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A fun conversation

mommyilenemommyilene member
in October 2013 Moms
So at the L and D tour we were told we can have up to 3 people with us on the delivery room (assuming I get to try a vaginal birth please dear Lord let that happen!!). I want hubby and my parents with me. My parents have been my support system my whole life an now my hubby is in on that so of course I want them three with me.

I get to have a conversation with my MIL that she will be in the waiting room with everyone else. Oh joy!! Hurt feeling are inevitable but I feel I need to do what's best for me and what will keep me relaxed in that situation. My MIL is not it...
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  • MegN423MegN423 member
    Sounds like it worked out for the best anyway! You definitely don't want anyone in the room that will make you feel uncomfortable of anxious. 
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  • pmarie33pmarie33 member
    Why can't your husband tell his mother?
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  • vargasgurlvargasgurl member
    pmarie33 said:

    Why can't your husband tell his mother?

    Agree w this ... Make him do the dirty work!
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  • mommyilenemommyilene member
    Oh MIL is doesn't know she is in the waitin room yet. She is assuming she is in the delivery room.

    I thought about making hubby tell her but it is my choice and I want her to be mad at me not him...
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  • Wino0920Wino0920 member
    That's cool you want your dad in there. I wasn't modest at all but that would have been my line.

    Has your MIL even talked about being in there or are you assuming she'll want to?
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  • mommyilenemommyilene member
    I wasn't even sure if my dad would want to be in there but he does. He wants to make sure I am ok an like I said he's part of my support system.

    No my MIL wants to be in there but since I'm allowed 3 people it goes to hubby and parents. I was hoping there was limit so I don't have to hurt her feelings even more by saying I don't want you there. I know that sounds bad but I just don't want her in there...
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  • kkss357kkss357 member
    mommyilene said:
    Oh MIL is doesn't know she is in the waitin room yet. She is assuming she is in the delivery room. I thought about making hubby tell her but it is my choice and I want her to be mad at me not him...
    Does your DH not support your decision?  It sounds like you guys need to be a united front with his mom.  I would have him tell her.
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  • calibr8tecalibr8te member
    Honestly I can't understand why people feel the need to be in the delivery room with one of their pregnant fam members. I don't even want to be in the room, but I am sol on that one. I am hoping FI will stick by my head so that we can have sex again sometime in the next decade. And as to why anyone else wants to see you stretched to high hell is just baffling to me. The waiting room is a much friendlier place.


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  • MangoMama82MangoMama82 member
    My hospital said I can have whoever I want in the room, but I only want my husband in there. Still gotta tell mom that... I have a feeling she won't be too offended. To my face anyway.
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  • MichellepinerMichellepiner member
    DH will be the only one in there and I have never been afraid to tell anyone that. Family will understand hopefully, or get over it eventually. What's really important is bringing a healthy human into the world, don't stress about the logistics.

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    calibr8te said:
    Honestly I can't understand why people feel the need to be in the delivery room with one of their pregnant fam members. I don't even want to be in the room, but I am sol on that one. I am hoping FI will stick by my head so that we can have sex again sometime in the next decade. And as to why anyone else wants to see you stretched to high hell is just baffling to me. The waiting room is a much friendlier place.

    I totally agree with this. I was with my best friend in the delivery room (single Mom situation and I was her "coach") and it was not a pleasant experience. I don't understand why extended family thinks this is some public event to watch.


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  • CrinitaCrinita member
    I totally agree that this is *not* a public event to watch.  That's why I have been adamant from the beginning that it's just me, DH, the baby and the birthing center staff in the room.  It's up to you who you want to be there and that is that. 
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  • elllafelllaf member
    mommyilene said:

    Oh MIL is doesn't know she is in the waitin room yet. She is assuming she is in the delivery room.

    I thought about making hubby tell her but it is my choice and I want her to be mad at me not him...

    Ive never understood why anyone "assumes" they get to be in the delivery room. ..unless they were there when the baby making took place everyone else should "assume" they're waiting outside unless told otherwise.

    Stick to your guns and good luck with the convo!
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