I am interested in hearing opinions about this, and if anyone has done it I would love to hear about your experience! I find egg donation to be a hot topic whenever it is brought up so I figured I would see what you ladies thought
Would you ever consider donating your eggs? Companies compensate up to $10k (however most are around $6500) per cycle. If you did donate would it be for the money or the satisfaction? I have heard many people say that they would constantly be wondering where their child was, I'm not sure if I would or not...what about you?
Re: Would you?
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I don't think I would. Just because I would always wonder if my genes were out there somewhere.
Is there a shortage of egg donors?
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I "knew" 2 women (from another, non-pregnancy related message board) who built a friendship. One struggled with IF for years and the other offered to be a surrogate. Unfortunately it had a sad ending, but I thought it was amazing and selfless. I don't think I could make that kind of sacrifice, but I'm in awe of women who do.
I'm all for donation whether it be organ, eye, tissue, sperm or egg donation and while I'm quick to say I definitely would, I think I'd be far more hesitant should the opportunity ever arise. I suppose it's a moot point anyway since my medical history probably takes me out of the picture.
I don't think morally I could do it for the money. I mean, sure it'd be nice, but the main reason I would do it would be to help someone who wants a child.
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When I first read the OP, my initial thought was "absolutely, yes!" but then reading everybody else's response made me consider other aspects. I wouldn't have initially thought of an egg as "my child". I realize that my son started out as an egg, but the two are just so far removed in my mind. I think that donating an egg would be a heavy decision, and there would be a lot to consider when doing it. I think I could probably come to the conclusion that it is something I would be capable of doing. Being a surrogate, no way. I would be way too attached after carrying a baby for 9 months.
All of this. There are so many inaccuracies about IF, egg donation and adoption in this thread that I'm not never going to touch it. But, everything @talon1226 said is completely correct.
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This exactly.
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This is not comepletely a dig at you, but maybe you can give me your stance.
I have seen so many comments about how couples shouldn't do IVF (or other fertility treatments) because there are so many children that need good homes through adoption. I even saw one comment that said couples going through IVF are being selfish and should choose the selfless act of adoption. Here's my question, why are IF couples judged for not adopting, but no one ever judges the fertile couple that gets pregnant on their own for not adopting? If all of these children are waiting to be adopted, maybe everyone that is TTC need to stop creating "more children" and just adopt the existing ones?
To answer the original question, I doubt that I would be an egg donor (or given my first IVF cycle that I would even be a good candidate). DH and I have discussed possibly donating embryos, if we end up with "extra" embryos once we are done having kids.
ETA: I would consider egg donation for a family member or close friend, but I would not be doing it for the compensation.
Disclaimer: I think adoption is a great choice and may be an option for us down the road. I also think that people have some serious misconceptions about the adoption process.
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One of my coworkers donated her eggs recently. She is very thin and her belly swelled so much, it looked like she had a little baby bump. The hormones were kind of crazy too, she had to take quite a bit of time off of work for the procedure and feeling under the weather during the hormone treatments leading up to it. I'm sure like pregnancy, every experience is different, but for me it seems like too big of an ordeal to do just for the money. I would probably do it to help someone I know though.