Tuesday Complaints

kleigh926 · September 2013

So last week we did Tuesday Questions... this week I'm starting Tuesday Complaints, mostly because I want to complain about something, lol.

My BIL and his fiancee are getting married on Saturday. Future SIL is very naive, airheaded, and doesn't make the best decisions (she recently dropped out of college when she had ONE MONTH to go until completing her degree because she decided she "didn't like it"). She's got BIL wrapped around her little finger and he'll basically do anything she wants, even if it's ridiculous.

We have 2 cats that we are sorta trying to get rid of, but we want them to go to good homes. BIL and future SIL have been saying for months that they'd take one of them after they got married and were settled in their new house. DH even asked BIL a month or so ago if they were serious about taking our cat and he said yes. Well, yesterday on Facebook FSIL posted that she and her dad went to PetSmart and saw a cat that she "fell in love with." She asked BIL if they could get it and he said yes, so she filled out adoption papers. DH texted BIL to ask if they were still taking our cat and he said no. WHAT?! I commented on her post, "I thought you were taking our cat...?" to which she did not respond.
That sort of thing just ticks me off. If they didn't want the cat, then why did they say they'd take it? We told them they didn't have to and it was okay if they didn't want it, so there was no reason to lie to us. Stupid.

So what's bugging you today?

LyssRob · September 2013

Baby hasn't slept in two nights. My husband helps out SO much (like probably more than I do some nights) but gets so discouraged and its hard for me to watch. I wish he was around during the day when DS is cute and smiley...I think he easily forgets that part...

Ugh, feeling tired and kind of down today...

colinsfebmommy · September 2013

my SO came home last night in a horrid mood and took itout on me, awesome. We haven't spoken since, I refuse until I get an apology lol Luckily my LO had me plenty entertained last night and today and makes me smile to keep my mood up.

Puck1182 · September 2013

Over the weekend some jerk ran into my parked car and smashed my passenger side tail light lens. It could have been worse, there's no real damage to the body other than some very minor scratches that can be easily fixed, but I am NOT happy about having to drop $73 of my own money on a new tail light lens. And I'm kicking my butt for not noticing until we got home, because otherwise I could have probably gotten the company thy runs the parking lot to cover it since it happened on their property. Lesson learned, I guess. Always inspect one's car carefully when leaving a parking lot/garage.

Also, I have a cold, which I seem to have passed along to poor DD, who now has the sniffles. So much mommy guilt right now.

tamarar5 · September 2013

My period is now 5 days late (again). I freaking hate wondering when or if its going to show up. I guess I should POAS, but I'm too cheep to go spend the $15+ that a test costs since everyone around here has switched to only digital. I refuse to spend that much on something you PEE on.

I swear, the "modern" pregnancy test must have been created by a man....

kelly321 · September 2013

TamaraR4 said:

My period is now 5 days late (again). I freaking hate wondering when or if its going to show up. I guess I should POAS, but I'm too cheep to go spend the $15+ that a test costs since everyone around here has switched to only digital. I refuse to spend that much on something you PEE on. I swear, the "modern" pregnancy test must have been created by a man....

You can order Wondfos on amazon pretty cheap! I still have some from when we were TTC and I used one in May when I had nausea that wouldn't go away.

tamarar5 · September 2013

Oh i have another now. Ds just headbutted me in the mouth and put my tooth through my lip.

CamMyMan · September 2013

I have so many complaints!

I recently got hired teaching preschool. While I wasn't pumped to leave my kiddo, the job was relevant to my degree (kinda) with good hours and location. Plus, the extra money was going to help us sooooo much. The job ended up not being what it should have been and I had to leave it. I am just so so so so so discouraged. I graduated two years ago with a freaking masters degree and have yet to find a job in my field. I can't tell you how sad it makes me to be paying off my students loans on a degree that I haven't been able to use. I see my peers around me excelling and I just feel so stuck. Whats worse is, I would gladly stay home with my baby boy until he reaches kindergarten age. But financially, that is a real burden on us and I NEED to work. So its this awkward combination of wishing we could afford for me to stay home but wanting to use my degree yet not finding anything my field etc etc etc. My hub is so disappointed that my extra income is pretty much gone before it started. I just feel like a big fat FAIL lately.

