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TTC After a Loss
luciddreamer106
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AW: I came out to my friends!
luciddreamer106
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I just want to share this and hope it gives others courage, too.
So, our very close group of friends know about my miscarriages and difficulty that we've been having. We see them often and it would have been difficult (and unnecessary) to hid what's been going on with us. I have another group of 3 girlfriends that I haven't seen in over a year. Their husbands are friends with MH and we've been spread out over the country. We periodically send group messages to see how everyone is doing and I previously decided to not share about the pregnancy or m/c. I don't know why I held back, they're not insensitive (social worker, cardiac rehab, and getting Masters in School Psych), they're not really going to gossip about it, and they're pretty wonderful women. I guess I was just scared and didn't want to feel vulnerable to them, even though we rarely get to see each other.
Well, I finally broke down and told them that I was starting fertility meds, that we've been trying for quite awhile, had 2 miscarriages, and had surgery on my ute. Phew, what a relief! I was so nervous and sweaty to finally hit send, but I did it! And, of course, the responses were very kind and very similar to the words we say to each other here. It made me cry reading the messages and I realize that being open about your struggles is ok. We might get some insensitive comments, but we shouldn't have to feel like we're alone and can't talk about it. Now, I'm crying while typing this because it feels so freeing to open up.
**Pregnancy/baby mentioned**
What set me off is that of the three of them, one is pregnant, one has a 9 month old, and the third just announced that they might be starting TTC. In every group of messages, we always talk about the pregnancy and the baby and it's hard sometimes to read even though I'm happy for them. I knew that I would freak out if the one who just announced TTC got KU right away. I knew I just had to tell them what was going on.
**End**
So, our very close group of friends know about my miscarriages and difficulty that we've been having. We see them often and it would have been difficult (and unnecessary) to hid what's been going on with us. I have another group of 3 girlfriends that I haven't seen in over a year. Their husbands are friends with MH and we've been spread out over the country. We periodically send group messages to see how everyone is doing and I previously decided to not share about the pregnancy or m/c. I don't know why I held back, they're not insensitive (social worker, cardiac rehab, and getting Masters in School Psych), they're not really going to gossip about it, and they're pretty wonderful women. I guess I was just scared and didn't want to feel vulnerable to them, even though we rarely get to see each other.
Well, I finally broke down and told them that I was starting fertility meds, that we've been trying for quite awhile, had 2 miscarriages, and had surgery on my ute. Phew, what a relief! I was so nervous and sweaty to finally hit send, but I did it! And, of course, the responses were very kind and very similar to the words we say to each other here. It made me cry reading the messages and I realize that being open about your struggles is ok. We might get some insensitive comments, but we shouldn't have to feel like we're alone and can't talk about it. Now, I'm crying while typing this because it feels so freeing to open up.
**Pregnancy/baby mentioned**
What set me off is that of the three of them, one is pregnant, one has a 9 month old, and the third just announced that they might be starting TTC. In every group of messages, we always talk about the pregnancy and the baby and it's hard sometimes to read even though I'm happy for them. I knew that I would freak out if the one who just announced TTC got KU right away. I knew I just had to tell them what was going on.
**End**
TTC #1 since March 2011
BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs
3/14: IUI#1 letrozole/Bravelle/Menopur + trigger = BFN
BFP #3: EDD 1/27/15 Please be our rainbow! ...Team Green
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Re: AW: I came out to my friends!
BFP 1/23/13; US 1/28/13 Perfect Peanut @ 7w! So in love!; 2/23/13 Peanut Says Goodbye; 2/24/13 Natural MC at 11w
BFP #2: 10/5/2013; EDD 6/11/2014
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BFP #1 ended in MMC. Discovered Oct 2005 @10w5d, baby stopped growing around 6w. D&C.
BFP#2 Nov 2005. Baby's heart stopped @ 8w3d. D&C Jan 2006. Trisomy 18
BFP#3 Nov 2006. My "miracle baby" DD born 7/25/07
BFP #4 11/6/12. EDD 7/16/13~my birthday! No sac found @ 5w1d, betas not increasing. Natural m/c started 11/20/12.
