July 2012 Moms

TWATWAFFLE TUESDAY!

So glad it's TT!

My husband's boss is a HUGE F*CKING TWATWAFFLE.  She's never really liked him, and I've never really liked or trusted her.  She just completed his end-of-internship review (he did that last academic year; he still works there now on salary in a separate but related position), and she was so fucking bitchy!  It's not even that she said anything blatantly untrue (although a lot of things were her opinion rendered uncharitably); it's that she took the opportunity to air all this shit in a document that affects his career path (he's training to be a pastor) instead of just dealing with him personally.  But of course she wouldn't do that because she's a shady bitchcunt.  I can't figure out what she's trying to do- does she want to derail his career so she can keep him as her little slave, to do all the work while she goes on exotic vacations for weeks at a time (she vacationed last year DURING ADVENT, can you even believe that). I can't believe I have to keep going to her church and smile at her fake ass every Sunday morning.  She better watch out.  I have it in me.  I haven't been living in NYC for 10 years for nothing.  I have a lot of street rage saved up and her ass could be mine anytime.  And thankfully I know she's such a coward that I could yell at her once and that would be the end of having to deal with her directly for the rest of my life.  Unfortunately, she's ultra shady and I'm sure she'd use her valuable clergy time to be nasty like she always does.

Anybody else?
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Re: TWATWAFFLE TUESDAY!

  • MH is the twatwaffle in my life today, I'm beyond sick of him acting like a giant douche to me if he gets woken up in the morning by LO. She's a kid, this is her normal time to get up, get over it you asshole! The week before last when she overslept for two days were flukes, they're not happening again and so you need to stop acting like I'm doing something to make your life difficult. And yes, I like the snooze button. EFF YOU! X(

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  • I'd like to nominate my beautiful daughter who threw her bowl of cereal off her high chair this morning, which bounced a few times, splashing cereal all over the floor, the cupboards, my clean clothes, the fridge, the oven... The stuff was EVERYWHERE.
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  • I just remembered that there's another part of the internship review- there was a committee of lay people who reviewed him and thought he did a MUTHAFUCKIN' AWESOME JOB.  It's all written down on paper.  So you can eat it, boss lady.
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  • I would also like to nominate my MIL.  Bryson's cup was becoming his comfort, so instead of letting him form a bad habit we'd have to break, I switched him to a straw cup.  She knows my reasoning behind this, but told me when we picked him up Sunday (he was with her for the weekend) that he HATES his straw cup and she gave him his regular cup more.  He doesn't hate his cup, but she's accustomed to him chugging from his regular out of boredom/need for comfort and not because he's thirsty.  He drinks from the straw because he's thirsty, and even though he doesn't drink constantly, he'll still finish 2 cups full if given the opportunity.  Strike one, MIL.  
    Dating since 3.8.2008. Married since 6.4.2011. Bryson born on 6.28.2012
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  • I'll like to nominate my whole family this morning....minus Becca. DH for not waking up when he is supposed to, to help out with the dogs and kids, his excuse is he is sick, well, I was sick for the last 2 weeks, and got up every day at 4:30 to get everything ready to leave for 6:40.

    My two older kids, who after I woke them up proceeded to go back to bed, and sleep in until 9:30, school starts at 8:30, then they call me to ask what they should do, duuuhhhh, get your asses to school. 

    After, my DH called me asking why didn't I get the kids up (I did you moron, not my fault they decided to go back to sleep, once I left) and walk the dogs. I have enough to do with getting a toddler up who is teething, has a cold and is all around crumpy, plus getting myself out the door, do it yourself.  

    Now SD is claiming she is sick and threw up in the kitchen, the proof, a little spit on the floor. I am not stupid, you already told me the real reason you don't want to go, is because you have been dating 2 boys, they found out about each other last night, and now you cannot just turn off your phone to ignore them, you actually have to face them.

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  • @zpanjwani - I never want Becca to grow up, she can stay a little girl forever.

    I now understand why people don't like teenagers, I find they are so much harder than babies, sure they are more independent, but you always have to be one step ahead of them, as they think you are stupid and naive. I keep reminding SD that I have done everything she is doing and more.  

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  • hijinx said:

    My mom. Usually she's great, but she has her moments. Last week was one of these moments. My niece was born a week ago and after her birth my mom was talking to me about my niece and SIL and she said 'I just know that SIL is going to be a great mom and she is going to work so hard and want to do everything herself. She will be a super mom. Not like you.' Thanks mom. Apparently my mom thinks I suck at being a mom.

