Late Term and Child Loss
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When to start trying again after a D&E....?
NataliasMOM0214
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HI all, I just have a question for any of you who might have gone through a similar experience...we found out at our 20 week anatomy scan (a time when you never think anything could go wrong, and you just want a confirmation of the sex!) that our baby boy had severe brain damage (agenesis of the corpus collosum among other things), and would live a horrible life (if he even survived after birth which was questionable...). We terminated about 4 weeks ago this past Friday, and said good-bye to our precious boy, Chase (we plan to name our next, knock-on-wood after him by using the first letter, 'C'), and I still have not seen AF. I felt like she was rearing her ugly head a few times, but nope, nothing yet. So, I have a few questions...for those of you who went through similar experiences, when did AF return? And what did your drs. say about trying again? Wait 2 mos, 2 cycles of AF, or longer like 3 mos. or 3 cycles of AF...or did some say you can start right away? Any insight/advice/help is greatly appreciate. Thank you, and I'm so very sorry for all your losses...
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Re: When to start trying again after a D&E....?
I am so sorry for the loss of your son.
I had a very similar situation as yours and had my D&E at 19 weeks. AF returned roughly 4-5 weeks later, however you will get a range of answers on this...it can literally be anywhere from 4-12 weeks. I recently had a MMC and had to wait 10 weeks before I got AF.
As for trying again, my ob originally said to wait 6 months...after 4 months she told me that we could go ahead and try again. With most later loss D&E's it seems the norm is 4-6 months due to the amount of scaping they had to do on your uterus. It is really something that you need to ask your OB about because a lot of it depends on your personal surgery as well as your medical history. Hope that helps!
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I am so so sorry for the loss of your sweet Chase.
As for trying again, your dr will definitely have a recommendation for you. We lost our daughter at 20w4d and I ended up with a D&C afterwards. My dr recommended waiting 3-6 months for emotional reasons but said physically we could try after my period returned. It took 9.5 weeks for my period to return and we started trying that cycle and fell pregnant.
Again I am sorry for your loss and good luck when you do start trying again.
I didn't have a D&C, however, my first AF was 6-7 weeks after giving birth. My OB told us we could start trying again whenever we wanted but said it was best to wait 1 or 2 cycles, mostly so we would be able to date a pregnancy.
As mentioned, please follow up with your OB - and be sure to ask "why" if they give you advise you weren't expecting.
Again, so sorry for your loss.