Feeling guilty.

Mrs.Hizzo · September 2013

My dad called and asked if I would look into a short trip to a beautiful and historic beach hotel for him and my mom. It's a place I've visited, but never stayed at, and have always wanted to. I got back to my mom with the flight/rate info, and I joked that my sister and I would love to come along with our kids, and she jumped on it. "Would you? Oh, I don't know if you could on such short notice, but we would just love that." I know she's worried about traveling with my dad now that his cancer has progressed to the point that it's affecting his mobility.

So, long and the short of it is, I've got flights booked for myself and the boys for weekend after this one, and a room at this gorgeous hotel. And even at three nights, it's costing way too much money. And DH can't come because of work. So I'm feeling bad, and guilty for spending this much on a short trip he can't even come along on. It's not like we can't swing it, we can, but the money would be put to better use elsewhere. Given the state of my dad's health, though, I'm so glad to be going. I know he and my mom could use my help at the airport, and it will be so nice to spend a couple days with them. Sis is coming along, too, with at least one of her kids. DH is being totally cool about the whole thing, I just wish he were coming along and getting some enjoyment out of it!

strlitemiss · September 2013

Don't feel guilty, I'm sure your husband understands given the situation.

ASullivan1231 · September 2013

You will never regret this trip and the time you and your kids had with your Dad. Enjoy! It will be so special!

Socialworkgirl · September 2013

I totally agree with the others. I am sure your DH feels completely the same way about it.

MrsK&Baby · September 2013

When this sort of thing comes up, I always try to put myself in his shoes..if you were him, wouldn't you be supportive and want him to go and be happy with his parents? Send him a postcard every day you are gone and enjoy your trip!

catycate · September 2013

We just spent 500 we didn't have on a flight to California so I could go see my dying grandmother. No regrets at all, it put me at peace with a lot of things, and I also feel an empathy for my mother (who lives in the same town and is taking care of her) that I wouldn't have felt otherwise.

Louiej · September 2013

We just got off of a ridiculously expensive houseboat trip for the same reasons. I can tell you I wasn't thinking about my checkbook. I will remember the trip forever. I do wish we had gone sooner, he was pretty sick when we went. Go, and have fun.

Mrs.Hizzo · September 2013

Thanks, guys!

Minipenguin · September 2013

You can't put a price on memories. If you can swing it then you should spend time with them, enjoy time with them and help them enjoy it, too, since they need the help.