PSA - Things I wish I had known 16 weeks ago...

CaliCarly77 · September 2013

Thought I would start a thread since there seem to be a lot of new faces here! MoMs to be, and MoMs please feel free to add to it!

1- Breath. It will be ok.

2- Buy larger maternity clothes than you need - you may grow out of it super quickly. Don't splurge on the designer jeans - those lasted me, ugh, 8 weeks? WASTE!

3 - Don't stress about eating - aka Dr. Luke's book - I could barely put food in my mouth the first 12 weeks, then I gained like 6 lbs in a week and now I have to watch what I eat because I was gaining too fast! Get through those first weeks doing what you can, and eat right, but don't stress over it!

4 - Don't be worried or embarrassed about calling your doctor or the ER about anything - who cares what they think, and likely they will be happy you called. The two times I called I was shocked how seriously the doctor took it, and I was glad I did!!!

5 - Join a local Mothers of Multiples club - I have gotten so much free stuff from them, and some cheap car seats, and they provide GREAT support!

ks3pink · September 2013

Just wanted to add...

6 - start saving money, two babies is exponentially expensive

7 - during your pregnancy and the newborn stage sleep whenever possible, 13 months later sleep is still a precious commodity

8 - start working on your comebacks for all the nosy, rude and annoying things you will be getting asked every time you run to target

I'm sure there's more but those are my top three right now.

nblondheim · September 2013

Love this thread! I can't wait to read what else is added!!!

carrotcake06 · September 2013

Take the help. Sure you could do it yourself, but if you don't have to, an extra set of hands can be sanity-saving.

Brummy14 · September 2013

Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

Having my shower early, getting everything ready between weeks 22 and 26 was spot-on -- I was on bed rest the Monday following my shower, and the girls decided to arrive 3 weeks later! Having been overprepared allowed for a quick transition at work (we had started that process early, as well), minimal effort at home on anything while allowing for maximum NICU time, and many fewer things to worry about -- when we had PLENTY to worry about with the girls arriving so early.

raraavis28 · September 2013

Be your own advocate, and take care of yourself. Listen to your body and if you need to take it easy, TAKE IT EASY. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're a "wimp" if you can't do everything you used to. Making two (or more!) human beings is one of the most physically demanding things you can do.

Talk with your DH about your expectations and comfort levels with numbers of visitors and family involvement and keep the lines of communication open on this topic. I really wish we had done this....would have saved us a world of drama and grief later.

TheDairyQueenx3 · September 2013

Can I add two things I swear I see these two a few times a week? Yes it is normal to not feel much movement from one twin or the other or to go days between or feel it later on etc. you know your babies call if your worried. morning sickness can last the whole pregnancy. General range for maternity cloths starts between 15 to 20ish weeks. Oh and the vanishing twin. You will hear horror stories and sometimes even from your OB try not to stress as there is nothing you can do just enjoy your pregnancy and take it day by day with the blessings you have been given. Check the threads chances are your question was asked within the last few days/weeks. Also STAY OFF GOOGLE! For medical advice if you are that worried just call your L&D or OB. With that said I have gotten fantastic advice on here we are MoMs not doctors. we support each other and offer friendly advice and suggestions among a lot more it's a great community to connect with others who understand the stupid phrases like " oh I have a 3 year old and an 18 month old I understand how it is to have twins". That turned out to be a lot more than 2 haha sorry! My thoughts kept rolling its early! But great thread I wish this was done a while ago!! It's all useful and I one spot. It should be read before joining

marcobonny · September 2013

Thank you everyone for the advice! So helpful!!

ballygirl · September 2013

marchesa28 said:
Be your own advocate, and take care of yourself. Listen to your body and if you need to take it easy, TAKE IT EASY. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're a "wimp" if you can't do everything you used to. Making two (or more!) human beings is one of the most physically demanding things you can do.

I second this! So important to listen to your body and slow down!

A2TP · September 2013

Brummy14 said:

Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

But also plan for the best. I was so focused on planning for the worst that I had in no way mentally prepared myself for carrying my twins to a scheduled c-section at 38w2d with minimal complications. My first son was 3.5 weeks early and everyone was convinced that the twins would be as well. I was an emotional mess at the end because I hadn't really mentally prepared for the physical limitations, etc. of carrying twins that long.

LucyRicardo3 · September 2013

i wish i had researched my durable medical equipment benefits when pg with my twins.
i just found out this pregnancy that my insurance would have covered the rental of a hospital grade pump with a drs rx since they were born early.
my old pump just wasn't strong enough to help me keep up a supply for twins.

edited for typos from the tablet

JodiAriel · September 2013

A2TP said:

Brummy14 said:

Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

But also plan for the best. I was so focused on planning for the worst that I had in no way mentally prepared myself for carrying my twins to a scheduled c-section at 38w2d with minimal complications. My first son was 3.5 weeks early and everyone was convinced that the twins would be as well. I was an emotional mess at the end because I hadn't really mentally prepared for the physical limitations, etc. of carrying twins that long.

This! I see all the time peoples due date with "realistic" due date. I stopped working at 35 weeks thinking I would have them within 2 weeks. I spent the next 5 weeks sitting on the couch. Just because some twins come early doesn't mean all twins come early.

JoDoc · September 2013

JodiAriel said:

This! I see all the time peoples due date with "realistic" due date. I stopped working at 35 weeks thinking I would have them within 2 weeks. I spent the next 5 weeks sitting on the couch. Just because some twins come early doesn't mean all twins come early.

I agree with you. My due date is Dec 14th and have said we'll be happy if they stay in until the end of November. I'm not planning on staying home until my body tells me I need to (or my doctor tells me). I'd much rather not be on bed rest unless necessary, and won't stay home unless I physically can't continue working. I have no plans to decide to stay home "just in case". That won't work for me.

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