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Reading Recommendations around TPR?

ManadaManada member
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Hi Everyone,

I recognize many of you from other boards - and I intro'd here a long while ago but don't often post.  My history is in my siggie though if you're interested :)

My partner and I are moving on to IVF in November -- and our plan after this current cycle is finished is that we will stop trying with my eggs and instead focus on using her's.   I'm excited and totally on board with this plan, but am still aware that I will need to grieve giving up on my own genetic material.  I am just having a bit of a rough patch just around the thought of being the "odd one out" in our family's biological makeup...   We'll be using DS and my partner's eggs...with a goal of her carrying first, and me 2nd if there are enough embryos frozen. 

Does anyone have any reading rec's for going through that process?  I've read alot of the LGBT-themed stuff out there, but figured maybe someone who used DE might have also written about this.      My goal is to spend a lot of time in October reading and meditating on this to hopefully let go of my grief before we throw ourselves into the IVF world....   Any recommendations of books, memoirs, or blogs would be super helpful!  Thanks!
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queer couple - 32 (me) & 33 (my love) years old - donor sperm,

Our IF/TTC journey since Nov 2012.

Me: dx of DOR in Nov. 2012. Low AMH, AFC - 6, Normal FSH, SS-A (RO) Antibodies (Autoimmune issues), tubes clear, Sono (November 2013) NORMAL! <p>

7 IUI's - December 2012-September 2013.  Medicated, Injected, Triggered.... all BFN.

My Love:  (the amazing @Healz413)
Normal AMH & FSH, AFC ~27, blocked tube dx'd via HSG in 2012.   Hydrosalpinx & ovarian cyst dx'd in May 2013.
dx of Stage IV Endo & bilateral salpinectomy in June 2013.  

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Partner IVF#1a- December 2013 - H's eggs, my Ute - CANCELLED due to low response
Partner IVF #1b - February 2014 - H's eggs, my Ute - ER February 4 (10 retrieved, 3 fertilized), Transfer Feb 7 of one Grade 1 and one Grade 2 day 3 embryos.  1 - Day 3, Grade 1 frosty saved.   BFP - 6dp3dt via FRER, Beta #1 - 110, Beta #2 175, Beta #3 - 348, Beta #4 - 2222!, Beta #5 - 4255.  Ultrasound (6w1d) - 2 heartbearts!  

We lost our beautiful Twin baby girls on June 18, 2014.  Tavin Sara and Casey Elizabeth were born at 21 weeks gestation and were absolutely beautiful, precious, amazing babies.  We miss our daughters every day and love them with all our hearts.

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Re: Reading Recommendations around TPR?

  • MrsT4MrsT4 member

    Hi and welcome back Manada, although I'm sorry you have to be here.

     

    I read two books on egg donation, although it's been over a year since I looked at either one, so there might be more choices available by now.  They are:

    "Eggceptional Match" by Angela Bevill, RN, BSN and

    "The Insider's Guide to Egg Donation" by Wendy Wilson-Miller and Erika Napoletano.

     

    I'll also add that once cycling I've found Circle + Bloom's guided meditation program to be very helpful.  They have a specific program for people using Egg or Embryo Donation.

    I know everyone is different, but it personally took me awhile (a total of 3 OE IVF's - all failed cycles plus 6 failed IUI's before I was ready to admit I needed donor eggs).  Looking back, I wish I had come to that realization a lot sooner, but then again, I can say I tried everything I could to try and have a biological child. 

    (((Hugs))) to you, as you take some time to grieve.

    Me: AMA, DOR, undetectable AMH, carrier of SMA, MTHFR homozygous C677T, high cytokines, low IGg B cells, Factor XIII V34l mutation, High Anti-Phosphatidylethanolmine, borderline hypothyroid and mildly insulin resistant.

     

    MH: No known issues, aside from MTHFR.

     

    Recommendations from RI: LIT, Humira, IVIG, Lovenox, Baby Aspirin, Folic Acid, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin.

     

    Currently taking:  Pre-Natal vitamins, Foltanx, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin. 

     

    When cycling also taking: Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, Humira and IVIG.

     

    TTC since 7/11/09..with medical intervention starting in 2010, including 4 failed IVF's and 6 failed IUI's...only "success" was a chemical pregnancy in 11/2012 (credited to use of DE).

    FET #1 (11th cycle) on 8/23/13 = BFN.

    FET #2 (12th cycle) Transfer of last two (day 6) donor egg blasts on 1/22/14 = BFP, EDD = 10/10/14 (please stick little BOY!)

     

    My favorite breed:

     

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    ***PAIF/SAIF always welcome***

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