Pre-School and Daycare
groovygrl
member
girls, boys & 'friends' at age 4
groovygrl
member
I'm curious about your experiences w/ your LOs around age 4 related to friends in pre-school, pre-k, daycare, esp if your LO goes full time and is around the same kids all the time year round.
Does your LO have specific 'friends' at school that they identify to you as their 'friend'/'best friend' or someone who they always seem to play with, or do they just play with whoever is around or doing what they want? I'm also curious about boys vs girls & how this plays out...?
Does your LO have specific 'friends' at school that they identify to you as their 'friend'/'best friend' or someone who they always seem to play with, or do they just play with whoever is around or doing what they want? I'm also curious about boys vs girls & how this plays out...?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: girls, boys & 'friends' at age 4
Typically, she talks more about the boys. I think she tends to play more with the boys as well. There's one little boy that she enjoys "tattling" on and telling me all the things he did that day and how they aren't nice.
DD#1- has had a BFF since she was in the twos class, straight through the fours. They have gone off to different elementary schools, and she hasn't so much as mentioned him. She has always made easy friends, though.
DS- a parallel play kinda guy. Prefers the boys who like to play trains and not necessarily interact, but loves the wild rowdy girl and loves her and I imagine he will miss her deeply when they are no longer together.
DD#2 finds the life of the party, the fanciest girl, doesn't bother with her name and joins in.
They're all so different!
My middle son did not bond with any kids at preschool till he was 5, but he did have one friend that was a boy, when he was 4... we were never able to set up a play date.But he mostly wanted to play with his brothers. His BFF on preschool last year was also a boy.
My youngest already has a buddy in preschool with him, they sit next to each other and have lots of play dates! He knew hon before starting preschool. But he will play and talk to anyone!
We have some friends with a daughter her age and she often tell me that this girl is her best friend.
Is this a thing w/ my DS or I'm wondering if boys don't tend to identify these specific friendships as early as girls do...?
Because we have twins and b/c they go to daycare/pre-k full time we don't really do a lot of formal play dates except with DD's 'best friend' on occasion b/c we have become friends w her parents, so them asking to invite particular kids over for playdates is pretty rare in general, and I don't get the impression that many other parents do playdates w/ kids from our school- I think like us they figure those kids are together 5 days a week and on the weekend probably tend to get together w/ families in the neighborhood, or the parents' friends/families...
My 4 yo boy is just like that. I often see him playing with the same two or three boys, but when I ask him who he played with or who his friends are, he actually seems annoyed. He'll say he doesn't remember or no one, etc. We do set up play dates for our son with the boys we see him playing with (the less aggressive boys in the class), and he does well playing cooperatively when there's only two of them. I think the boys are just more low-key about friendships at this age. In contrast, I have noticed the girls in his class playing in big groups of girls, talking about friendships, etc. I think the girls are just more advanced socially at this age.