XP: would you have made the same decision?

penelopemaria · September 2013

Hi ladies

I was diagnosed with SPD today (long story short my pelvis isn't handling the pregnancy well and I'm in a lot of pain.) Im walking like a duck all hunched over 24/7. I only get relief when I lie down semi-reclined. My OB called me with the U/S results today confirming SPD. He said many women with SPD go on to have normal vaginal deliveries. However it can cause complications and they don't recommended an epidural (which is what I wanted) because the best position for delivering with SPD is kneeling or squatting.

He offered me a csection and said its my decision. I picked csection because I don't want a vag birth without an epidural and as selfish as it is I want the baby out at 38 weeks to get relief from my day to day torture! So my long winded question is: would you have made the same decision as me?

TIA! I appreciate your thoughts.

leahraewku · September 2013

I would have gone with the C-section.

northport6 · September 2013

I can't imagine living with this sort of pain on a day-to-day basis; whatever choice you made is absolutely the right choice for your body, you don't have to second guess it.

MrsQueale · September 2013

Are you being given a spinal or going under general? Also what happens to your pelvis after delivery? Will things go back to normal? C-sections can suck healing wise and come with their own issues, as does a vaginal birth. You know your body and what you can handle, so ask questions and trust your gut.

ETA:

I've never expecienced SPD, or that type of pain. So I can't answer what I'd do. I've had 2 c-sections and have been fighting tooth and nail to avoid a 3rd. I'd like to think I'd try for a vaginal, but that's just my mindset right now.

penelopemaria · September 2013

MrsQueale said:

Are you being given a spinal or going under general? Also what happens to your pelvis after delivery? Will things go back to normal? C-sections can suck healing wise and come with their own issues, as does a vaginal birth. You know your body and what you can handle, so ask questions and trust your gut.

I'll be getting a spinal. 95% of the time SPD goes away once the baby is born.

monkeybutt61612 · September 2013

Absolutely

mavgirl_73 · September 2013

Well as a two time mom with severe SPD both previous pregnancies as well as this my third I would disagree about vaginal deliveries, seeing as how I had one with an epi and another without and plan to have an unmedicated birth this time. My first was posterior as well. Am I incredibly uncomfortable yes but it has alwys subsided immediately after birth. I was never offered a csection or told I would be denied an epidural because of my SPD by any of the 3OBs or 2 midwives I've had so I find it odd but all doctors are different. I wouldn't opt for a csection, especially if I were a FTM due to the decreased number of OBs and hospitals allowing for VBAC attempts. To each their own.

penelopemaria · September 2013

mavgirl_73 said:

Well as a two time mom with severe SPD both previous pregnancies as well as this my third I would disagree about vaginal deliveries, seeing as how I had one with an epi and another without and plan to have an unmedicated birth this time. My first was posterior as well. Am I incredibly uncomfortable yes but it has alwys subsided immediately after birth. I was never offered a csection or told I would be denied an epidural because of my SPD by any of the 3OBs or 2 midwives I've had so I find it odd but all doctors are different. I wouldn't opt for a csection, especially if I were a FTM due to the decreased number of OBs and hospitals allowing for VBAC attempts. To each their own.

That's good to know. Thanks for sharing. You were allowed to deliver on your back with your SPD?

Aycul18 · September 2013

I would probably have opted for C-Section also. Good luck :-)

backoffunicorn · September 2013

It sounds like you're in a lot of pain and completely uncomfortable. If I were in your shoes, I would choose the c-section.

mavgirl_73 · September 2013

penelopemaria said:

mavgirl_73 said:

Well as a two time mom with severe SPD both previous pregnancies as well as this my third I would disagree about vaginal deliveries, seeing as how I had one with an epi and another without and plan to have an unmedicated birth this time. My first was posterior as well. Am I incredibly uncomfortable yes but it has alwys subsided immediately after birth. I was never offered a csection or told I would be denied an epidural because of my SPD by any of the 3OBs or 2 midwives I've had so I find it odd but all doctors are different. I wouldn't opt for a csection, especially if I were a FTM due to the decreased number of OBs and hospitals allowing for VBAC attempts. To each their own.

That's good to know. Thanks for sharing. You were allowed to deliver on your back with your SPD?

Yup both times. Plan to deliver in kneeling this time but I'm having a home birth. My pubis symphysis is partially seperated so I can completely relate to your pain. It's no picnic and constant and hard to believe that it will go away but it will.