Also, my boy is just a crappy sleeper. Always has been and probably always will be (I am a really troubled sleeper as well so I'm assuming some of that may be genetic?) Lately my husband has been really at his wits end with the constant nap and night issues and is pushing for hardcore sleep training. Which is something I fully support for others but I don't think it will be ideal for my high-needs child. So there is a lot of tension between us over this difference of opinion and it just sucks.

I've just been feeling all kind of sad and blah lately. So there are two reasons why!

tanj212 · September 2013

TamaraR4 said:
My period is now 5 days late (again). I freaking hate wondering when or if its going to show up. I guess I should POAS, but I'm too cheep to go spend the $15+ that a test costs since everyone around here has switched to only digital. I refuse to spend that much on something you PEE on.

I swear, the "modern" pregnancy test must have been created by a man....

My 2nd pp period was 4 weeks late, and 3rd was 12 days late(actually it just started today). I guess it was just waiting for my son to drop 1-2 night feedings (he still nurses 4-5 times from 12am to 6am, I stopped counting). I noticed yesterday he nursed only once from 12am to 6am, and today period showing it's ugly face. And it's making me change every hour or so, just like previous pp period. I didn't expect a period till closer to a year (and my DH was so excited thinking about not to worry about sex), now we are all disappointed.

kleigh926 · September 2013

@CamMyMan, I'm so sorry about the job and the crappy sleeping

That sounds really rough. I've been thinking about my job situation as well lately. Initially I was supposed to have scheduled, but reduced, hours when I went back after maternity leave. Then they changed my schedule to flex, which has a lot of perks, but also means my hours aren't guaranteed. The past 3 weeks I've only worked a total of 9 hours... and I don't think it's going to pick up anytime soon. While we're okay financially for now, DH has mentioned that we might wanna look into another part time job for me.... blah.

CamMyMan · September 2013

kleigh926 said:

@CamMyMan, I'm so sorry about the job and the crappy sleeping That sounds really rough. I've been thinking about my job situation as well lately. Initially I was supposed to have scheduled, but reduced, hours when I went back after maternity leave. Then they changed my schedule to flex, which has a lot of perks, but also means my hours aren't guaranteed. The past 3 weeks I've only worked a total of 9 hours... and I don't think it's going to pick up anytime soon. While we're okay financially for now, DH has mentioned that we might wanna look into another part time job for me.... blah.

It's hard! I feel like things are so complicated now that we have little ones, ya know? We don't necessarily NEED a second income (we can get by on just my hubs). But eventually we want to own a home. And of course we would love to add more to our savings accounts. All those things need that second income to supplement. I do work part time outside of the job i just left but, like you, it's basically on an "as needed" basis. Right now I'm scheduled next Friday for 6 hours. Thats it. The opportunity to pick up shifts present themselves often but nothing is guaranteed so we can't really depend on my income.

kelly321 · September 2013

So sorry for those of you having job issues. I hope it all works out.

My complaint is DD2's sleep. DD1 was always a crappy sleeper, but I don't remember her being this crappy. It is possible I just repressed it, but I really do not think that she was waking up every hour when she was 7 months old. Sometimes we get a night where she wakes up every 2 hours, but often it's every hour with maybe one 2 hour stretch. That has been going on since the end of May. I am sick and tired of it (pun not intended), but we're leaving to go to the States on Sunday, a 7 hour time difference, so it's not worth sleep training now. When we come back, though, we're very serious about starting it. The situation is not tolerable.

CamMyMan · September 2013

kelly321 said:

So sorry for those of you having job issues. I hope it all works out.

