two last name

Meeelinda · September 2013

is anyone giving their child two last names? if so who comes first fathers or yours? (if your not married)

aridobbs · September 2013

I will interrupt my lurking to answer this from experience. It doesn't matter which one you put first, no one winds up happy in this situation. Eventually even the child bc when they learn to write their name they complain that it is too long, plus it causes issues at school and anywhere things get filed by last name. I wish that I had just given my daughter my last name. That's what she has as a 2nd grader decided to write on her school papers anyway. Good luck!

disneymomtotwo · September 2013

In my culture it's generally dad's last name then moms last name. We aren't giving baby girl my last name though for reasons stated above.

BrittanyCupcakes · September 2013

I would do mine then his if I were doing both. I chose to hyphenate mine when we got married so that I could use either one informally, depending on the situation, but LO is getting his. My sister kept her name when she got married and then hyphenated the kids' names. She also gave them each two middle names, and it gets pretty ridiculous.

LitalovesKay · September 2013

I was going to do my last name then SO last name because originally I wanted to hyphenate when we get married but SO name is long enough on its on so it will just be SO last name.

knottied2a666e3e38a2a87 · September 2013

I hyphenated, but I don't wish the eye rolls and questions upon my kids. We discussed once about adding my maiden name as a sort of second middle name, but without the hyphen, and just having LLO not really use it. I just like the idea that it would be tucked in there but I'm not sure the topic will be revisited in time. If we did, it would be FN MN mom's LN dad's LN.

Meeelinda · September 2013

I want both of our last name and his will be his main last name on everything . haven't decided yet.

BrittanyCupcakes · September 2013

cjrobbin said:

I hyphenated, but I don't wish the eye rolls and questions upon my kids. We discussed once about adding my maiden name as a sort of second middle name, but without the hyphen, and just having LLO not really use it. I just like the idea that it would be tucked in there but I'm not sure the topic will be revisited in time. If we did, it would be FN MN mom's LN dad's LN.

This stuff can get confusing when it comes down to filing taxes and stuff in the future. Sometimes SSA gets the info mixed up on their records and middle names and last names get confused in their systems. Sometimes the kids grow up not realizing that it's a middle name instead of a last name, or vice-versa, and it creates little problems.

I was thinking of using LO's middle name as part of her first name on paper (Carmen Lily) since we plan on using them fairly interchangeably (it's a family name, so we want to distinguish which one she is if there are ever any more in this generation- DH has a giant family- Grandma Carmen had 11 kids, one of which was also named Carmen). Then I thought about the tax thing, since I do taxes and I run across problems like this that are tricky to figure out, so Lily will officially be a middle name.

StefMurph · September 2013

My stepson has a hyphenated name because his parents were in high school when he was born and never married. It has been a pain in school paperwork as well as irs documentation. He's a senior in high school and I have to remind him that all paperwork, diploma, college applications and drivers license have to have both names. I wouldn't recommended it due to the issues we've had.

Stellabelle12 · September 2013

BF and I discussed this, since we're not married and it is a legitimate question whose LN she gets. I would hyphenate, but our LN's are so similar (both are N----n) that it sounds sing-songy and ridiculous. Plus all the above reasons, I don't want her to have a hard time in school.

If we were hyphenating, it would be my LN his LN. That's how most couples I know have done it.

When he brought it up, I told him that we could give her his last name if he felt that she and I wouldn't have different last names for too long. (Implying that we will be married after she is born. It's been 9 years and a kid, dude, I think I've been patient enough!)

SuperTreesa · September 2013

My kids have my maiden name as their middle name. But it's an actual middle name. When I got married I also dropped my original middle name and took my maiden name as a middle. It was a nice compromise and we don't have the added confusion of hyphens or two last names.

norbert5 · September 2013

Coming from someone was has 11 letters in her last name make it as easy as possible for your LO.

From the teacher perspective it gets confusing when parents don't have the same last name as the kid.

If I were a single mom I would give the child my last name until I was married then I would revisit the issue.

June2007 · September 2013

My kids have both our last names (I didn't take DHs) hyphenated. Legally they are mine-his but they go by mine for everything, even my Kindergartener only writes half her last name, which is mine, on her school papers because its just easier. Thus far we are surviving and have had no mistakes or mix ups. What IS a pain though is that DHs mom decided to name him something but call him by his middle name- this has caused way more confusion than our kids having hyphenated last names but that another post...!

RedZee · September 2013

We each kept our own last names. DD's name is FirstName MiddleName MyLastName-HisLastName. So far it's been fine. Most of the other parents in school have different last names from each other (mothers didn't take fathers' last names). The only time we had any confusion was at the doctor's office when the nurse picked up the wrong chart because our appointment was adjacent to another kid who also had a hyphenated last name that started with the same letters.

All that said, I suspect she'll hate it down the road. She can change it if and when she wants.

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