Auli was 6 lbs 14 oz at birth and can't fit her little mouth around my giant areolae to latch. The midwives have me trying her at the breast for every feed for at least 10 minutes at a time, but she gets so frustrated so easily and fusses and wails at my nipple. I'm pumping and DH and i feed her with my finger, a tiny tube and a syringe. It's been a little over a week of this and Auli is finally up to her birth weight. We have tiny breakthroughs every few days. Three days ago she fell asleep at the breast and let the milk pour into her mouth without a real latch, but no fussing. I cried I was so happy. Then yesterday during one of her feeds she sorta latched (and unlatched and rooted, latched and unlatched.....) over and over for a good 10 min and managed to remember to suck and swallow a good 10 or 15 times in there.
Is anyone else going through this or similar latch or breast feeding issues? My new mantra has been "two steps forward, one step back" and I repeat it to myself when I'm feeling low.
Re: Anyone else finger feeding (or have?) I need support.
I highly recommend a sheild for a while, till they get the hang of things!
I'm going to talk to my midwife/LC about a nipple sheild starting next week if she hasn't started nursing yet. I worry about it affecting my supply, though, because it seems my breasts haven't gotten into a rhythm yet. Some pumps they barely give me anything, and then others they spurt like a geyser.
Good luck!
I should add that he was 6lb 6oz at birth so he was a tiny little guy. He's now 4 weeks old. Hang in there! As she grows it'll get better. At least you're giving her the breast so she can work on latching better.
Sounds like she will get there, just working on her own timeline! Hang in there...
All of this to say that it can be a slow process, but it does get better! Those first weeks were rough. I cried often, felt like a failure that my boobs didn't work for her, and felt like we'd never make any progress. When the lactation consultant told me "it just takes time", I wanted to slap her because I was so overwhelmed and upset.. But she was right. Just keep taking one day at a time and know that you're doing the best you can and it will get better. Try to get her to latch when she's drowsy or calm alert, and be very mindful of how she's latching each and every time (it's easy to get frustrated and just try to latch them in any way possible). If it doesn't work, try again next time. If she's crying/upset at breast, just go to the finger so she doesn't associate the breast with being a source of frustration/upset. You will both get there, I promise! I don't know about you, but no one told me breastfeeding/motherhood would be like this! Hugs for you and everyone else struggling with BF.
I had issues like this with my eldest, he was born at 36 weeks and his suck reflex wasn't great, and I had pretty flat nipples, I went to the nipple shield straight away and was able to go to just nipple at around 3 weeks, although he still struggled to latch for another 6 weeks or so, it was a long struggle, but definitely worth it.
Just to let you know, what you get when you pump is often not related to how much supply you have when the baby nurses, for example, if I only pump, in one session I could get 40-50 ml, but if I nurse and then pump (the last time I did this I nursed and DS2 took 28ml) then I get around 80ml on top of what I nursed, which is double, because the let down is so much better when the baby nurses, so going to the nipple shield may affect your supply a little, but I wouldn't worry about it too much, with regards to how much you are getting when you pump.
I'm having LOTS more skin to skin time with Auli, and we both get naked before we attempt a breast feed. I let her root her way down to the breast and she always attempts to latch, even if she's fussy about it. It apparently stimulates her instinct to nurse.
I'm also almost always finger feeding her when she's right at the (naked) breast. I don't care how messy it gets (we both get covered in milk because my nipples leak all over the place) but I want her to associate my breast with comfort and milk.
I also wanted to say to everyone here, especially to @Kristonita12 , that we're all doing a good job with our babies--whether we were successful or not with breastfeeding. I know the heartache of resorting to a bottle and feeling like a failure, but we can't do that to ourselves. We are feeding our babies, and no one loves them and is more devoted to their well being than we are. We're all doing our best, and should be proud.
I'm still seeing progress with Auli every day. They really are baby steps, but I remain confident that this will work out.
The more I read success stories, the more I'm confident Auli will get it. I'm determined, and she is still showing such strong signs of interest, that I know this will work.
My mother had trouble with me when I was born too. I had severe jaundice (ABO incompatibility--hemolytic disease of the newborn) and was too weak to nurse for a couple weeks after birth. My mother's milk dried up, but she decided to try to start nursing me anyway when I was a month old. I was exclusively formula fed from a bottle at the time, but she sat with me every day and let me suck at her breast, and eventually I got the hang of it and her milk came back in.
BFP: 1/17/13 EDD: 9/20/13 Dalenna Rose Born: 40 wks 4 days 9/24/13
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