    Whaaaaat? Rude! You are an awesome mom. You are smart, loving, and caring.
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    Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12

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    Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
  • My sister is just annoying the crap out of me lately. She doesn't know how to park her car and parks far from the front line. I told her someone was going to hit her car if she leaves the ass that far out.

    So she calls me this morning and is like thanks a lot I messed up my front bumper because I parked on the cement block. Ummmm say what now? Its my fault you don't know how to park your car?? Over it.
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    Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12

     BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
    Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
  • My MIL for not childproofing her house (she watches DS one day a week) and forcing a confrontation.  We've asked her time and again to make a few changes (corner guards on one table, move glass out of reach, don't let him play with the stove, lock cleaning materials away) and she hasn't, it's been two months.  We even offered to help when we were over, but she said she didn't want to bother us and she'd do it herself.  DH finally very nicely gave her a deadline and she's all po'ed/hurt/feels criticized/etc.  Laid the guilt trip on real thick and is most likely bad mouthing us to family and friends (this is her MO).  She is really extremely good at playing the victim.

    I am so tired of problems with my MIL.  We try so hard to have a good relationship with MIL and let go so much already.  The last time we were over for dinner she had purposefully left scissors out on a low coffee table so she could open cheese for dinner.  MIL's plan is that she'll just tell DS "no" and he won't ever touch dangerous stuff.  Seriously, DS is 14-months.

    Not looking forward to seeing her on Friday, that is assuming she took the childproofing steps DH told her she had to - if she hasn't I will likely be calling in sick Friday and we'll be looking to put DS in daycare on Fridays.  And it is entirely possible she will give us the proverbial middle finger and not childproof the house.


  • I'm voting for @hijinx 's mom.   That's just not cool.    You're a great mom.

    All you ladies are.  I feel really blessed to have a circle of moms around me like you.  Keeps me sane.  (And I don't throw around the word "blessed" very often.)

     

    I'm not sure I have a TW at the moment, but I told TheBoy he was a bum last night.  And he manned up to it.  Not that he then DID anything, but he admitted to being a bum.  He forgot I have rehearsals on Monday nights, so he didn't come home until I was late.  And then when I got home, I realized that he hadn't done so much as wipe up the highchair after E was done eating or move her diapers to the dryer.  Neither of these are hard tasks....

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  • @bellaxanthe & @roo1582 I'm only on strike 1 because until recently, MIL had only seen him a handful of times.  Now she's keeping him every once in awhile and I nipped some potential strikes in the bud when I saw FIL try to give B Coke.  I let them know that I had even told my own mom that she wouldn't keep B if she didn't follow my rules to the letter, so they've been pretty good.  They feed him junk while he's with them (Burger King, pizza, etc), so I want to give them more, but those are minute compared to so many other things that I let that slide.
    Dating since 3.8.2008. Married since 6.4.2011. Bryson born on 6.28.2012
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  • @bellaxanthe I think counseling is a good idea! Maybe hearing from someone else how negative he is and not just from the "nagging wife" will help. I know when someone else points something out to DH he is more apt to listen.

    @hijinx I wanted to cry when I read that! Your mom even if she was excited should never have said that. You are an awesome mom!!! ::hugs to you::

    My TW nomination is my IL's. While I am thankful they kept the boys for the 2 days we were at the hospital they royally screwed up their routines and now Camden is up 5 times a night and fights all sleep and Cortlandt refuses to nap yet still gets up at 6 am!

    Secondly FIL has had DH helping him for the past 2 days on a job site and yesterday he was supposed to be done by 12 to get Cortlandt from school but at 11 he texts and asks if I minded getting them. Sure honey I am 7 days out from a c-section but I'll get myself, Jace and Camden out the door to go get Cortlandt, its a good thing I feel as good as I do!

    Thirdly the IL's haven't even seen Jace since he was less than 24 hours old! They haven't called, sent a text or even asked about the boys! WTF! SMIL goes to stay at her daughters house for days at a time to "help" with her 3 kids ages 12, 2 and 4 months but can't even ask how we are doing knowing I am home alone with 3 boys!

    Ok rant over!
  • C&Csmommy - you are superwoman. Seriously I don't know how you do it. You are amazing and your SMIL and husband must think that too for thinking you are just fine at 7 days out.

