Crying it out

Re: Crying it out

• ToAoShesha member

  September 2013

  My LO wake up every 45 minutes too.... And last night she was up from 11:39pm-4am and I couldn't put her down I am on vacation but plan I start sleep training as soon as we get home. My baby is also super happy during the day and only wants comfort nursing when she wakes at night. Noone really understands what we go through it is so hard am my boy can't function properly... I have true everything and read 4 books... Yesterday I purchased the last 2 left and am reading them. Something has I get better I feel for u and am here for u I just don't know what to tell you

  

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• lilbit0910 member

  September 2013

  cassied7 i dont think i can ever do the CIO because it would break my heart and i hate the sound of crying. That being said my LO was a horrible sleeper until i placed her on her belly thanks to my moms advice. That was when she was one month old. Ever since then my LO has been a pretty good sleeper with bad nights here and there. Every night i give her her bottle and then put her to sleep on my chest. We cuddle for about 30 minutes then i lay her on her belly. She sleeps for about 7- 8 hours straight. She also uses her pacifier. And i make sure she is not too hot since she sweats alot and that can easily wake her up. 

  
  

  Have you tried to put Silas on his belly? 

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• cassied7 member

  September 2013

  lilbit0910 said:

  cassied7 i dont think i can ever do the CIO because it would break my heart and i hate the sound of crying. That being said my LO was a horrible sleeper until i placed her on her belly thanks to my moms advice. That was when she was one month old. Ever since then my LO has been a pretty good sleeper with bad nights here and there. Every night i give her her bottle and then put her to sleep on my chest. We cuddle for about 30 minutes then i lay her on her belly. She sleeps for about 7- 8 hours straight. She also uses her pacifier. And i make sure she is not too hot since she sweats alot and that can easily wake her up. 

  
  

  Have you tried to put Silas on his belly? 

  I am terrified to put him on his belly for the risk of SIDS.  

  

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• cassied7 member

  September 2013

  ToAoShesha said:

  My LO wake up every 45 minutes too.... And last night she was up from 11:39pm-4am and I couldn't put her down I am on vacation but plan I start sleep training as soon as we get home. My baby is also super happy during the day and only wants comfort nursing when she wakes at night. Noone really understands what we go through it is so hard am my boy can't function properly... I have true everything and read 4 books... Yesterday I purchased the last 2 left and am reading them. Something has I get better I feel for u and am here for u I just don't know what to tell you

  i am so happy I am not alone in this.  I wish there was someone who could just tell me when it will end so that I know there is hope.

  

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• BellaBean76 member

  September 2013

  Obviously do what you feel is right but I don't necessarily think that one bad night means its not working.  I would try again tonight and see what happens.  My baby also prefers to sleep on her stomach and sleeps longer/sounder when she is on it.  However I did wait until she was able to roll herself over before I started with that. 

  

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• cassied7 member

  September 2013

  BellaBean76 said:

  Obviously do what you feel is right but I don't necessarily think that one bad night means its not working.  I would try again tonight and see what happens.  My baby also prefers to sleep on her stomach and sleeps longer/sounder when she is on it.  However I did wait until she was able to roll herself over before I started with that. 

  Thank you for that @BelleBean76.  I have this vision in my head of a baby who never cries at night.  I guess I needed the reminder that he IS a baby and there will be good nights and bad nights.  

  

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• JSS1002 member

  September 2013

  Stupid question perhaps, but are you putting him to bed on a full stomach?  That is the ONLY way that my little guy will sleep -- I rock him to sleep while feeding him a large bottle.  If he hasn't had enough throughout the day, he wakes up.  It is amazing, I could seriously set my watch by it.  If he doesn't get at least 30-35 oz throughout the day, he's awake at 1 AM, with his last feeding at 9 PM.  Clockwork (he goes to bed at 9 PM).