My complaint is DD2's sleep. DD1 was always a crappy sleeper, but I don't remember her being this crappy. It is possible I just repressed it, but I really do not think that she was waking up every hour when she was 7 months old. Sometimes we get a night where she wakes up every 2 hours, but often it's every hour with maybe one 2 hour stretch. That has been going on since the end of May. I am sick and tired of it (pun not intended), but we're leaving to go to the States on Sunday, a 7 hour time difference, so it's not worth sleep training now. When we come back, though, we're very serious about starting it. The situation is not tolerable.

I don't talk much about my sons sleep issues on here too often (or IRL, either) but i totally understand where you're coming from and feel for you. Just know there is another weary mama of a 7month old out there awake at all hours of the night. My son still sleeps like a newborn at night with no end in sight.

LyssRob · September 2013

CamMyMan said:

kelly321 said:

So sorry for those of you having job issues. I hope it all works out.

My complaint is DD2's sleep. DD1 was always a crappy sleeper, but I don't remember her being this crappy. It is possible I just repressed it, but I really do not think that she was waking up every hour when she was 7 months old. Sometimes we get a night where she wakes up every 2 hours, but often it's every hour with maybe one 2 hour stretch. That has been going on since the end of May. I am sick and tired of it (pun not intended), but we're leaving to go to the States on Sunday, a 7 hour time difference, so it's not worth sleep training now. When we come back, though, we're very serious about starting it. The situation is not tolerable.

I don't talk much about my sons sleep issues on here too often (or IRL, either) but i totally understand where you're coming from and feel for you. Just know there is another weary mama of a 7month old out there awake at all hours of the night. My son still sleeps like a newborn at night with no end in sight.

Me too! Though we are re-sleep training (or letting him cry with check ins/Ferber-style) starting tonight again. I have to do something.

mishka29 · September 2013

kleigh926 said:
So last week we did Tuesday Questions... this week I'm starting Tuesday Complaints, mostly because I want to complain about something, lol.

My BIL and his fiancee are getting married on Saturday. Future SIL is very naive, airheaded, and doesn't make the best decisions (she recently dropped out of college when she had ONE MONTH to go until completing her degree because she decided she "didn't like it"). She's got BIL wrapped around her little finger and he'll basically do anything she wants, even if it's ridiculous.

We have 2 cats that we are sorta trying to get rid of, but we want them to go to good homes. BIL and future SIL have been saying for months that they'd take one of them after they got married and were settled in their new house. DH even asked BIL a month or so ago if they were serious about taking our cat and he said yes. Well, yesterday on Facebook FSIL posted that she and her dad went to PetSmart and saw a cat that she "fell in love with." She asked BIL if they could get it and he said yes, so she filled out adoption papers. DH texted BIL to ask if they were still taking our cat and he said no. WHAT?! I commented on her post, "I thought you were taking our cat...?" to which she did not respond.
That sort of thing just ticks me off. If they didn't want the cat, then why did they say they'd take it? We told them they didn't have to and it was okay if they didn't want it, so there was no reason to lie to us. Stupid.

So what's bugging you today?

That kind of stuff really pisses me off. Don't say you are going to do something if youre not and if you have to back out then be upfront about it. My SIL does stuff like that all the time...it makes me so mad. Or we talk about something and work out details and the next time we speak about it's like we never spoke before! Ugh!

MalRiggs · September 2013

My fridge is broken. It keeps freezing everything, the fridge part not the freezer part. I called Sears last week and they can send someone till the 21st. It will have been eleven days. I was not happy

bumpuser7698452 · September 2013

I'm sitting in my car while E naps. We've been running around town all day and every time I pull into where we need to be is exactly the moment that she closes her eyes. Then she wakes up as I'm jostling her carseat around so she's overtired and very grumpy. So now I'm sitting in the parking lot, letting her sleep and I really have to go to the bathroom.

tamarar5 · September 2013

WTF moment #2 of the day. Dd decided to run while holding E today and tripped. E went face first into the playground woodchips. Now he has ask these little pokes in his face. Good thing i decided not to schedule the family portraits for next week.

