Why do we have to wait!!!

seannasmommy16 · September 2013

DH and I are waiting till I'm 15 weeks to announce the pregancy to our friends. I'm dying!! I just want to tell all if them!! Anyone else waiting as long as me to announce?

GeorgiaWife12 · September 2013

Aside from family and a few close friends, we haven't announced either. Mine is job related because I have a safety sensitive job, there is a very high chance that once my boss finds out I will have to take a leave of absence until the baby is born and we can't afford that. So, the less people that know, the less chance of my boss finding out until it's obvious. (A couple people at work do know so that they can do the few things that I can't because of the pregnancy and they don't mind at all.)

ETA: Yes, it sucks! I just want to be able to go public with my happy news!

Linnea503 · September 2013

We've only told family and a few friends. Now that I'm starting to show more people will know. I just don't feel like I'm in a rush.

Why is 15 weeks the magic number for you? Tell if you want to!

katieharpiceland · September 2013

I'm not denying it now if people ask. I also don't really plan on a facebook announcement. The people i want to know, will know. Eventually some pictures of me with a bump will show up on facebook. Hehe,DH and I don't even have relationship statuses. Though, we have wedding pictures up. :-)

baylorlinda · September 2013

We also don't plan on a Facebook announcement. People who I see most often will be able to tell once I start showing. This is something we want to keep to ourself and our families as long as we can.

bingbongsmama · September 2013

I want to announce the gender at the same time as the pregnancy, so I'm waiting

lilmama412 · September 2013

ColleenSwerb said:

If you want to tell, then tell. I don't know why people make such a huge deal out of hiding it (prior losses being an exception).

Couldn't agree more. There is such a stigma that you can't tell during your first trimester. The only reason some people don't tell is because they wouldn't want to have to "untell" if something were to happen. I would want that support from my family and friends if I was going through such an emotional time. If you want to tell people then tell. You don't HAVE to wait.

thomas930 · September 2013

We told everyone at 9 weeks. If you want to tell, tell.

ohbaby4 · September 2013

We have only told close friends and family. Sometimes I feel like I just want to tell everyone so bad, but then sometimes I think of my previous losses and get so nervous to tell. I just don't want people to be excited for me until I'm absolutely certain that this baby is sticking around. I don't know when I'll feel that way though. Is there a reason why you're waiting until 15 weeks?

WifeofaComposer · September 2013

I had only told my parents and one of my close friends, because I wanted to wait a little while. Last week, I told my boss, only because I had an appointment and couldn't find anyone to cover my shift. She is so excited for us, and now she's telling everyone at work... I'm okay with it because I love the people I work with and they're all being very supportive. And, my husband just admitted to me yesterday that he made an announcement to his employees when he went back to work after our NT scan the other day. Now that he is telling everyone, I'll start telling everyone, but we're waiting to make it a Facebook announcement for a few days, because jap618 is one of my best friends and I don't want it to be hurtful to her after her recent loss. I want to give her time to heal before posting details on Facebook for the world to see.

NJPita22 · September 2013

I've had a prior loss and until I passed my loss date I refused to let anyone know. Then I told family and now I'm 10w 4days have heard and seen the heartbeat. Saw my little peanut moving around yesterday and just can't contain it anymore and am telling because I want to. We aren't making it Facebook official or telling people were not close to until we go visit DH's kids in another state and tell them in person in 2 weeks.

VABride2008 · September 2013

All of our close family and friends knew at like 5 weeks. I would need their support if something went wrong. We told extended friends/Facebook at 12 weeks. You don't have to wait for anything. I know people who have announced on Facebook at 6 weeks. It's your prerogative, there's no actual rule to having to wait.

BeckyF82 · September 2013

I told our families at 9 weeks although we aren't telling the rest of the world until 12 weeks. I agree with a previous poster that there seems to be this weird stigma about telling "early". When I told my sister I was only 9 weeks she was like "why the hell are you telling us then?".. Er so you can be happy for us, and support us and understand why I'm sick all the time? Since then she has refused to talk about the baby at all with me because its "bad luck" and she sent me this really angry text message when she found out that me and my Hubbie had treated ourselves to one pair of baby socks to make it all seem a bit more real. She said I was jinxing the pregnancy which made me really angry. I was like, "if we are unlucky and we DO have a miscarriage are you seriously going to turn around and say it was my fault for telling someone about the baby and buying some socks? Unless you are a)medically ignorant and b) a total bitch, no. I say it's ok for me to tell anyone who I also wouldn't mind knowing if god forbid I have a miscarriage.

kateleestar · September 2013

We aren't telling people till Halloween, which I'll be like... 16 w or something by then, so... I totally understand.

