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StokedWifeyStokedWifey member
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Just curious about something.  Did any of you have to make a decision to end or alter a friendship when your LO was on the way?  
Dating since 3.8.2008. Married since 6.4.2011. Bryson born on 6.28.2012
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  • nesenotesnesenotes member
    My bff dumped me. Just poof disappeared. And I'm stubborn and didn't make an effort to chase her so she's gone.
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  • pinkangelmoonpinkangelmoon member
    Yes, but it wasn't because I was pregnant,  it just happened to be around the time. My BFF from high school. We actually hadn't kept in touch much since I got married, but she reached out to me a few years ago, we met for lunch to catch up,  and she asked me to loan her $15K.  Are you KIDDING me??  She had this whole sob story, and yes I felt bad for the situation she was in but, sorry, no.  DH was just starting his photography business and we were TTC.  When she found out I was pregnant, she reached out to me on FB but I just kinda ignored her. She's just always full of drama, and ain't nobody got time for that.  Haven't talked to her since.
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  • BubbaJugBubbaJug member
    Ahhh yes... Eleanor will look at my wedding photos and have no idea who 2 of my bridesmaids are...

    My best friend and I broke up when Eleanor was 3 months old. When I told her I was pregnant, She became very distant and it became very one sided. Then when it came time to RSVP for my baby shower that she had known about for months, she didn't. When I asked her 2 days before if she was coming, she said she forgot and had made plans to go out of town. That did it for me. I didn't speak to her again until Eleanor was 3 months old when she sent me a text that said "are you ever going to talk to me again"... I unleashed the fury. I haven't spoken to her since that day, nor do I plan to.

    The other that dissolved when Eleanor came along... She's just not interested in us. She got engaged, has been planning a wedding, and hasn't been able to make time for a 30 minute coffee date when she's been in town. Its fine, life changes and it changes us. I have no interest in perpetuating a relationship with someone who can't make time to meet my daughter.
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  • lilahbean13lilahbean13 member
    It wasn't a set decision it just sort of played out that way. Lost a few really great friends
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  • elizdgelizdg member
    Yup, actually about half of my bridesmaids. It basically happened right after my wedding, though. We just didn't have much in common anymore. (I got married at 21, so they were all still in the college partying stage.)
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  • bumpuser1509193bumpuser1509193 member
    We have a couple friend that we were really close with that has kinda dissolved since cooper hit the scene. We used to gtg weekly for football and since Cooper, we have done maybe 2 football parties. They are getting married, and she turned cray. She went from "Cooper is going to look so cute in a mini tux/suit" to "So, who is watching Cooper for our wedding weekend? You do have a sitter, right?"
    But on the flip side of that coin, we have reconected with a friend from high school who moved back to the area and has a daughter 2 months younger than Coop.
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  • aylafsu88aylafsu88 member

    Meow84 said:
    My two best friends don't have kids so our elationship has really changed. It's just hard to relate when my priorities are totally (and happily) different. It's one of those things that I don't think they will really get until they have kids.
    Same here.  My best friend is single and not in a serious relationship.  When I got married we drifted apart because she was still in the single phase and going out/dating.  Then she moved to a different state.  We have drifted further apart since LO was born.  It is hard for people without kids to truly understand that your life changes.  We still talk and hang out randomly when one of us is in town but it is really different now. It does make me sad but I know that change is a part of life.
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  • Pandril19Pandril19 member

    I wouldn't say it changed so much with E being born, more that a lot of my friendships had altered a few years ago when I moved out of the city.  I met most of my friends through clubbing and I just wasn't interested in that anymore even before I had the added drive to join them.  So while we're still friendly, it petered out.  

    We're not as social as I'd like to be, but it's hard to coordinate with folks now.

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  • StokedWifeyStokedWifey member
    I'm glad I'm not the only one.  I had a girl who I had been friends with for, like, 8 years.  She started dating a real winner (been in prison for attempted murder, couldn't get a job, so sat around and drank and smoked all day).  I let her know that he wasn't welcome around Bryson and that was that.  I hadn't spoken to her since last May until yesterday when she randomly messaged me apologizing for how she acted.
    Dating since 3.8.2008. Married since 6.4.2011. Bryson born on 6.28.2012
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