be transferring the week of 10/21.

The funk seems to have subsided. I am pretty sure it was all anxiety-driven. I met with my therapist on Wednesday and she said it sounds like a manic defense. I've talked a lot about it this week with a couple of good friends (who are also AL/AMA/IF/LGBT ladies) and with my wife, and I feel like I'm in an OK place, considering. I also started the suppression section of my Circle + Bloom FET recordings yesterday, so that should help center me a bit.

OTOH, one of the things that is making me calmer is the new-found knowledge that it is OK to stop if I want to. I'm definitely reaching the tipping point where the appeal of a TTC-free life is getting stronger than the appeal of a child, and it's comforting to know I don't have to proceed if I don't want to. I doubt I will call it off before using all our embryos up, but giving myself permission to do so has been huge. Sounds like I am not the only one thinking about this stuff a lot these days! Big hugs, @buggirl72.

In non-TTCAL news, I went to work in two shoes yesterday (though I brought the walking boot along just in case)! I also bought a new car and got to drive it for the first time yesterday. Dinner with a good friend last night and waffles and laziness today, so it's shaping up to be an excellent weekend so far.

QOTD: Pay off student loans and the car I just bought, have our house re-wired (old house, old electrical), take a dream vacation.

@katib77 - Great response! Hope ER goes well -- keep us posted!

@HeyMrsPotter - Glad your H got off the meds. Hope it helps - enjoy the weekend!

@HoldingOutHope - How long do you expect the mold infection will bench you? Sounds like a drag. Hope it clears up soon.

@MsAmandaPants - Glad the illness seems to have subsided, but sad about CD2 for you. I was hopeful too. IVF can be a little scary but the odds are so much better than IUI, so who knows. I'm happy to chat about it anytime! Glad your fiance is off the meds and hoping it makes a difference for you.

So much good news in this post! Congrats on being out of the boot and the new car!

I'm glad you are feeling better and that is such a huge step to realize it is okay to stop. Being at peace and loving what you have is an awesome place to be.

HeyMrsPotter · September 2013

Thanks, @ball.and.chain. I'm keeping my FX crossed for a successful FET for you this next cycle. I'm so glad the clouds have lifted and you're emerging from that funk. Enjoy the new car and the boot-free life! Edited to fix missing word

Eliz77 · September 2013

This is the check in I anxiously wait for each week, and someone I haven't seen it til now!

Eliz77 - Nice temp rise! RedTwizzlers posted something the other day that O-2 and O-1 are statistically the two best days so yay for good timing!

Thank you! And I do know...I said this on another thread, but I think my issue is I had a plan on how I wanted things to go via DTD and when it didn't, I just panicked. I don't know why I am being so pessimistic. Just last night I told H when my next FW would be and that it is up to him to put forth the effort. I am just too tired.

Question of the Week: If you won the lottery what would you do? One of the things I would do is pay for one heck of GTG for all of us and our partners (I’m leaning towards Tahiti at the moment) so that one is covered

I will join you in Tahiti!!!

If I were to win, I would buy a 100 acre farm with a cute cottage on it. Then I'd build my dream facility for rehabbing, retiring and rescuing horses. Also a wing for broodmares and baby horses. And a couple homes for some of the guys I've gotten to know along the way that really care and take amazing care of the horses in their care.

@buggirl72 ((hugs))...I think I am approaching the same "shoes" as you. I don't want to think about DE and I know H would be stressed and unhappy with TI for medicated cycles-which is where I believe I am heading. I think our insurance does cover IUI, but I don't know how far they go. I've had these weird feelings lately that I will only have angel babies. It is a very sad thing to think about. I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Oh, and snickerdoodles!!

@katib77 pulling for you!!! Good luck and everything crossed over here!

@RN536 Really hoping this is a successful cycle for you! I tried to stay away from OPKs as well and caved.

@HeyMrsPotter Love your attitude! Hope this weekend and FWOP brings about tons of fun! Hopefully now that your H is back to himself, so will you!

@HoldingOutHope Sprry about the mold infection (?) but I think if you can order some wondfos, you'll find they aren't as stressful. Strange the digitals are giving you error readings-which brand are you using?

@MsAmandaPants So sorry you are questioning your Dr. That is frustrating. Hopefully this next cycle is the one and you don't need to think about IVF. Hope you feel better soon, too!

@MollySm Hope O comes soon!!!! Enjoy your sister time. I can related, my sister is my best friend and she lives 12 hours away. I miss her all the time!

@gscoville Good luck to you with your appointment and that you get some answers! Hopefully your H having a boss that has been through it makes things easier for him to get his needed time off and not be away.

@clh4444 ((hugs)) Sorry for the mounting financial stress. I hope you are able to come up with a plan that works for you.

@ball.and.chain Congrats on being in two shoes! And a new car to boot! Glad you are in a better place than you were last week. I hope all continues to improve from here.

HeyMrsPotter · September 2013

I'm sorry didn't offer much real support yesterday - the work day kept me from responding as thoroughly as I'd have liked.

@gscoville, we share your love of travel. If parenting is ultimately not in our future, we'd also likely look to live abroad at some point. Any reason why Rome isn't top of your list anymore?

