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Please tell me I'm not a bad mom
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Because I feel like a shitty parent these days. In case you can't see my ticker, DS is 3.5.
All of a sudden he keeps peeing on his bedroom floor. He's been potty trained for months. Twice he's peed in a bedroom at my parents house. The second time it happened there was Friday and DH and I had a long talk with him about only peeing in the toilet. We ran a quick errand and left him with my parents and he peed in the backyard.
On top of that, he is just wild sometimes. He runs around doing this weird growl-like noise, blowing raspberries, dumping toys out and then not playing with them, throwing toys...occasionally he'll hit one of us if he's mad about being told to/not to do something. I don't know if its a delayed reaction to DD's arrival in July, something he's picking up at preschool or a normal phase?? He gets lots of one on one with me and DH still because DD takes long naps. We still go out and do our normal activities during the day. He's sleeping and eating fine.
My mom keeps making me feel like crap with her snarky comments. She thinks he's a wild out of control brat. Most of the time he's my same sweet little boy. But sometimes It's like he's possessed by the devil. Do all kids go through this at 3.5? Should I be more concerned about the peeing?
Help? I need wine and maybe a hug. This parenting thing is hard as hell sometimes
All of a sudden he keeps peeing on his bedroom floor. He's been potty trained for months. Twice he's peed in a bedroom at my parents house. The second time it happened there was Friday and DH and I had a long talk with him about only peeing in the toilet. We ran a quick errand and left him with my parents and he peed in the backyard.
On top of that, he is just wild sometimes. He runs around doing this weird growl-like noise, blowing raspberries, dumping toys out and then not playing with them, throwing toys...occasionally he'll hit one of us if he's mad about being told to/not to do something. I don't know if its a delayed reaction to DD's arrival in July, something he's picking up at preschool or a normal phase?? He gets lots of one on one with me and DH still because DD takes long naps. We still go out and do our normal activities during the day. He's sleeping and eating fine.
My mom keeps making me feel like crap with her snarky comments. She thinks he's a wild out of control brat. Most of the time he's my same sweet little boy. But sometimes It's like he's possessed by the devil. Do all kids go through this at 3.5? Should I be more concerned about the peeing?
Help? I need wine and maybe a hug. This parenting thing is hard as hell sometimes
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Re: Please tell me I'm not a bad mom
The weird growly noises are pretty common in little boys that age, especially when they want attention. They don't know a more appropriate way of asking for it, so they basically act like little idiots. My oldest was a pro.
Dumping out toys is fun. It makes a cool noise and a big mess. Awesome boy-fun.
Even my youngest, who is the sweetest, most tractable kid ever, hits now and then when he gets super frustrated with me.
And the peeing. This summer, my oldest said "Hey, mom, you know when I was three? I used to pee behind the chair in my room all the time." I was like, wait, what???? "Yeah, I don't know why. I just did. I haven't done it in a long time." The thing is, I knew there was a bunch of pee behind that chair, but it was at the same time my dog was failing and became incontinent, and I always assumed it was him. And we replaced the carpet shortly after.
Stay strong. This will pass.
I really needed to hear all that! Glad I could make you laugh
He also makes a lot of random, non-human sounds.
He has been potty trained for a year. The other day he had an "accident" in his underwear totally out of the blue. Thinking something was wrong I asked him why he peed in his underwear and he shrugged his shoulders and said "I don't know, mama. I just wanted to pee in my underwear."
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One day my mom went to clean my little brother's room when he was around 3 or 4. His closet smelled terrible and she was afraid the dogs were messing in his closet. She found the source was a shoe box. When she pulled it out, my little brother causally said " yeah that's me pee box." My mom said " What ? what is a pee box, why do you have a pee box ?" He just looked at her like she was stupid and said " Mom, that's the box I pee in." Apparently, if he has to pee in the middle of the night, instead of using the bathroom next door, my brother decided it was best to pee in a box in his closet. She threw it away and told him he needed to pee in the toilet from now on. She couldn't believe how casual he was about it, as if everyone had a pee box.
My DS is 2.5 but he too is going through a growling stage. He also throws toys, food and himself on the ground when he doesn't get his way.
I have a feeling your mom forgot what it is like to have a toddler in the house.
On the subject of peeing in other places than the toilet, DS1 used to pee in the bathroom garbage every single morning when he was 3, going on 4. I have no idea why. I would just dump the garbage in the trash outside and have him scrub out the pail.