one and done?

LisaLisa1980 · September 2013

I always thought we'd have 2 kids, but now that I have DS I just love him so much!! I love the 3 of us being this small little family, makes me wonder if we should just leave it this way. I would feel bad if he was an only child, but I don't want to share him haha. Maybe it'll change when he's older, but right now I would be ok with just the 3 of us. where do you stand?

amberdanielle68845 · September 2013

I've always wanted 2, at first my SO was one and done bc he's not good with babies but now that he's better with DD he would like another. DD was about a month old when I had a brief time where I didn't know if I would be able to share my love with another child. So I get where your coming from.

kgs0505 · September 2013

I felt the same after we brought our son home too. But shortly before he turned one, I started thinking about him having a sibling, and really wanting that for him. Now that I have my girls, I can't imagine them not being here. I guess my point is, see how you feel about it after a couple years before making any permanent decisions. I really thought for a while we would be ok with just one, and I changed my mind after awhile.

We are totally done now though! I may want more one day, but it isn't practical or affordable. Plus I'm getting old

jlpev · September 2013

kgs0505 said:
I felt the same after we brought our son home too. But shortly before he turned one, I started thinking about him having a sibling, and really wanting that for him. Now that I have my girls, I can't imagine them not being here. I guess my point is, see how you feel about it after a couple years before making any permanent decisions. I really thought for a while we would be ok with just one, and I changed my mind after awhile.

We are totally done now though! I may want more one day, but it isn't practical or affordable. Plus I'm getting old

This! My son loves kids so much and I just knew he needed a buddy! He loves his sister so much and this will help keep him from being so spoiled. We always wanted 2 and now were done!! Your baby is still young and I wouldn't make the decision yet.

prazenjc · September 2013

I always wanted at least two, really value the experience of a sibling. I would have been okay if we didn't have #2, but am so glad we did. We had to do IVF to have both, so we really had to want it to go thru it for each.....especially at our age (I'm in my 40s now).

erinmc1 · September 2013

I can't decide. We adopted my son, and then my hubby left for deployment, so I've raised our son for the last 5 months pretty much solo. While I always dreamed of at least 2 kids, pretty much my only experience is being a single parent, and it hasn't always been fun. I have no idea what it would be like to share the responsibility, and I also don't want my husband NOT to have the opportunity to experience the firsts he's missed. So I guess I'm open to it, but I'd also be ok with it just being the 3 of us.

pinkpinot · September 2013

My baby still doesn't sleep through the night and I can't imagine going through this again..whilst juggling a toddler so I'm pretty sure I'm OAD.

EmilyStL · September 2013

I wanted to be one and done for a long time after my dd was born, and didn't start questioning myself until my she was probably around 15/16 months. I got pregnant when she was 19 months. Two just feels right to me; I think even when I was "sure" we'd only have one, deep down I knew our family would be complete with a second.

smellychelly25 · September 2013

I am pretty sure I am one and done. I had a great pregnancy but a terrible delivery and I wouldnt want to go through that again.

despmama · September 2013

It took me years after my first baby to decide I wanted another one.

singingmama13 · September 2013

Sometimes on hard days, I think "1 is good!"

But deep down I know that for me, I want more. My hubby and I want 4.. but some days I just think NO WAY haha!!

I think in the moment while you have a newborn it's hard to think about having others.. so i'm just going to give it time and go with the flow. I definitely want another though, so my baby girl can have a sibling. In the bigger picture, I want more family to love!!!

You'll make the right and best decision for you and your family!!

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