BFP#5 11/9/13. EDD 7/21/14 Our beautiful rainbow born on his due date!!
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
I'm so glad you were able to share with your friends, and you received immediate support in return. Proud of you!
BFP #1 - 7/24/2013 (EDD: 3/31/2014) - mmc 8/12/13 - D&C 8/15/2013
BFP #2 - 3/6/2014 (EDD 11/14/2014) - Beta #1 (17dpo): 1400 - Beta #2 (19dpo): 3170
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BFP#1 4/17/2013 EDD 12/25/2013, MC 5/17/2013 8 weeks 3 days D&C 5/18/2013
BFP#2 1/20/2014 EDD 9/28/2014, Baby Evie born on 9/23/2014 at 8:50pm. 6 lbs 15 oz!
(discovered @ 11 weeks. Poppy measured 7 weeks)
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BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be our R A I N B O W take home baby BOY
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BFP #1: April 5, 2013; EDD December 11, 2013; Missed M/C May 15, 2013
BFP #2: February 17, 2014; EDD October 30, 2014; M/C March 15, 2014
BFP #3: August 1, 2014; EDD April 14, 2015 - Praying for our RAINBOW!
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DD#1- Sweet Pea ~ Born on her Due Date 3/1/2007
DD#2- Pumpkin ~ Due 9/29/2010 Arrived 10/1/2010
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~BFP: 3/15/2014 EDD: 11/24/2014 CP 4 weeks 4 days ~
~BFP: 7/2/2014 EDD: 3/15/2015 CP 4 weeks ~
~BFP: 8/31/2014 EDD: 5/10/2015
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BFP #1 : 3/20/13 | EDD: 12/1/13 | MC: 4/15/13
BFP #2: 1/9/14 | EDD: 9/21/14
Welcomed our rainbow bear on 8/31/14
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TTC since April 2012
BFP #1, 10/03/2012 - EDD 6/15/2013 - MMC 11/15/2012 - D&C 01/04/2013
BFP #2, 04/06/2013 - EDD 12/17/2013 - MC 04/19/2013
6/12/2013 Diagnosed with Balanced Translocation (12 & 16)
IVF #1 with PGS: 10/2013: Canceled 9/27/2013 for issues with genetic lab
IVF #1.5 with PGS: 11/16/2013: Canceled. 11 eggs retrieved, 9 mature & 9 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #2: 1/22/14: Canceled. 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 7 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #3 with PGS: 5/10/2014: Switched to FET in July. 10 eggs retrieved, 9 mature, 8 fertilized, 2 healthy embryos!
FET #1: 7/31/2014: Transferred 2 nearly perfect (6AA, 6BA) healthy embryos- BFFN
Laproscopy: 10/2014: Healthy uterus
IVF #4: 12/8/2014: Canceled. 17 eggs retrieved, 15 mature, 10 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
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TTC Journey Began 8/12
BFP #1 11/9/12, MMC/D&C 12/21/12 @ 9w2d, EDD 7/24/13
SAs: 2%-3% Morph - RE Official Diagnosis Unexplained
BFN = IUI #1 (Clomid) | IUI #2 (Letrozole)
BFP #2 4/19/14 = IUI #3 (Letrozole)
Expecting Our Elf 12/27/14
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BFP#1 9/9/12 -- EDD 5/14/13 -- MMC 10/10/12 Miso 10/19/12
BFP #2 9/17/13 -- EDD 5/25/14-- CP confirmed 9/21/13
BFP #3 2/1/14 -- EDD 10/5/14 -- NMC 2/10/14
Dx: low progesterone & mild hypothyroidism
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TTC #1 since Sept 2011
BFP#1 1/31/12. Empty sac discovered 3/5/12. MTX due to location in uterine horn.
BFP#2 2/27/13. Empty sac confirmed 3/20/13. Mifepristone + Cytotec.
Operative hysteroscopy to remove septum 9/18/13.
BFP #3 12/24/13. Natural m/c 1/17/14.
BFP #4 3/20/14. Natural m/c 4/3/14.
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DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
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BFP #1 1/29/13, EDD 10/9/13
BFP #3 8/11/14 EDD 4/22/14