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Is this really ok?

bebe11bebe11 member
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To tell tell your almost 12 yr daughter who's wearing her glasses that you've always wanted to punch a girl with glasses on?

Yep, that would be my ex saying that to my dd tonight. I asked dd if he was trying to be funny and she said nope.

 

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  • kimmygirl77kimmygirl77 member
    What. The. Fuck???? Who says that to anyone much less your preteen daughter? I hope you nail his ass in court!!!
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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    She asked him why he always says that, he told her because its true.

     

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  • coopsbabycoopsbaby member
    Wow. Yeah, not even a little ok.
       
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  • Lavender PLavender P member
    It is NOT okay to say in any context but what the hell brought that up? She was wearing glasses and he said he always wanted ro punch a girl wearing them? WTF!
    "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." ~ Lao Tzu
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  • hopankahopanka member
    Umm yeah....re-think the part-time work thing while you're taking him to court. I think it's time his stupid ass started paying more child support to you for no good reason...actually, a good reason: You can start taking your DD to get her nails done on the regular with that increase. She deserves it.
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  • Karma1969Karma1969 member
    Not ok unless your a middle school bully and even then its not ok.
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  • Stacey099Stacey099 member
    Poor girl. Hope she doesn't let that bother her too much.

     

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  • SigirSigir member
    that is horrible. what is her reaction to this? Is she upset or does she laugh it off? what a sucky person. Don't you wonder sometimes why you procreated with him? I know I do w my exh.
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  • HopeforthebestHopeforthebest member

    what the ever lovin phuck?

    How about you give us his phone number so we can call him and tell him all the dumb things we'd like to do to him!?!? Mmkay?

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  • bebe11bebe11 member

    And it gets worse..  I am pretty sure I woke the devil when I posted about him not saying a word yet about the papers he was served.

    DD calls me this morning crying... her dad threw a donut at her (I am sure she was sassing), then he told her to ride in the back seat of the car because he didn't want to look at her face, she apparently accidently hit him with the car door and he he flew off the handle.  She calls me again crying telling me what happend.  He proceeds to call me white trash and then starts texting me (all while driving my dd to school).  in addition to white trash, I disgust him, I lie, I am a pathetic disgusting human being...etc.

    My DD, in the midst of her crying said "the only reason dad won't agree to Wednesdays is because he wants to make you (me) unhappy".  Really... he just can't seem to grasp that this is not about me, this is about his daughter, her needs, and her happiness.

    This pig of a man can't call me every name in the book, I really don't care because and it doesn't bother me, but the fact that treat my dd like this and sees NOTHING wrong with it?  I am pretty sure she stands up for me when he talks shit about me to her and that pisses him off.  None of this is ok or right.  I am just so pissed and annoyed right now.

     

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  • kimmygirl77kimmygirl77 member
    YES!!! Please, let your daughter tell a therapist, the judge, anyone who will listen how her asshole father treats her. Supervised visitation and parenting classes for him. What a jerk! He doesn't deserve your DD.....
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  • EarthandFireEarthandFire member
    jobalchak said:
    What the hell is wrong with this man?! Does he get some sort of sick pleasure from hurting his daughter?
     
    I will admit that what I'm about to suggest is extreme but here goes: I personally would file an Ex Parte to be heard tomorrow for an immediate change of visitation. Get your daughter into a therapist right now and demand BD only have supervised visits. No child should be treated the way he is treating your DD. That behavior is abusive. Your daughter is old enough to be heard and she NEEDS to be heard.
    Agreed. It's probably not about hurting his daughter, he's using DD as a tool to hurt Bebe11. He knows that if DD is in pain, it hurts her. Yes it makes her angry but to see her child go through that and hear her anguish is heartbreaking. It also probably makes her feel helpless because without a CO she doesn't have the power to stop what he is doing. I'm no expert but I'd say it's definitely abuse. He made the choice not to cooperate on mediate now he's been ordered to do it and can't make a choice so he's using DD as a tool to lash out at Bebe11 because he's frustrated he's being forced to do something he doesn't want to even if it's needed.
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  • KTdiditKTdidit member
    edited September 2013
    jobalchak said:
    What the hell is wrong with this man?! Does he get some sort of sick pleasure from hurting his daughter? I will admit that what I'm about to suggest is extreme but here goes: I personally would file an Ex Parte to be heard tomorrow for an immediate change of visitation. Get your daughter into a therapist right now and demand BD only have supervised visits. No child should be treated the way he is treating your DD. That behavior is abusive. Your daughter is old enough to be heard and she NEEDS to be heard.
    That guy is a complete waste of air. Saying that to her and then throwing something at her?! Who cares if it was just a donut, that is ridiculous! I completely agree with Jo, get her away from him
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  • twister22twister22 member
    That man shouldn't be allowed to be a father, he is so fucking disgusting. I am PISSED for you & your DD right now. T&Ps your way, and I hope things go well on Monday. BD doesn't even deserve supervised visits.
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  • +just+j++just+j+ member

    I would not engage in any conversations with that asshole.  I do recommend however, teaching your daughter coping skills for such behavior.

    "he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • Muffins_MomMuffins_Mom member
    I have no words. What an asshole.
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