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The calm before the storm

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Sunday I had my exH served with the Request to Show Cause, for modification of his visits with DD.  He is the kind of person who will fly of the handle over just about anything.  I mean this is all a result of him getting pissed off about school clothes, if that tells you anything.  Well, he has yet to say one word about it to me.  I am really hoping that this is a good thing, but I have my doubts. 

 

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  • JessH1474JessH1474 member

    Do you have confirmation that he was actually served on Sunday? 

    This happened in our case, we figured BM would start with horrible texts or emails as soon as she received the paperwork, but she didn't.  We didn't hear anything until a week before her answer was due and then found out she had hired an attorney.  Ironically it's actually been nice that she did, b/c now we communicate with her attorney rather than her directly. 

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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    I have 2 thoughts on this:

    1) He's growing up a bit and realizing that it's time to start co-parenting better and make DD a priority.  He looked through the paperwork and can't deny the things written and it's eye-opening for him to see what a douche he has been. 

    2) He's so pissed off and incredulous that you actually filed, that he's contacted an attorney and is in the process of writing up his own papers painting you to be some outrageous unreasonable bitch.

    Either way, enjoy the peace and quiet.  
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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    JessH1474 said:

    Do you have confirmation that he was actually served on Sunday? 

    This happened in our case, we figured BM would start with horrible texts or emails as soon as she received the paperwork, but she didn't.  We didn't hear anything until a week before her answer was due and then found out she had hired an attorney.  Ironically it's actually been nice that she did, b/c now we communicate with her attorney rather than her directly. 

    I am 100% sure he was served.  

     

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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    jobalchak said:
    I have 2 thoughts on this:

    1) He's growing up a bit and realizing that it's time to start co-parenting better and make DD a priority.  He looked through the paperwork and can't deny the things written and it's eye-opening for him to see what a douche he has been. 

    2) He's so pissed off and incredulous that you actually filed, that he's contacted an attorney and is in the process of writing up his own papers painting you to be some outrageous unreasonable bitch.

    Either way, enjoy the peace and quiet.  

    Oh I am enjoying it :)  The funny thing is, I re-wrote my statement 3 times, just so that it didn't come off as being too harsh.  It was civil, non bashing and to the point.  I hope he read through it and realized what an ass he is being.  But I doubt that... it's just not in his personality.

     

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  • twister22twister22 member
    I think you said but I can't remember, what did your statement cover again?
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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    edited September 2013
    My ex was not willing to go to mediation, so I had it court ordered.  We have a very out dated CO that needs to be updated.  I am also asking that the Wed overnight be changed to either just spending the evening with DD, or making up the nights over the summer, or spring/winter breaks.  This is because of several issues my DD is having at his home during the week, on school nights.

     

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  • twister22twister22 member
    bebe11 said:
    My ex was not willing to go to mediation, so I had it court ordered.  We have a very out dated CO that needs to be updated.  I am also asking that the Wed overnight be changed to either just spending the evening with DD, or making up the nights over the summer, or spring/winter breaks.  This is because of several issues my DD is having at his home during the week, on school nights.
    Thanks :). Here's to hoping he grows up and realizes it's in his best interest not to fight this.
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