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The worst kind of fake (SF)

Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member
edited September 2013 in Blended Families

Some of you might recall that DH is friends with SF' EXW on FB. DH's cousin is friends with her and they keep in contact since we gave her some information about the way we saw her DD treated when she was in BM and SF's custody. Their custody situation was really messy. BM and SF essentially kidnapped her from a relative's house one weekend (the EXW lived 4 hours away) when they were just going to visit her and then filed for emergency custody citing abandonment. This part had come straight from BM. They told us they told the family member they were taking her to eat at McDonald's and they never returned her. Had her for about 6 months while the various court proceedings were going on, and then she was returned to the EXW because the abandonment was unfounded. This was around Christmas one year. SF got EOW visitation after this. (Meanwhile SF and the EXW were still not officially divorced). Then the following year, SF filed again for emergency custody this time for drug use and finally completed the divorce (because he and BM were about to get married) they once again had her for about 6 months. During this time we heard all sorts of horror stories from my SKs who were witnesses to a huge custody battle. IMO in knowing BM well, we believe she wanted custody of the SD because then she could have her "perfect" little family. This was about 5 years ago the girl started acting out at school and at home but at the same time this is when DH and I witnessed her being treated like a second class citizen. SF was out on the road alot and BM was stuck dealing with her. There was some sort of incident at school where she threw or tried to throw a desk (she would have been about 6 at the time-she's the same age as my oldest SS). They had court and SF signed something giving the EXW all legal custody. He was basically trying to sign over rights but they didn't let him. (this part I don't know the specifics on). According the the EXW he cried like a baby the whole time and which lead her to also believe that this decision was because of BM. Anyway, since we knew that he went and saw her 1x about a year later where the EXW had moved. The EXW will randomly FB chat with DH to ask how the kids are doing and tell us how they are doing. Each time she mentions how she wishes SF would see her DD but he doesn't call or write or pay CS.

Well this morning DH emails me a screenshot of the EXW's status that basically says: "My blood is boiling!!!!First of all, he can't even spell her name right!Second, he knew where she was up until a year ago! She never got a card or phone call, no contact what so ever! Third, we went to court and he handed her over to me! I let (the DD's name) read this and she flat out called him a liar! And also, if he cared so much then he would make sure she was taken care of, not be $21,000 behind in child support!!"

She had a screenshot of SF's FB status with the post. His status said: "Today is a very special little girl's birthday. She turned 11 today. Happy Birthday (misspelled first name) (his last name), it just sucks that 4 years ago your mom stole you from me and I don't know where you are, but one day I will get to hold you again."

I want to puke. This jerk pretends to be father of the year. I wish we were FB friends so I could call him out, although I probably wouldn't. I'm just not the type, but I wish I were sometimes.. We know where she is and she did live in the same place that he had last visited her for the first 4 years. It's also sad that he doesn't realize it's been five years since they really stopped seeing her. I wish my SKs didn't have to be a part of this web of lies. My SKs literally think that the EXW is evil and doesn't "let" him see her. Public records prove otherwise. I'm so glad SF can live with himself pretending to be father of the year meanwhile literally abandoning his own child.

 

DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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Re: The worst kind of fake (SF)

  • +just+j++just+j+ member
    Father of the Year Syndrome has been in the air A LOT lately. 
    "he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    Reading this made my stomach churn.  That poor little girl has been through so much.  I just hope ExW is keeping that poor girl oblivious to the hatred ExW undoubtedly (and justifiably it seems) feels.
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  • CheerileeCheerilee member
    SS's bio mom pulls the same crap, playing "woe-is-me, mother of the year, my ex took my baby away" when in reality she chooses not to see him even when we FORCE it on her.  She saw him for 2 total hours in 3 weeks two and a half months ago and we've not heard from her since.
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  • twister22twister22 member
    SF sounds like a piece of sh!t, and BM sounds like a horror.
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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    oh wow. I cannot believe that men like this exist if it weren't for the posts I read on this board.

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  • Lavender PLavender P member
    I guess he has to tell himself something to be able to sleep at night. He's obviously not going to blame himself....that would actually be taking responsibility for something and he's shown he can't do that. His poor DD. I think it would kill me to know my BD wasn't taking care of me but was taking care of someone else's kids.
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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    I have three "friends" on FB that I know damn well lost their children for drug use and/or neglect, and then still post about how much they just LOOOOOVE and miss their kids all the time. If they weren't crazy as fuck and likely to retaliate, I would so give in to my urges and write a sarcastic asshole response to their statuses. It pisses me off so bad. 

    Just remember. People like that aren't fooling anyone. Anyone with half a brain who is actually close enough to care knows what really happened. 
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  • dannie2011dannie2011 member
    Sounds like my Ex. He hasn't spoken, emailed, sent a letter never mind seeing the kids in over 6 yrs. He pulls the same crap how I stole his kids and he will never see them again. Thing is when he lived with us he never saw them he was too busy getting drunk/high.

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  • KTdiditKTdidit member

    WTF is with some of these people?! And the sad part is no matter who calls this douchebag out on any of it he still won't ever admit he did anything wrong.

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