PhieryBFly · September 2013

Found out today that my dog needs a $2500 surgery or she won't be able to walk much longer. She's only 7 and a sweet, fluffy white Siberian Husky. Oh, and my car is breaking down. :-(

mishka29 · September 2013

It would seem that I am allergic to something. I wake every morning covered in hives and my fingers are swelling to the point of pain. I went to my dr to get a referral for an allergy test. Today they called to say it had been scheduled....for MARCH! F off and thanks for nothing

DublinMama · September 2013

Ohhhh, where to start lol.

1. Two weeks ago my car died and we had to get a "new to us" one. The payments are only $161/month, but it makes our budget beyond tight. I owned my other one outright.
2. Our babysitter bailed on us and we have two weeks to find someone else. If we don't, I have no idea what the EFF we are going to do.
3. Tomorrow is my school's Open House. Because of the distance of work to home, and the babysitter's home to my home, it makes no sense for me to come home, then go back. So I will leave DS tomorrow morning at 7 a.m. and not return to him until almost 8 p.m. The babysitter will have to put him to bed. So far my mother has been the only one to put him to bed besides me and it's been two times. I'm nervous and bummed.
4. One of my SEVEN year old students said to his peers in reading group today, "I'm taking my time on this. Unlike you motherfuckers." I kid you not.

Phew!!! @kleigh926 Thanks for this!! I needed it!
:-S

MalRiggs · September 2013

DublinMama said:

Ohhhh, where to start lol.

1. Two weeks ago my car died and we had to get a "new to us" one. The payments are only $161/month, but it makes our budget beyond tight. I owned my other one outright.
2. Our babysitter bailed on us and we have two weeks to find someone else. If we don't, I have no idea what the EFF we are going to do.
3. Tomorrow is my school's Open House. Because of the distance of work to home, and the babysitter's home to my home, it makes no sense for me to come home, then go back. So I will leave DS tomorrow morning at 7 a.m. and not return to him until almost 8 p.m. The babysitter will have to put him to bed. So far my mother has been the only one to put him to bed besides me and it's been two times. I'm nervous and bummed.
4. One of my SEVEN year old students said to his peers in reading group today, "I'm taking my time on this. Unlike you motherfuckers." I kid you not.

Phew!!! @kleigh926 Thanks for this!! I needed it!
:-S

Omg....i teach 8th I would expect that but not little ones.

had my open house last week...it sucked

my son's was tonight and I made the conclusion that I don't like most parents and yes I'm sure there are lovely,caring, and smart ones out there. I just never see them

musicalmama5 · September 2013

I have two.

1) we have to buy a new car and we're broke and can't afford anything and can't get a good interest rate.

2) this one is kind of silly. My MIL purposefully puts on perfume before holding and playing with DS because she wants him to associate the scent of her perfume with her. I think it's weird that she does this, and plus it makes my baby smell like her perfume for the rest of the day. Gag.

CamMyMan · September 2013

musicalmama5 said:

this one is kind of silly. My MIL purposefully puts on perfume before holding and playing with DS because she wants him to associate the scent of her perfume with her. I think it's weird that she does this, and plus it makes my baby smell like her perfume for the rest of the day. Gag.

That is so bizarre and weird and annoying! That would bug me too!

tamarar5 · September 2013

mishka29 said:
It would seem that I am allergic to something. I wake every morning covered in hives and my fingers are swelling to the point of pain. I went to my dr to get a referral for an allergy test. Today they called to say it had been scheduled....for MARCH! F off and thanks for nothing

Omg, really? That is beyond crazy! Do you think it might be your pillow or something in your home? Have you tried OTC relief? I'm having a similar problem, but I've already had allergy testing and they concluded that I did not have allergies... despite the obvious and extreme reaction I was having when I went in for the test.

kelly321 · September 2013

mishka29 said:

