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mommy2aaron2012mommy2aaron2012 member
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my son is 18 months old now and i'm having baby fever like crazy! smh my hubby is too. we have not been trying its just something we discuss. maybe i should just get a puppy? lol i dont know if its hormones or nature or what but everytime i see anything baby related i just about fall over with oohs and aaas and i remember when my son was that small. i love my son! he is amazing he amazes me everyday and i dont want to take anything away from him. is it too soon?
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  • mommy2aaron2012mommy2aaron2012 member
    edited September 2013
    you really did not have to go there. thanks for sending me into a anxiety attack
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  • mommy2aaron2012mommy2aaron2012 member
    there is no abusive situation
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    car seat said:
    Is your 'hubby' still choking you and throwing you down? 

    mommy2aaron2012 said:
    you really did not have to go there. thanks for sending me into a anxiety attack

    mommy2aaron2012 said:
    there is no abusive situation
    If she "went there" to the point of giving you an anxiety attack, there is obviously some sort of a situation.  Babies don't fix problems, they stress problems that are already there.  I'd get whatever she's referencing well under control before you even come close to planning on TTC.  
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  • mommy2aaron2012mommy2aaron2012 member
    everything is fine, there is no abuse, did my post say anything about babies fixing anything. leave me be
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    Sorry, but your boyfriend choking you and throwing you down because you're blocking the doorway after a huge explosive fight is abuse.  

    I mean this sincerely, I'd find a good therapist for yourself and a couples therapist for you and your boyfriend before you even think about having another kid.  Your PPD took a toll on you, from the sounds of it and things aren't healthy at home.  
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  • mommy2aaron2012mommy2aaron2012 member
    the situation that person was talking about was waay out of context i shouldnt have posted it while still upset. i know what abuse is. i was having severe panic and anxiety attacks at that time and i was out of control. i am much better now and we dont fight (aside from normal arguments) my hubby didnt know how to deal with my anxiety attacks and the only way for him to calm me down was when he would have to physically restrain me. i am no longer like that he and i have gotten help and we know my warning signs. which is why i suggested getting a pup bc i dont want to go through PPD again smh i just post to get my thoughts out, and i will no longer do that
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    And I can read your post here, you don't need to PM it to me too.  But ditto ^^. 
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  • mommy2aaron2012mommy2aaron2012 member
    now i'm upset with myself for even posting anything here
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  • Ladybug622Ladybug622 member
    Seriously, if that was happening two months ago give it at least another year before you TTC. See where your relationship is then. Wether or not the post was taken out of context that is not safe. What if he did that to your son to "try to calm him down," would it be abuse then? Baby fever or no, maybe you should give it some time.
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  • NerdyLucyNerdyLucy member
    BallSox said:
    Sorry, but your boyfriend choking you and throwing you down because you're blocking the doorway after a huge explosive fight is abuse.  

    I mean this sincerely, I'd find a good therapist for yourself and a couples therapist for you and your boyfriend before you even think about having another kid.  Your PPD took a toll on you, from the sounds of it and things aren't healthy at home.  

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    PPs aren't saying this stuff to be mean.  You need to make your home situation as healthy as possible for your child and any potential child you may have.


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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    hercules03 said:
    Is it your boyfriend or your husband? Or do you have one of both?
    Each time the story is told it seems to change.  This summer it was live-in, useless (in her words) boyfriend/SAHD.  
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  • PB&J714PB&J714 member
    hercules03 said:
    Is it your boyfriend or your husband? Or do you have one of both?

    I was thinking the same thing!!
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    BallSox said:


    hercules03 said:

    Is it your boyfriend or your husband? Or do you have one of both?

    Each time the story is told it seems to change.  This summer it was live-in, useless (in her words) boyfriend/SAHD.  

    I think she just wanted to sound more "mature" and ready for another by elevating him to husband status, but I'm betting he's still that same useless bf. Besides, by being married we wouldn't have anything but encouragement for her right?
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  • bugandbibsbugandbibs member
    I don't even know where to begin.

    OP, you need to spend some time working on yourself and your relationship. Adding another stressor like a child (or even a puppy) is a bad idea.
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  • luvmybundleluvmybundle member
    i dont think you and our bf/hubby/baby daddy need another child right now. regardless of how you both have baby fever. concentrate that energy into working on yourself and your relationship and being the best parents you can be to the little one you already have.  he'd appreciate that a lot more than a little brother/sister right now.
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    NerdyLucy said:


    BallSox said:

    Sorry, but your boyfriend choking you and throwing you down because you're blocking the doorway after a huge explosive fight is abuse.  

    I mean this sincerely, I'd find a good therapist for yourself and a couples therapist for you and your boyfriend before you even think about having another kid.  Your PPD took a toll on you, from the sounds of it and things aren't healthy at home.  

    This. 

     

    PPs aren't saying this stuff to be mean.  You need to make your home situation as healthy as possible for your child and any potential child you may have.

    Counseling. And if you can't decide if you want a baby or a dog then you clearly don't know what you want ..they are SO different.. even if your relationship was perfect I wouldn't recommend a baby because it seems like you just want something "new" and "cute"
    Seriously not trying to be rude but seriously consider what everyone is saying.

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