KFED103 · September 2013

I think is probably only natural to second guess your decision. Whatever choice you make/made is the right one for you and your specific situation. As long as the baby gets here healthy, that's the only right decision there is.

mavgirl_73 · September 2013

I will add I don't think there is a right or wron decision. Your body, your baby, your decision.

margaerytyrell · September 2013

C-section. For sure.

penelopemaria · September 2013

Soozerella said:

no one is judging you!!

but in more exciting news, did you schedule a date?!? WHEN IS YOUR BABY COMING??!?

Thanks! I am judging myself a little. I'll feel bad if my milk doesn't come in and I can't BF and I know my DH will be run raggeded taking care of us while I recover. No date yet - hospital will call me this week

mavgirl_73 · September 2013

Don't judge yourself. The pain is ridiculous. You are doing what's right for you and your baby. And plenty of women have csections and nurse successfully.

fauxvegan · September 2013

In sorry you are going through this

lilypienmessimy · September 2013

Yep agree with PP that you have to make the best decision for you and it sounds like you have. AND OMG you have to tell us when it's scheduled! Crazy how fast it will be here!

pink flamingo · September 2013

northport6 said:
I can't imagine living with this sort of pain on a day-to-day basis; whatever choice you made is absolutely the right choice for your body, you don't have to second guess it.

I agree .

azmama20 · September 2013

I would have done the same. You know what's best for you, your LO, and your body.

bishesbcrazy · September 2013

penelopemaria said:

Hi ladies

I was diagnosed with SPD today (long story short my pelvis isn't handling the pregnancy well and I'm in a lot of pain.) Im walking like a duck all hunched over 24/7. I only get relief when I lie down semi-reclined. My OB called me with the U/S results today confirming SPD. He said many women with SPD go on to have normal vaginal deliveries. However it can cause complications and they don't recommended an epidural (which is what I wanted) because the best position for delivering with SPD is kneeling or squatting.

He offered me a csection and said its my decision. I picked csection because I don't want a vag birth without an epidural and as selfish as it is I want the baby out at 38 weeks to get relief from my day to day torture! So my long winded question is: would you have made the same decision as me?

TIA! I appreciate your thoughts.

I wasn't offered the choice and told about the epidural either. I'll be speaking to my OB about it.

I agree with all of the other ladies, I would go with the C-section. If you weren't planning on a med free birth, it's kind of hard to psych yourself up for it in the 3rd trimester.

tatianaazulay · September 2013

I would also go with the c-section, you dont need to feel bad about it ...

Ark2013 · September 2013

I was diagnosed with SPD as well. It really is excruciating. I had it when I was pregnant with my youngest and it went away after I have birth. It came back really early this time. I would love to be able to have this baby as early as safely possible just to relieve myself of the pain but I am terrified of having a c-section. My dr will induce between 38 and 39 weeks if it gets to be too much for me just like he did last time.

No one can tell you if you are making the right choice but you. You need to do what's right for you and the baby. Knowing full well the pain you are goin through, you get no judgment from me.

I'm sorry you have SPD too.

willowprincess · September 2013

I personally wouldn't have made the same decision as I'm planning on having another med-free birth anyway. However, the right decision is the one that you are happy with. I understand your pain, and either way you will get to hold your baby.

HerbanMom · September 2013

Girl, I feel you! I developed SPD with DS2 towards the end and it kicked in around 20 weeks with this one and has only gotten worse. SPD sucks major balls, I certainly don't wish it on my worst enemy! Your decision for yourself is a personal one and none of us can tell you what's best for you. I don't do epi's so it wasn't an issue with my 2nd delivery or this impending one but I will say coming through the pelvis was quite easy due to how lax everything was. In the meantime, have they referred you to some therapy or at the very least a support belt?

COgirl29 · September 2013

I totally don't know what you are going through as I've never experienced it - but I just wanted to let you know a good friend of mine just had her first in April and had pretty severe SPD, and she delivered vaginally on her back with an epidural. She wasn't even given the option of a c section, so it sounds like this may be a doctor to doctor thing.

With that being said, don't judge yourself either way - you have to make the most informed decision for you and the baby and only you truly know what you are going through!

Lyzza350 · September 2013

I'm sure this was a well thought out decision on your part! You choose what is right for you and your lo! Trust in yourself and your decision!

onewayticket · September 2013

Yup. A happy mama is probably a better mama. No reason to be miserable.

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