It would seem that I am allergic to something. I wake every morning covered in hives and my fingers are swelling to the point of pain. I went to my dr to get a referral for an allergy test. Today they called to say it had been scheduled....for MARCH! F off and thanks for nothing

What?!?!

mishka29 · September 2013

TamaraR4 said:

mishka29 said:
It would seem that I am allergic to something. I wake every morning covered in hives and my fingers are swelling to the point of pain. I went to my dr to get a referral for an allergy test. Today they called to say it had been scheduled....for MARCH! F off and thanks for nothing
Omg, really? That is beyond crazy! Do you think it might be your pillow or something in your home? Have you tried OTC relief? I'm having a similar problem, but I've already had allergy testing and they concluded that I did not have allergies... despite the obvious and extreme reaction I was having when I went in for the test.

I have washed the bedding so I don't think it's that. I took Benadryl a few times now and it had no impact on the hives but it seems to have stopped the excessive hand swelling. The other night I was up until 2 am unable to sleep bc my hands were so painfully swollen and itchy.

The dr who referred me for the test said you only get the right answer on an allergy test 50% of the time and you can get false positives as well. So I'm waiting until march for maybe nothing. I'm so frustrated.

Has OTC stuff worked for you? I think I'm going to have to try eliminating things from my day to see if there is any impact.

tamarar5 · September 2013

mishka29 said:

It would seem that I am allergic to something. I wake every morning covered in hives and my fingers are swelling to the point of pain. I went to my dr to get a referral for an allergy test. Today they called to say it had been scheduled....for MARCH! F off and thanks for nothing
Omg, really? That is beyond crazy! Do you think it might be your pillow or something in your home? Have you tried OTC relief? I'm having a similar problem, but I've already had allergy testing and they concluded that I did not have allergies... despite the obvious and extreme reaction I was having when I went in for the test.
I have washed the bedding so I don't think it's that. I took Benadryl a few times now and it had no impact on the hives but it seems to have stopped the excessive hand swelling. The other night I was up until 2 am unable to sleep bc my hands were so painfully swollen and itchy. The dr who referred me for the test said you only get the right answer on an allergy test 50% of the time and you can get false positives as well. So I'm waiting until march for maybe nothing. I'm so frustrated. Has OTC stuff worked for you? I think I'm going to have to try eliminating things from my day to see if there is any impact.

OTC allergy meds do nothing for me except Benadryl, but that really kicks my butt. I avoid taking it if possible. When I have health insurance, I am normally on two prescription strength allergy meds daily. Unfortunately I have no insurance right now due to a paperwork mix-up. I was lucky enough to get state insurance during my pregnancy but that ended 6wks pp. I have to wait until DH's open enrollment in December before I can get added again.

When I went in for my allergy testing, I was CLEARLY having a reaction: itchy, red, runny eyes that were almost swollen shut, runny nose, serial sneezing, hives, you name it, I had it. The dr giving the test looked at me like I was nuts and said, what are you here for, thinking that it was so obvious I didn't need the test. But I had an HMO back then and they wouldn't cover prescription meds until I'd had the test, so he did it anyway. Came back not allergic to anything.

My allergies are about as bad as DC's son's. For me it's not a question of avoiding the things I'm allergic to, its about how much am I willing to live with. Just to name a few of my biggest triggers, tobacco smoke, marijuana smoke (my neighbors are HUGE potheads), grass, mold, ragweed, goldenrod, nearly every type of flower, CATS, hay, horses, wool... the list goes on. I wanted to do wool covers for DS's cloth diapers but found that I break out even from those.

Some of the allergies I just live with are dogs-- I have 2--, dust (never ending, I'm afraid, no matter what I do), dairy in limited moderation, and my daisies. Gotta have my daisies. And the orchid. I used to own horses, too, but sold them when I moved to the city. I do spend time at the stables whenever I can, though.

If it doesn't seem to be your immediate laundry, have you changed detergents lately? I discovered that the perfume in my laundry soap was triggering something a few weeks ago, and I've used the same scent, same brand for YEARS.

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