Baby fever/birthday angst

Mrs.G123 · September 2013

I don't know if I really have baby fever, or just hardcore nostalgia for DD being a newborn. I felt similarly torn up about DD1 turning 1. Anyone else?

lady dixneuf · September 2013

I have no desire to go back to the newborn stage! it's so much better now!

Wally3 · September 2013

No - I'm done and looking forward. I like the learning to walk, talk, become a person stage. I think it is fun to watch my boys interact and do more things together. It may help that I never want to be pg again. My bff has a squishy and I usually let her deal with squish and I help the older 2.

Petunia844 · September 2013

Yes.... I think it's partly because we agreed when I was still pregnant that we'd like to start trying when DS was 1. Now that it's here though we're moving in just over a month so it just doesn't make sense until probably more like Dec when we're totally settled in our new house. For me though, it's also that pregnancy is and will always be terrifying, I love being pregnant in some ways- but for the most part I want to be done. I want one more healthy, happy baby and I want the most terrifying thing I ever have to choose to do (repeatedly) to be in my rear view mirror.

Rachelilly23 · September 2013

I'm mostly with @ThisIsBrea on this one.

Also, my older two are 28 months apart and that is close enough in age, I don't want kids any closer than that even though I have waves of baby fever come and go.

morrkim · September 2013

We originally were talking about spacing them a year and a half apart so I keep thinking about that and wanting them that close in age, but I'm not ready for number two.

chricast · September 2013

We have said we were going to start trying again at a year. I am loving her at this stage too. Part of me wants to wait maybe another 6 months? I just want my body back for me - not to breast feed a little one or to create life, just for a little while. We will see what happens.

Starry Again · September 2013

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. I actually have somewhat of the opposite - we know we want another child but another newborn is overwhelming. Perhaps the next one won't have colic.

We hope to have them 3-4 years apart (only two kids).

LorMor · September 2013

Heh heh, this is the first time in my life that I don't have baby fever! (This = since T was born.) We'd like another at some point, but NOT now!

ac1259 · September 2013

Lol...for those with baby fever it can be quite a reality slap when you're going to be 24 weeks pregnant at your baby's first birthday party! I feel awful because she won't be my baby anymore and she's only turning 1:( now we were NT/NP so I know I did this to myself...but don't start trying until you're sure you're ready because it can be an adjustment getting used to the idea of another baby...and I'm definitely excited about this new LO too...but I definitely baby my DD a little more knowing she only gets to be "the baby" a little longer. But after this one if that baby fever shows up again I'm squashing it like a bug...I need at least a few years to feel normal again!

porklump30 · September 2013

I'm with @Starry on this one. I was just telling a coworker that if someone could hand me a 6 month old, absolutely, sign me up. The pregnancy and newborn part - not ready for that again, yet.

Mrs_Lady · September 2013

On days like today when my lo is sick and im tired and sick i cant imagine a newborn right now. Funny we talked about another but im leaning towards oad

CnAnA · September 2013

Hells no. Which is funny because I have always wanted a mess of kids. But now I have one and I am soooo not ready for another. One strong willed little girl is enough for right now thx.

kross605 · September 2013

porklump30 said:

I'm with @Starry on this one. I was just telling a coworker that if someone could hand me a 6 month old, absolutely, sign me up. The pregnancy and newborn part - not ready for that again, yet.

I keep going back and forth between baby fever and being so over babies. Im right there with you with wanting to sign up for a 6 month old and skip pregnancy and newborn stage. I also worry that I cant get "lucky" and have a healthy baby THREE times--Im just not sure Im ready to roll that dice again. And to be perfectly honest, after having 2 girls (which I love btw), Id like a boy. Thats a lot of demands for an experience that you have no control over!

lady dixneuf · September 2013

People who are expecting another or trying must have an easy baby or something...my guy is EXHAUSTING. He never stops, doesn't STTN, etc. I saw my niece recently and I guess I didn't realize how much work he is until I saw the comparison. Any human would go insane dealing with him AND a newborn. Hell, I want to cry when I have him and his 8 year old sister at the same time.

kross605 · September 2013

lady dixneuf said:

People who are expecting another or trying must have an easy baby or something...my guy is EXHAUSTING. He never stops, doesn't STTN, etc. I saw my niece recently and I guess I didn't realize how much work he is until I saw the comparison. Any human would go insane dealing with him AND a newborn. Hell, I want to cry when I have him and his 8 year old sister at the same time.

DD1 was a tough baby. She slept well at night, but otherwise was EXHAUSTING and always cranky. I felt like a terrible mom because nothing I did made her happy or content. DH went from wanting 3 kids to OAD after we had her! A tough baby is no joke.
But....DD2 is beyond easy. DH and I comment often that if we had her first, we'd probably have 3 or 4 kids by now! So theres hope that not every baby you have will be challenging!

lady dixneuf · September 2013

my mom always says if my brother was born first he would be an only child.

It's not to say he's bad or even unhappy. Just a lot of work.

Plus 2 in my daycare is like $3200/mo so...

navyandviolet · September 2013

Nope, nope nope nope nope. That said I was in permanent baby fever until DS2 was born. Then we felt complete. BUt before that every conversation was about when to start trying for another, (which we did right away, took a while with the first two kids, but the third one got here really quick). I must say I will live vicariously through you girls. I kind of can't wait until the whole group of you are all welcoming squishies again. And I can oohhh and awwww over them. And then sleep well at night.

hamiltks10 · September 2013

It is quite possible that I will have another baby on DS's 1st birthday....if not, I will be 39 weeks pregnant. I am ready and excited. But I am also sad at how fast it seems my DS is growing. I take an extra long time putting him to sleep at night so we can snuggle. I know soon he won't want to snuggle with his mama like that anymore.

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