I'll go out on a limb and guess I'm not alone in this, but I get so disgustingly jealous of every pregnant woman I see, and I am appalled at myself. Their fertility is in no way affecting mine, people have babies EVERY DAY. But it still hits me like a slap in the face. I can be in the greatest mood, having fun with my girls, then pregnant lady walks by and bam! Reminder that I am not pregnant. And may never be pregnant for all I know. I wish I didn't want 3 (4 actually) kids. I know I'm incredibly lucky to have my DDs, so why can't that be enough?! Sorry, turned into a lot of rambling! Feel free to ramble back
Two DDs 10/08 and 08/10, no primary IF
TTC #3 since 10/2011 - dx unexplained/weak ovulation
3 BFN clomid + TI cycles, 5 BFN clomid/gonal f IUIs, 1 mmc IUI
2/19/2014 IVF #1 Unexpected low E2 (oversuppressed) -> increased to max doses = 3 or 4 follicles, converting to IUI
BFFP Saw 1 beautiful heartbeat at 6w6d, follow up u/s at 9w showed mmc. Eff this.
NTNP 5/2014-9/2014, OPKs and TI 10/2014 - 1/2015.
RPL testing all normal, AFC, AMH, and FSH all normal.
I get this way too, and I know what you mean about feeling upset with yourself for those feelings. It's so hard. The worst for me is seeing someone with a toddler DS's age or younger who also has a baby. Or being lapped by friends. Ugh. And I don't think it in any way means that you don't appreciate what you do have. I love my DS, but I always pictured having 3 kids, and we're struggling just to have 2.
There's my rambling answer back at you. It's just hard.
Definitely not alone! I also have to keep reminding myself their fertility doesn't affect mine, but I can't help but think why them and not me. @roughkat, I also find it harder when it is someone with a toddler or young child already (anyone notice these people are everywhere at the fall festivals??). That would have been us if we didn't have 2IF. Same with being lapped. I can think of at least 6 friends/acquaintances who had #1 after us and who either have #2 already or who are pregnant. And some with 2 are talking about #3, while others are talking about getting rid of baby stuff since they are done. It is hard to stay positive.
DS born Jan 2010
TTC#2 since Nov 2010 with breaks for DH cancer tx (remission!)
This is exactly why I've temporarily quit Facebook. I haven't checked my newsfeed in almost 2 weeks. Too many babies, pg ladies, announcements, etc
In Walmart last week, I kept running into this pregnant lady and I was so annoyed! I overheard her telling her friend she was getting her c/s in the morning and I literally rolled my eyes as I walked away, and said "blah blah blah." DH was like "what are you talking about?" I couldn't help myself!
I've been lucky lately. There is a major lull in my friends' family growth, mostly because everyone just had a baby. I'm gearing up for the new round of announcements that is bound to come over the next several months. I hope I take it well.
:-/ This feeling is the worst... Right after we had our current MC 7 of my closest friends and family announced their pregnancies. I lost a lot of sleep over it, and my mascara ruined a lot of my husbands shirts. It hasn't gotten any easier for me, with each milestone they reach in their pregnancies, Im reminded of where I would have been in mine. I hope the edge comes off soon, and you are able to work through these feelings girl... Sending big hugs your way!!
:-/ This feeling is the worst... Right after we had our current MC 7 of my closest friends and family announced their pregnancies. I lost a lot of sleep over it, and my mascara ruined a lot of my husbands shirts. It hasn't gotten any easier for me, with each milestone they reach in their pregnancies, Im reminded of where I would have been in mine. I hope the edge comes off soon, and you are able to work through these feelings girl... Sending big hugs your way!!
Bless your heart! Seriously teared up reading this!
Damned hormones!
Me: 27 DH: 33
Married 6 years Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI
TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever) May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13 November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF. No longer benched per New RE/OB! Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C March 2, 2014 First AF
:-/ This feeling is the worst... Right after we had our current MC 7 of my closest friends and family announced their pregnancies. I lost a lot of sleep over it, and my mascara ruined a lot of my husbands shirts. It hasn't gotten any easier for me, with each milestone they reach in their pregnancies, Im reminded of where I would have been in mine. I hope the edge comes off soon, and you are able to work through these feelings girl... Sending big hugs your way!!
Bless your heart! Seriously teared up reading this!
Damned hormones!
