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miscarriage or 3 weeks off gestational age?! :(

mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
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I had my first doctor's appointment today. Based on my last period, which is typically regular, I figured myself around 8 weeks 5 days. The ultrasound technician measured me at only 5 weeks 6 days. How realistic is it to be hopeful that my dates are off our it was mistake and we just couldn't see the fetus? All we saw was the yolk sac and the cord, no fetus or heartbeat. I'm going back in 4 days for another ultrasound, but I'm not sure much will change in 4 days, if the baby is still growing that is. Early 6 weeks may mean no heartbeat is visible yet... I'm afraid to walk away just as unsure as I was today. This is my first pregnancy, and I'm having a hard time keeping my emotions in check. I'dlike to stay positive but would also like to be realistic.
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Re: miscarriage or 3 weeks off gestational age?! :(

  • mdarmetkomdarmetko member
    I was going through the same thing and found some miracle stories, but my didn't end well.  When I went in around a little over 7 weeks, my sac was measuring 6w2d (which my midwife told me not to worry about) and there was a yolk sac and a fetal pole (which we didn't see the previous week), but no heart beat.  I went in a week later (last Friday) where I would have been over 8 weeks and the sac had shrunk to measure 5w3d and there was no more fetal pole.  I started to m/c on Monday. 

    That said, don't assume my ending has to be yours.  Like I said, I've read stories that turn out well.  For me, I decided to naturally m/c this time because I needed the closure and confirmation that way.  Best of luck to you, I hope everything turns out positively. 
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    BFP 5/08/13 -- EDD 1/15/14 -- slow hb@7wks d&c 6/07/13
    BFP 8/12/13 -- EDD 4/20/14 -- no fetal pole @7wksnatural m/c 9/16/13, cytotec 10/17 & 10/22
    BFP 11/26/13 -- EDD 8/07/14 -- Born 7/24/14!
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    Thank you for sharing. I planned a family get together this weekend to share our news... ordered a cake ( which I cancelled) and had shirts made fir my husband and i... now I'm not sure if I want to share with them what I'm going through? Or close friends? It's a strange feeling, but I feel like talking via messaging brings me comfort, but the idea of having to have a face to face conversation about it makes me start crying all over again.
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  • mdarmetkomdarmetko member
    I understand, it is definitely hard to speak about it face to face, especially when it is so raw.  It took me a while not to choke up when speaking to someone about it the first time.  I haven't had to verbally speak about it yet this time except with my husband and midwife, but I've txted and g-chatted about it, especially with my friend who has also suffered a mc.  I would let yourself heal a little bit more (especially if your mc has not passed yet).  But I'm weird, I get more upset when people offer condolences, and I DO NOT like to cry in front of people.  So for me, I just don't like talking about it in person until I know I can handle it :D  
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

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    BFP 5/08/13 -- EDD 1/15/14 -- slow hb@7wks d&c 6/07/13
    BFP 8/12/13 -- EDD 4/20/14 -- no fetal pole @7wksnatural m/c 9/16/13, cytotec 10/17 & 10/22
    BFP 11/26/13 -- EDD 8/07/14 -- Born 7/24/14!
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  • amandalou22amandalou22 member
    Same thing happened to me very recently...I feel like I know my cycle..even know the day we conceived. Went in for an u/s at 6w4d and the sac/yolk was measuring at 5w3d. The tech said it was normal for that gestational age but I KNEW something was off. I came home and convinced myself I must have ovulated late (but again, I always feel like I know when that's happening too). I also stay on top of my pregnancies by having my betas drawn like a crazy person, so the day of that u/s I did a blood draw...my levels had dropped by over 2000 points...so then I knew. Had another u/s this week and the sac is visible but empty now and measured at exactly 6 weeks. :( Now, just waiting on the next step.  Definitely don't give up hope because you could have ovulated late but this is my "real life" story. Sorry you're dealing with this!
     
     
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    Thanks for sharing, and I'm sorry for your loss :( I called today about doing an HCG test, but they said they don't do multiple/ comparative tests, so having just one is pointless. Luckily, the doctor agreed with my concerns that 4 days isn't long enough to tell a definitive difference, so I'm going back in 2 weeks instead. Should know for sure at that point... I'm trying to be mentally prepared for the news if it's what I'm thinking. It's so strange and frustrating, but my head is telling me it's so improbable, but my body and my heart are clinging to hope as I continue to feel like my LO is still with us.
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  • CryssteenCryssteen member
    How did it turn out?  I'm in the same place as you....... 
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  • amandalou22amandalou22 member
    This happened to me last month. I think you have to follow your gut...I knew I was about 7.5 weeks but u/s showed about 2 weeks behind. The tech didn't seem worried at all but I knew better. I wasn't charting but really only had sex twice that month and so I know when I had to of ovulated. I followed my gut......and I was right. Went back about 6 days later and the yolk we had previously seen was gone. That's just my story though...you truly could be a success. I just told myself right then and there that no way were the dates off.
     
     
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  • bunnycakes011508bunnycakes011508 member
    I hope it ends up alright! When you said you cancelled the cake it made me cry. I will tell you this- my first loss we didn't tell anyone. It took me 3 years to recover. Around the same time we told our family about it. I swore to myself that I would never put myself and my husband through that again- it was miserable dealing with it alone. Since then we've had 2 more losses and asked for comfort from family and friends and we've found it really does help. People really do love you and want to help out. They don't always know the right way to do it, but if you gently guide them, they really are wonderful. Hugs are the best. Good luck to you. I hope it ends well! 
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    Hi, all. Unfortunately my story doesn't have a happy ending. I miscarried naturally on October 1st. Definitely the hardest thing I've ever done. My emotions have been a roller coaster since, some days I'm fine, other days I'm a mess. My family and the few close friends we've told have been supportive, but no one I know has been through it. I'm grateful for this forum... it's been hard to bring myself to post, but reading all the stories has reminded me that I'm not alone in this.
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