     

  
  

  
  

  

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• camdensmom32 member

  September 2013

  cassied7 said:

  I know I don't post often, so I hope no one gets upset with me.  I think I just need some positive reinforcement.  It's funny to my that I am posting about this, because 2 days ago I commented on someones discussion about how well CIO worked for me.  I am now realizing that I spoke too soon.  We are on day 5 of CIO.  The first night was horrible, which I expected it to be.  The second night he cried for 6 minutes followed by 8 hours of sound sleep.  It worked!  The next night he didn't even cry!  But boy was I in for a rude awakening.  Last night he cried for 9 minutes.  Not too shabby, I thought to myself.  From then on, he woke up about every hour to cry and fuss for about ten minutes at a time.  I fed him at 1:30am and 4:30 am.  I really don't think he was hungry, I just think he wanted to me.  Who the heck am I to say no to that?  I just feel like I have given in and I am not dealing with a child who has figured out how to soothe, but is now regressing.  I KNOW he can put himself to sleep, so why wont he just do it all the time?  Am I an ass for saying that?  I feel like a bad parent.  Before trying CIO, Silas woke up every 45 minutes throughout the night.   I am not exaggerating.  We've tried everything, I'm also not exaggerating about that.  I went so far as to put him in front of the TV because he would just watch for a few minutes and go to bed...don't judge me, as I have already judged myself.  I just don't understand.  Every time we try something new it works for 2 days and then doesn't.  What the hell are we doing wrong?  Is it normal for CIO to work so great, so fast and then stop working a few days later?  He is NOT in pain and is NOT hungry when he cries.  He is so used to me getting him right away.  I really don't know what I'm looking for posting this...maybe I just needed to vent.  I just want my baby to sleep, as does every other mom in the world.  I have the worlds
  happiest kids  by day, and the most pissed off kid by night.  

  Count yourself lucky it's just at night. Mine doesn't sleep good at night and is a fussy monster during the day who doesn't like to nap!

   

  
  

   

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• cassied7 member

  September 2013

  JSS1002 said:

  Stupid question perhaps, but are you putting him to bed on a full stomach?  That is the ONLY way that my little guy will sleep -- I rock him to sleep while feeding him a large bottle.  If he hasn't had enough throughout the day, he wakes up.  It is amazing, I could seriously set my watch by it.  If he doesn't get at least 30-35 oz throughout the day, he's awake at 1 AM, with his last feeding at 9 PM.  Clockwork (he goes to bed at 9 PM).

  Valid question.  I nurse him on command during the day, and he gets a 6 ounce bottle after his bath while I rock him.  I am new to the bottle though, so I'm not sure if he is getting enough.  Right now, it is trial and error.  

  

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• Kmape36 member

  September 2013

  My DD can put herself to sleep but I have found that if I don't put her down at the very first sign of her being tired, she will cry for a bit. If i put her down at the first sign, she goes right to sleep and doesn't make a peep. I watch for her to rub her eyes. But even if she doesn't appear tired I put her down by 7:30 and she usually goes easily. Does your baby have sleep cues that you can watch for? Maybe try that and see if you can notice a difference in how much/little he cries.

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• BellaBean76 member

  September 2013

  @cassied7 How did LO do last night?  Any luck? 

  

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• Mandmeesh member

  September 2013

  I agree with @bellabean76, that one bad night doesn't necessarily mean regression.  I would stick with it if you feel like CIO is right for the two of you.  I wouldn't personally do it, but with the sleeping routine I'm comfortable with, I do it every night (no matter what) to establish a routine with my LO

  
  

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• cassied7 member

  September 2013

  BellaBean76 said:

  @cassied7 How did LO do last night?  Any luck? 

  He skipped his last nap yesterday, so he was awake from 2:30-7.  I made him an 8oz bottle incase he really did need more, but he was soooo tired that he only ate 1oz and fell asleep.  He slept until 10pm and I gave him the rest of the bottle and he slept for 6 hours straight.  When he woke up at 4am, I nursed him and he again went right back to sleep until 6:30.  In my mind it was a success. I think I might need to try to keep him up more during the day.  

  

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• BellaBean76 member

  September 2013

  Cheers!  It sounds like he was just waking bc he was hungry...definitely successful.  Great job mommy!

  

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• BellaBean76 member

  September 2013

  @andertrr I sometimes feel like a superstitious professional athlete...doing everything exactly the same so that we can "continue the winning streak" in the game of sleep;)

  

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• cassied7 member

  September 2013

  BellaBean76 said:

  Cheers!  It sounds like he was just waking bc he was hungry...definitely successful.  Great job mommy!

  Thanks!  And thank you to everyone for your support and kind words!

  

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