July 2012 Moms

Wwj12d? long. Vent. Ahhhh

lilahbean13lilahbean13 member
edited September 2013 in July 2012 Moms
So here is some back story: I've been best friends with L for 13 years. We are so close that I was in the delivery room when her son was born-like holding her leg up right there in the action kind of thing.
So when I got pregnant, I had two showers. She was supposed to co host one of them but backed out after her name was printed on the invites and then she didnt even show up to my other shower. When Coop was born she never came to the hospital. When Coop turned one she did not come to her bday party because she was partying in Nola.
So fast fwd to now. She's engaged and is planning the bachelorette party. I told her I wouldn't make it because that's just not something hunter and I do. There are no trust issues just a respect thing-no strip clubs. So she blew up on me and completely went bat sh!t crazy when I said I wasn't going.
So today I told her I was going to throw her a shower to make up for it. I set up a private pole class with a lingerie party after. I told her the class has a max of nine.
Her response was that she is going to need to invite more so either book a bigger party or throw a different one. Then she said no lingerie cause her mil will be there. I said ok let's just do a themed bridal shower like "monogram and margs" or "shower the bride with gift cards" and she said that's not going to work cause she is registered on honey something . Com for honey moon related items only.

WTF! Am I being crazy ?? Is this normal ??? I was not this demanding and picky when people offered to spend their hard earned money throwing me a shower. I am at a loss and don't know what to do. She is my best friend and avoiding any more arguments would be great but damn! This is just absurd! Or is it???
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  • She sounds like she wears crazy pants. I think if you reeeally want to throw her a shower, just do something basic. She doesn't sound like much of a friend, I probably wouldn't waste my time on her anymore.
    FWIW, the shower you were planning sounds like fun.
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  • vanessaLC said:

    She sounds like she wears crazy pants. I think if you reeeally want to throw her a shower, just do something basic. She doesn't sound like much of a friend, I probably wouldn't waste my time on her anymore.
    FWIW, the shower you were planning sounds like fun.

    This is practically what my husband said too. It's such a tough situation to be in I hate this!!!
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  • She sounds like she wears crazy pants. I think if you reeeally want to throw her a shower, just do something basic. She doesn't sound like much of a friend, I probably wouldn't waste my time on her anymore.
    FWIW, the shower you were planning sounds like fun.
    This is practically what my husband said too. It's such a tough situation to be in I hate this!!!
    Yeah, it sounds like a pretty sucky situation. I think it speaks volumes to your character that you are so willing and eager to throw her a really cool shower after her being such a crummy friend.
    Good luck.
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  • jnoone said:

    I wouldn't offer anything else.  You won't be going to her strip club party because that's an understanding between you and your H.  If she doesn't get that, oh well, you don't have to explain yourself to her.  You offered more than one awesome shower, very generously, when you weren't obligated to do anything of the sort.  It wasn't good enough for her. 
    She seems childish, and I want to smack her.  I'm sorry.

    Exactly this. You're not even returning a favor since she didn't end up throwing a shower for you. You offered two great ideas and she refused. Buy her a nice gift and be done with it.
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  • What is your friend doing for her bacherlorette besides the strip club? Rather than go out if your way for your friend who obviously won't for you, it is possible to go a portion of the party like dinner or the bar but not go to the strip club?
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  • Sounds like she doesn't want you to throw her a shower. I'd wash my hands of the situation. Ain't nobody got time for that.
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  • She sounds crazy cakes. I don't know what you should do... I guess decide how much you value her friendship and make an effort at satisfying her demands accordingly? Sorry she is being such a bridezilla!

    I need to get that bridezillas show in on this. I agree with you though. I need to really thin
    jnoone said:

    I wouldn't offer anything else.  You won't be going to her strip club party because that's an understanding between you and your H.  If she doesn't get that, oh well, you don't have to explain yourself to her.  You offered more than one awesome shower, very generously, when you weren't obligated to do anything of the sort.  It wasn't good enough for her. 
    She seems childish, and I want to smack her.  I'm sorry.

    You are so right ! And now after seeing it this way I want to smack her too
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  • sworms914 said:

    What is your friend doing for her bacherlorette besides the strip club? Rather than go out if your way for your friend who obviously won't for you, it is possible to go a portion of the party like dinner or the bar but not go to the strip club?

    Her bachelorette party is about 8 hours away. It's a whole weekend in nola so I'm missing the whole thing
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  • BubbaJug said:

    Sounds like she doesn't want you to throw her a shower. I'd wash my hands of the situation. Ain't nobody got time for that.

    You would think with my honesty about it all, she would be honest with me about my wanting another shower. You're right aint nobody got time
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  • Thank y'all for your responses. It comforting to know that this is not normal and she is in fact crazy. Ill keep y'all updated on this disaster
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  • She sounds like she has become a pretty crappy friend.  It is nice gesture for you to throw her a party.  I know she may have some opinions on what/where it is but she sounds like she is being rude and ungrateful.  I think you should bow out of throwing the shower because it sounds like it is going to be a lot of stress and headache which you probably need.
  • Can I send you some scented soap?  Time to WASH YOUR HANDS!

    Love this lol
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