I'm glad YH's boss is likely to be understanding about his need to be around during your upcoming cycles. (Of course, it's sad to hear when others have also had IF experiences, but it's nice to know there are people out there who can relate.)

@RN536, I like your FW plan of DTD a few times without turning it into an exhausting project. It sounds like a sane way to go -- something I hope to do next cycle as well. GL to you this cycle.

@buggirl72, I hope your day's a little brighter today. Did you end up baking yesterday? Brownies are excellent comfort food.

@HoldingOutHope, I'm so sorry about the mold infection. I'm sending positive thoughts your way and hopes that it won't extend your time on the bench much if at all.

@CLH444, I'm sorry about the shorter LP and the financial worries. It seems so unjust that the chances of being our able to become parents after a loss could hinge in part on the question of money. ((HUGS))

@MsAmandaPants, I'm sorry about AF. ((HUGS)). I'm glad your hubby was able to get off of the BP meds. And thank you again for sharing what you learned about Amlopodine a few weeks ago. I'm sorry you're feeling so discouraged right now. I hope your RE starts to make you feel a little more confident in what he's telling you. If not, will you consider/do you have the option to be treated by a different RE?

@MollySm, FX that your O comes soon and YH can get some rest to recover from being sick.

HeyMrsPotter · September 2013

@Eliz77, your cozy cottage and horse haven sound lovely. I'd gladly muck out stalls for the privilege of visiting! I really hope you get to fulfill your rescue/rehab/retirement dreams some day.

Sounds like you have good reason to be optimistic this cycle. FX for you. And if it should turn out this isn't your month, I hope YH will take the cue and be more proactive next FW. It sucks to feel like you're the only one focused on making this happen. ((HUGS))

buggirl72 · September 2013

@Eliz77 - I've come to realize that my DH just does not get FW and that we really are looking at just one day in the month that is perfect - and we really don't know what that day is until after it has passed. Hopefully, having your H take the reigns next cycle will take some stress off of you.

@HeyMrsPotter - I ended up making brownies but snickerdoodles are on the radar, probably next weekend.

ashellypnut · September 2013

Hey @buggirl72! I hope you are doing well my dear. Are you all settled in after your move? GL with work tomorrow! \:D/ BTW, what did you bake, the cookies or the brownies?!? I wanted to give you some (((hugs))) after reading about your current status. That must be a tough place to be in and I wish I could take your pain away and give you happiness. >:D< You are an amazing person and deserve the best life has to offer. I will pray that your talks with DH leave you both with some peace. Xoxo @katib77 GL with your IVF and enjoy your time off. Btw, I'd totes join you in Vegas!!! @RN536 GL this cycle and yay for O! Btw, how's your mom doing? And I would do everything you said you would do if we won! @HeyMrsPotter I hate those tricky Os. Such a pain in the ass. Hang in there. Yay for DHs progress with his meds!! My DH has ED issues (not related to his BP meds though) so I know how frustrating it can be. =D> @HoldingOutHope GL with the infection and definitely get OPKs like wondfos. @MsAmandaPants I'm happy to hear that you're feeling better love. GL with this cycle Hun. Damn girl you and DH have been through some shit! @MollySm hope you had a great visit with your sister. I wish I had that relationship with mine

@gscoville GL with your upcoming appt. I hope things work out with timing. @clh4444 sorry to hear about your short LP and I'm sorry that you're dealing with this

@ball.and.chain GL dear. You've got a lot going on. As for me: ashelleypnut - (((hugs))) How was your weekend with your family? Weekend was great. Love to get away from it all. Her busy house is a nice distraction. Anyway, we are HIO EOD and FX. Love you girls!! Question of the Week: If you won the lottery what would you do? All of the above ladies! Love your ideas!!!

ashellypnut · October 2013

RN536 said:

@ashellypnut So sorry I just saw your question to me now. I didn't see the notification to today, have not been on here too much the last few days. Thanks so much for asking about my mom. She is doing ok. Just finished her 4th cycle of chemo so she is halfway through the chemo now. After that starts radiation. She is having some colostomy issues which she is too stubborn to go see an ostomy nurse about. argh!! She did talk to them on the phone though and they talked her through some problem solving tips so hopefully one of them works. Thanks for asking and FX for you!

I've been thinking about you and her. I'm happy she's making progress with her treatment. My grandfather has prostate and bladder cancer. He's recently had chemo & radiation and has a colostomy bag as well. It's a challenge for him getting used to his "new" life. My heart goes out to your mom because I know how stressful and upsetting these things can be. You'll all be in my thoughts and prayers. Xoxo

arob1998 · October 2013

Hi, all! I'm not quite doing this "right" as it's "off cycle" and not Friday (but when have my cycles ever been right? Hahaha...PCOS pun...). I was in California for a family medicine conference last week (while ovulating, without hubby...grrr... ), and I learned a lot. It's great to be around so many like minded people who love their jobs and share similar challenges.
One of my DH's best college friends whom I have come to know and adore also was struggling with repeat miscarriage. She was about at the point of giving up, but called Rob yesterday to share that she is 6 months along! She is 44 or 45, which gives me hope. I am happy for them but hope her story does not become my story and that we are successful earlier.
Today was a job interview for my dream practice and they asked me what is a work in progress in my life...I didn't think it appropriate to share that my biggest project is trying to make a baby. I am hopeful about this position!

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