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BSR: I'm really torn.

GopherBaby13GopherBaby13 member
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Two of my aunts on my dad's side are throwing my baby shower. I am incredibly grateful and so excited! I think I have thanked the one I have been in contact with 50 times whenever I have spoken with or emailed her. I have been agonizing over what to give both of them as a thank you gift.

So I asked two of my cousins (one is the daughter of one of the aunts throwing it, the other is the DIL) what they gave for a gift or what she thought her mom might like. Neither one of them knew what I was talking about as they haven't heard of hostess gifts. Both have hosted several showers for their friends and each one had a bridal and baby shower. Now I'm wondering if they just aren't given in my area.

I'm tempted to ask more of my cousins who have had showers thrown for them by our family to see what they say. If I were to get them both something, I am not incredibly close enough with them to know what they would like (dad is one of 12 siblings and I grew up with them all about an hour away so it was hard to get close close with them). Ugh. This is the kind of stuff I think about when I can't sleep at night. Help!
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  • Zilly13Zilly13 member
    Honestly I'm not much for hostess gifts - I've hosted plenty of events and only once did someone get me a hostess gift; for my shower I got my MIL/SIL a bouquet of flowers and a nice thank you card.  I think in your case something like that would be fine.

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  • MsCrispyMsCrispy member

    I don't think you have to give a thank you gift, but I have found they are very well received. Hosting showers costs a decent amount of money and time, so I think it deserves a small gift, but I wouldn't sweat it too much.


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  • fluttergirlmoonchild79fluttergirlmoonchild79 member
    FWIW, I've never given hostess gifts - nor ever heard of people getting them.  I guess it's just not a thing around here.

     

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  • JennOH85JennOH85 member
    Hostess gifts aren't required per say, but I think they mean a lot to the people receiving them. It doesn't have to be anything fancy or expensive. I gave my hostesses baskets of veggies from our garden along with a candle. It was very simple but I think they appreciated the thought.
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  • GopherBaby13GopherBaby13 member
    I absolutely am planning on at least getting each a nice card. Too bad peonies aren't in season because the aunt who is having it at her house LOVES peonies. She is a gardener and I know she is incredibly picky about her flowers. My dad is a window cleaning/new construction interior cleaner and both aunts REALLY like it when he does their windows for parties that they plan. He always charges them full price but I wonder if getting him to clean them for free would be ok? Can you tell I'm putting way too much thought into this?
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  • Maimes10Maimes10 member
    My sister is hosting and I am getting her the family pandora bead.  She's put a lot of thought, work and money into my shower and i want to show her my appreciation.  I'm sure she is not expecting it though because I've never received a hostess gift when doing a baby shower before, I don't think its common in our area (Northeast).
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  • record2bexoxorecord2bexoxo member
    When sending out thank you cArds to guest, do you thank them for the actual gift or just for being there. I'm lost ha
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  • GopherBaby13GopherBaby13 member
    Both.
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  • AlisonM12AlisonM12 member
    I'm wondering if the etiquette differs from region to region? Since moving to the east coast I've noticed more importance on giving gifts than I did in the Midwest.
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  • lmcgtlmcgt member
    I think it's a nice gesture. I have three hostesses so I just made a pumpkin spice sugar scrub and will include a thank you note. Super cheap and easy!

    I'll tell you the gift giving deal that has me stumped is the nurse gifts at the hospital. I had never heard of this but apparently many people do it but it's stressing me out a bit just thinking about it! :-S
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  • EdvoncupacakeEdvoncupacake member
    Do what feels right to you. I wanted to do something for the women who threw our shower. I had 3 shower hostesses, 2 of which have dietary restrictions. I made them diet friendly peach crisps with homemade caramel sauce, and sent them thank you cards for the gifts they also gave us. It was easy to do, budget friendly and personal.
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