    I wish I was superwoman but thank you for the compliment :)! DH knows that I feel pretty good (waaaaaay better than after Camden's c-section) I just think its crappy that the IL's haven't even bothered to see how the boys are doing or to come see Jace. They live 10 minutes from us too!
  • hijinx said:

    @C&Csmomy You are doing great at 7 days out after a c-section with 3 kids to care for. I am reading in awe because I was completely useless after my c-section with my first. I can't imagine having to care for older kids while recovering from that. Your DH and MIL must realize you're super woman. I'm also impressed that you can drive after a week. I was not allowed to drive for 2 weeks after my surgery.

    They said 2 weeks or when I feel like I could press the brakes in case of an accident without hurting. I am still shocked at how well I feel 8 days out and am waiting to hit a wall or something!

  • hijinx said:
    My mom. Usually she's great, but she has her moments. Last week was one of these moments. My niece was born a week ago and after her birth my mom was talking to me about my niece and SIL and she said 'I just know that SIL is going to be a great mom and she is going to work so hard and want to do everything herself. She will be a super mom. Not like you.' Thanks mom. Apparently my mom thinks I suck at being a mom.
    Oh. My. Gosh.  I don't even know what to say to that.  You're an amazing mom and frankly, judging by that comment alone, it doesn't sound like you had the best role model.  Those words should NEVER come out of a mom's mouth.  I'm appalled and pissed for you.
    Dating since 3.8.2008. Married since 6.4.2011. Bryson born on 6.28.2012
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  • @hijinx, @roo1582, @zpanjwani - I think I gave him a grace period for his depression issues. I know after the birth he was in a dark hole. Things have gotten about 75% better. But it's just stagnant. I don't know if I never paid attention to how negative he is about life, or if it just has so much more impact and meaning now with Cosette. I know he works on it, but it is just in his bones to be negative I think. I do on occassion call him out but I hate when I say things out of anger and I really try to manage what/how I say with him (it has a way better outcome if I do). Maybe I feel like he should be over this stuff. Maybe I feel like everything is tainted with negativity when I just want to enjoy C. He really seems like he can never be satisfied with what is going right (and so much is!). I'm honestly thinking that marriage counselling is in order soon. I cannot fathom the rest of our lives being like this.


    This makes me so sad for you.  Of all the people in J12, I feel like you are the most positive and upbeat, so I can imagine it's incredibly difficult for you to handle such negativity.  I hope that he is willing to get counseling so both of you can enjoy the multitude of blessings around you, especially Cosette.  

    Dating since 3.8.2008. Married since 6.4.2011. Bryson born on 6.28.2012
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  • @mommymaddness After reading yours I've been itching all day, ick! I'm so sorry you got that.

    And I can't believe how many of the board's MILs and mothers are acting like TWs, and really mean ones at that. Maybe it's the full moon bringing out the dark sides?

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  • @heatherbee710 I am so sorry to hear that. T&P being sent your way with a truck load of stick baby dust!
  • My DH. He constantly says "I can't wait until she's 4" or the like. We had an amazing day at the zoo on Sat. She was awesome and happy and sweet as pie. She started to whimper that night and had a tough bedtime (which I dealt with mind you). She was getting sick. As soon as he came out he threw the "I can't wait..." comment at me. I'm sick of it. Just appreciate this beautiful little girl. Stop wishing her away. His negativity is overwhelming me somedays. Why can't he see the forest thru the trees?

    Sorry that turned into a personal vent. Somedays are better than others- you know?

    bellaxanthe - hang in there! your little girl is so incredibly sweet and adorable! i sometimes just try to stop and hug Riley during the day to enjoy the moment and how sweet she is - i completely agree with you that we need to take time to enjoy these precious moments. I already miss the days when she was a newborn, so I imagine we'll miss these toddler days soon too! 

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  • The Road KIng Inn!!! Went there 2 weekends ago in Grand Forks for my bff's bachelorette party and our room had bed bugs!!!!!!!!! YUCK! One girl got tons of bits the next day so we got moved to a new room. On Sunday just after the Wedding myself and the bride broke out in itchy little bits! I am sooooo grossed out and although we took all the precautions with bringing our stuff home, I am super scared they will be in my house!! Like Terrified! I don't want to stay in another Hotel again! Although I know I probably will. Ladies check those mattresses before you stay anywhere!! 
    mommymaddness - Wait!!! You were in Grand Forks?! Do you live in ND? I figured no one on the bump even had heard of that place. My parents unfortunately live there - and I grew up a few hours away. We dread visiting because there is NOTHING to do in the town for kids. We used to stay at the Road King in for swim meets when I was a kid - people always wanted to stay there because it is by the mall. LOL. So sorry to hear about the bed bugs....so, so nasty. Did you at least get your money back? 

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