Not sleeping thru the night at 15months?

bride711 · September 2013

Hi ladies,

Our DD is 15 months. She is not sleeping through the night. I have tried everything from white noise, temperature control ( making sure she is not to hot or cold, belly full, enough day activity, not overtired, etc). Any ideas on how to work through this and get her to sleep thru? P.s. I am not a believer in the ferber method so I am looking for other options beside that one. Thanks!

JENandJEH · September 2013

Our oldest didn't sleep through the night until he was 2 and DS2 has random nights where he will but most nights, he does not. He is perfectly capable of putting himself back to sleep when he wakes up but some nights he is just stubborn.

A lot of times when they master a new skill or are working to master a new skill, their sleep suffers a bit because of all the new information/activity. Some kids just don't sleep through the night as magically as others. Are her teeth bothering her? My kids have always woken throughout the night more often when they were teething. Does she have a crib soother or anything to "play" with in her bed when she wakes up? DS2 will turn on his crib soother some nights and watch/listen to it then fall back asleep. Do you have to go in to get her to settle and go back to sleep or is she just waking up and you're hearing her?

I know it's frustrating and I remember being fed up with DS1 not sleeping through the night but it was like a flip switched one night and from then on, he slept through the night. Since (knock on wood) DS2 is only up for a few minutes and then goes right back to sleep once we retrieve his paci that he's usually knocked out of the crib, we're just waiting it out and hoping he follows in his brother's footsteps. Do you let her fuss/talk for a bit before you go in? Do you engage her when you do go in? I am in and out and try not to make eye contact or make him think I want to talk/play. I don't have any suggestions other than sleep training and just giving it time. It takes some kids longer than others.

aglenn · September 2013

JENandJEH said:

Our oldest didn't sleep through the night until he was 2 and DS2 has random nights where he will but most nights, he does not. He is perfectly capable of putting himself back to sleep when he wakes up but some nights he is just stubborn.

A lot of times when they master a new skill or are working to master a new skill, their sleep suffers a bit because of all the new information/activity. Some kids just don't sleep through the night as magically as others. Are her teeth bothering her? My kids have always woken throughout the night more often when they were teething. Does she have a crib soother or anything to "play" with in her bed when she wakes up? DS2 will turn on his crib soother some nights and watch/listen to it then fall back asleep. Do you have to go in to get her to settle and go back to sleep or is she just waking up and you're hearing her?

I know it's frustrating and I remember being fed up with DS1 not sleeping through the night but it was like a flip switched one night and from then on, he slept through the night. Since (knock on wood) DS2 is only up for a few minutes and then goes right back to sleep once we retrieve his paci that he's usually knocked out of the crib, we're just waiting it out and hoping he follows in his brother's footsteps. Do you let her fuss/talk for a bit before you go in? Do you engage her when you do go in? I am in and out and try not to make eye contact or make him think I want to talk/play. I don't have any suggestions other than sleep training and just giving it time. It takes some kids longer than others.

This exactly (well, except my oldest is a DD). Some kids just take extra time in the sleep department. DD finally hit her stride with sleep right after she turned 2. DS is getting there and there is finally light at the end of the long tunnel for us. Hang in there!

shannm · September 2013

I think either you have to just wait it out and hope for the best or find a sleep training method that works for you. Have you actually read Ferber's book? It is not what most people assume.

When she wakes, what do you do? Are you positively reinforcing the behavior? It is normal for people, babies included to wake a little throughout the night. The key is for them to learn that they can put themselves back to sleep. And yes, 15 months is old enough for this.

MNmama7112 · September 2013

shannm said:

I think either you have to just wait it out and hope for the best or find a sleep training method that works for you. Have you actually read Ferber's book? It is not what most people assume. When she wakes, what do you do? Are you positively reinforcing the behavior? It is normal for people, babies included to wake a little throughout the night. The key is for them to learn that they can put themselves back to sleep. And yes, 15 months is old enough for this.

I was wondering the same- most people think the Ferber method requires leaving your child for hours on end alone and crying. He actually talks about "progressive waiting"- basically checking on your child at gradually increasing intervals.

https://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified_7755.bc?showAll=true

I'm not pushing this on you if it's not right for you- only you can decide that. Just thought this was an interesting article.

Kissty · September 2013

Try reading "No Cry Sleep Sloutions" since you don't want to do Ferber

mexicolombiana · September 2013

I'm going to give you different advice. Don't sleep train, don't do anything. They'll get over it. This is about the time my now 19 mo old started STTN. She was getting up demanding to be BF though.

Good luck!

mexicolombiana · September 2013

theresat858 said:

How often is LO waking? What happens when LO wakes up?

We had a phase of waking once a night for about a month around 14-15 months after DD had started STTN on her own sometime from 10-11 months (inconsistently).
We dealt with it by cosleeping after her 4am wakeup, bc she fell back to sleep fastest if I BF her, and it was easier on me to just sleep in the same bed as her.
She randomly grew out of it and now STTN except if her teeth are really bothering her (molars are evil).

If your LO is waking up every 2-3 hours still, though, you may want to try some other sleep coaching methods. NCSS or a sleep coach might help you.

Exactly the same as us (the bolded above)

skibunny59 · September 2013

My 18 month old doesn't sleep through the night. Babies will sleep through the night when they're ready. Like the above PP, we cosleep from about midnight on. I'm way too lazy to sleeptrain.

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