Sisimama10 · September 2013

ColleenSwerb said:
@BeckyF82 - Your sister is an asshole.

This just made me spit my lemonade out laughing.

Sisimama10 · September 2013

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dani+california said:
Bah! I'm in the same boat, maybe some of you ladies can chime in and give me your thoughts.

I had a dating US at 6w 6d that showed everything was normal, and nothing since then. I'm having another US on October 7th (10 days from today...and counting) for my genetic screening. I am DYING to tell everyone at 12 weeks which is only 5 days from today.

I know it's not much longer to wait it out to be safe-my concern is that at the US they'll find something terrible has happened and I'll have to 'untell' everyone. Did those of you who have announced it wait until some kind of confirmation/US or did you announce right at 12 weeks?

Before you say 'it's just an extra 5 days!', yes I know I'm being silly. I'm just incredibly impatient and excited.

I don't think you will be any safer to tell now than in five days at 12 weeks. If you want to wait til your next ultrasound to be certain baby is still okay then that would make more sense, but if you're not going to the dr between now and 5 days from now I think it's all the same. There's no magic number of weeks in which it becomes totally safe. I told all my family and super close friends right away bc I would be comfortable telling them I miscarried if for some reason I did. I haven't done a tell the world facebook announce yet and don't really think I will.

TheatreStar86 · September 2013

Sisimama10 said:

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Bah! I'm in the same boat, maybe some of you ladies can chime in and give me your thoughts. I had a dating US at 6w 6d that showed everything was normal, and nothing since then. I'm having another US on October 7th (10 days from today...and counting) for my genetic screening. I am DYING to tell everyone at 12 weeks which is only 5 days from today. I know it's not much longer to wait it out to be safe-my concern is that at the US they'll find something terrible has happened and I'll have to 'untell' everyone. Did those of you who have announced it wait until some kind of confirmation/US or did you announce right at 12 weeks? Before you say 'it's just an extra 5 days!', yes I know I'm being silly. I'm just incredibly impatient and excited.
I don't think you will be any safer to tell now than in five days at 12 weeks. If you want to wait til your next ultrasound to be certain baby is still okay then that would make more sense, but if you're not going to the dr between now and 5 days from now I think it's all the same. There's no magic number of weeks in which it becomes totally safe. I told all my family and super close friends right away bc I would be comfortable telling them I miscarried if for some reason I did. I haven't done a tell the world facebook announce yet and don't really think I will.

This response is great. And is the logical part in my brain right now. However, I'm waiting to tell the world until just one more appointment that I have next week. This is more for my own peace of mind than anything else. Since I'm PgAL, I'm just a little irrationally worried. I have told a few more people since my last appt at 10 wks, but I just feel slightly better to tell more after my next appt. It's totally fine for you to wait til the 7th if you like.

Sisimama10 · September 2013

I totally understand waiting for another appointment or ultrasound to share the news! I just meant there is no difference between sharing now or a couple days from now when she hits 12 weeks if she doesn't have an appointment or anything in between now and then.

ZebNMichelle · September 2013

13 weeks here

janice9821 · September 2013

I've told family and a couple close friends. My boss knows, but I'm not telling my coworkers until I have to start worrying that they'll notice. I just got a promotion and I'm getting the feeling that accepting the job while pregnant might not be viewed well by some people. I want to really prove that I can handle the position before I let the cat out of the bag.

Mustardseed2007 · September 2013

I'm waiting until 16 wks or as long as I can get away with it/which ever comes first. My loss was at 15 weeks so that's why. It's not going to be safer and I may not even FEEL better at that point, but I guess at some point I can't even hide it. At the moment personally don't get joy out of telling anyone b/c of the follow up "I hope it goes better this time" comment that is either unspoken or even, more than once now, actually spoken.

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