Awe, lol sorry girl... didn't mean to stir up the hormone pot. Must be something in the air tonight, I definitely teared up at least 5 times trying to eat dinner for NO REASON!! lol.. My poor husband was so confused. lol
I overheard her telling her friend she was getting her c/s in the morning and I literally rolled my eyes as I walked away, and said "blah blah blah." DH was like "what are you talking about?" I couldn't help myself!
Been there, done that! And then felt guilty. Whatevs.
@tickettuesday I know what you mean about watching and empathizing with friends struggling with IF and probably having been "that" pregnant woman. I used to think I understood to an extent how hard infertility must be for them. Now 2 years in to 2IF I know I had no idea the heartache that IF causes.
@+southernmomma+ mc while struggling with 2IF still just makes me flat out pissed off. I'm right with you on having lost sleep. I know someone who is due 3 days before what my edd was and I know I will be avoiding seeing her until her baby is born so I can avoid the heartache.
Two DDs 10/08 and 08/10, no primary IF
TTC #3 since 10/2011 - dx unexplained/weak ovulation
3 BFN clomid + TI cycles, 5 BFN clomid/gonal f IUIs, 1 mmc IUI
2/19/2014 IVF #1 Unexpected low E2 (oversuppressed) -> increased to max doses = 3 or 4 follicles, converting to IUI
BFFP Saw 1 beautiful heartbeat at 6w6d, follow up u/s at 9w showed mmc. Eff this.
NTNP 5/2014-9/2014, OPKs and TI 10/2014 - 1/2015.
RPL testing all normal, AFC, AMH, and FSH all normal.
Re: Jealousy
I get this way too, and I know what you mean about feeling upset with yourself for those feelings. It's so hard. The worst for me is seeing someone with a toddler DS's age or younger who also has a baby. Or being lapped by friends. Ugh. And I don't think it in any way means that you don't appreciate what you do have. I love my DS, but I always pictured having 3 kids, and we're struggling just to have 2.
There's my rambling answer back at you. It's just hard.
TTC #2 since 1/2012
Definitely not alone! I also have to keep reminding myself their fertility doesn't affect mine, but I can't help but think why them and not me. @roughkat, I also find it harder when it is someone with a toddler or young child already (anyone notice these people are everywhere at the fall festivals??). That would have been us if we didn't have 2IF. Same with being lapped. I can think of at least 6 friends/acquaintances who had #1 after us and who either have #2 already or who are pregnant. And some with 2 are talking about #3, while others are talking about getting rid of baby stuff since they are done. It is hard to stay positive.
DS born Jan 2010
TTC#2 since Nov 2010 with breaks for DH cancer tx (remission!)
Tube with hydro removed Feb 2013
BFP 11/11/13 IUI#2 clomid+trigger+prometrium
Beta #1 14dpIUI=106; Beta #2 16dpIUI=287; Beta #3 20dpIUI=1158
5w6d 1 hb 109 and 2nd smaller sac; 7w0d 1 hb 125 and confirmed vanishing twin
Didn't you just have a miscarriage? Cut yourself some slack. I cannot even imagine the level of grief. I would lose my shit.
Me: 27 DH: 33
Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI
TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
No longer benched per New RE/OB!
Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic
Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
March 2, 2014 First AF
:-/ This feeling is the worst... Right after we had our current MC 7 of my closest friends and family announced their pregnancies. I lost a lot of sleep over it, and my mascara ruined a lot of my husbands shirts. It hasn't gotten any easier for me, with each milestone they reach in their pregnancies, Im reminded of where I would have been in mine. I hope the edge comes off soon, and you are able to work through these feelings girl... Sending big hugs your way!!
Damned hormones!
Me: 27 DH: 33
Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI
TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
No longer benched per New RE/OB!
Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic
Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
March 2, 2014 First AF
Been there, done that! And then felt guilty. Whatevs. @tickettuesday I know what you mean about watching and empathizing with friends struggling with IF and probably having been "that" pregnant woman. I used to think I understood to an extent how hard infertility must be for them. Now 2 years in to 2IF I know I had no idea the heartache that IF causes. @+southernmomma+ mc while struggling with 2IF still just makes me flat out pissed off. I'm right with you on having lost sleep. I know someone who is due 3 days before what my edd was and I know I will be avoiding seeing her until her baby is born so I can avoid the heartache.