Separation Anxiety?

kanned0121 · September 2013

Is anyone else having issues with this? My LO is 8 weeks old and I haven't ever willingly left him. Once I left him for an hour because I was on the verge of a mental breakdown and my parents made me run to the store by myself. The only other time I've left him was for 15 mins while I picked my DH up, and I was about in tears.

I go back to work in a few weeks and it literally makes me sick to my stomach. I can't even leave him with DH so I can run to the store.. I have such bad anxiety. Am I totally crazy?

kwrecks · September 2013

I'm the same way. I think, unfortunately, the only way to fix it is to continue to leave LO for short amounts of time, to get more comfortable with it.

nittanygirl28 · September 2013

I feel guilt because I don't have seperation anxiety. I've only left DS with my mom or husband so that may help alleviate the safness or guilt that can acvompsny leaving the baby but he is one month & I've left him a few times-ranging from 1-4 hours and I haven't felt those pangs. I feel terrible admitting this.

LiylaRae · September 2013

Yup I definitely have it! I agree with pp to leave for short amounts of time to get used to it before you have to go back to work.

I go back to school today and have to take LO to daycare and I have only ever left her once...to say the least, I am a complete wreck. I'll be showing up to class in tears! Ugh. I definitely wish I would of eased myself into having to leave her because today is going to kill me

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zora51 · September 2013

I feel for all of you mamas!! LO is almost 4 weeks old and Ive never left him, and barely even let anyone else hold him! (DH has held him max 2 hrs but I don't even think that long.. most times like 20 min while I eat or something.) I have terrible pangs in my stomach and fears at the idea of leaving him even for a couple hours. I can't imagine having to go back to work right now! Luckily it should be a while before I HAVE to, but I know DH's already feeling a bit neglected, so I have to make sure to leave time for us too.... :-/

kanned0121 · September 2013

I told my hub that I don't think I can handle going back to work. I ugly cried for that hour he was with my parents.. And called like 3 times. My husband thinks I need to call my doc- but doubt there's anything he can do.

kanned0121 · September 2013

LiylaRae said:
Yup I definitely have it! I agree with pp to leave for short amounts of time to get used to it before you have to go back to work.

I go back to school today and have to take LO to daycare and I have only ever left her once...to say the least, I am a complete wreck. I'll be showing up to class in tears! Ugh. I definitely wish I would of eased myself into having to leave her because today is going to kill me (

Good luck today! Our babies have just been our side kicks for sooo long, I think maybe that's why it's so hard?

kanned0121 · September 2013

petey1106 said:
You're not alone! Everytime I leave LO I freak out a little. I forced myself to leave him every now and then before I started back to work to try to ease into it. Yesterday was my first day back at work and I was an emotional wreck. I couldnt sleep the night before and cried nonstop. I am glad it wasn't the first time leaving him though. I missed him quite fiercely throughout my half day and it was wonderful coming home to him.
Good luck momma, I know its hard!

That's a good idea, maybe I'll try it. I really just feel like in gonna puke at the thought of him not with me 24/7.

kanned0121 · September 2013

nittanygirl28 said:
I feel guilt because I don't have seperation anxiety. I've only left DS with my mom or husband so that may help alleviate the safness or guilt that can acvompsny leaving the baby but he is one month & I've left him a few times-ranging from 1-4 hours and I haven't felt those pangs. I feel terrible admitting this.

No, I think it's healthy that you can leave your LO for a bit and get out.

mommabmb · September 2013

k4maynes said:

nittanygirl28 said:
I feel guilt because I don't have seperation anxiety. I've only left DS with my mom or husband so that may help alleviate the safness or guilt that can acvompsny leaving the baby but he is one month & I've left him a few times-ranging from 1-4 hours and I haven't felt those pangs. I feel terrible admitting this.
No, I think it's healthy that you can leave your LO for a bit and get out.

I feel this too. And the guilt.

silly514 · September 2013

mommabmb said:

I feel guilt because I don't have seperation anxiety. I've only left DS with my mom or husband so that may help alleviate the safness or guilt that can acvompsny leaving the baby but he is one month & I've left him a few times-ranging from 1-4 hours and I haven't felt those pangs. I feel terrible admitting this.
No, I think it's healthy that you can leave your LO for a bit and get out.
I feel this too. And the guilt.

I'm with you ladies. I've actually enjoyed the times I've been able to get out (even just to the grocery store) because it makes me feel like my old self, sort of. Then I instantly think there must be something wrong with me because I don't have that separation anxiety...don't get my wrong, I love my kid and miss her when I'm gone but have no issue going out. I even went to the movies with a group of girlfriends last night- it was awesome, except for the engorgement by the time it was over. Lol

kanned0121 · September 2013

I'm seriously jealous of you gals who are able to go take time for yourselves. I really need to figure something out.

LiylaRae · September 2013

k4maynes said:

LiylaRae said:
Yup I definitely have it! I agree with pp to leave for short amounts of time to get used to it before you have to go back to work.

I go back to school today and have to take LO to daycare and I have only ever left her once...to say the least, I am a complete wreck. I'll be showing up to class in tears! Ugh. I definitely wish I would of eased myself into having to leave her because today is going to kill me (
Good luck today! Our babies have just been our side kicks for sooo long, I think maybe that's why it's so hard?

Thanks! And yes I freaking balled my eyes out. I was only away from her for two hours and it killed me. Tomorrow it will be three and I just don't think I can do it. I love her so much and it kills me she has to go to daycare but I just have to keep telling myself it's for the best so I can finish school.

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