Transitioning from 1 to 2

Re: Transitioning from 1 to 2

• ta78 member

  September 2013

  Well, it gets easier once your LO isn't eating constantly. I mostly did things with DS in the beginning and DD was content watching from her swing or bouncer. House stuff was it on the back burner for a little while also. Now they are starting to 'play' together a little more which is nice. DH and I also take turns so that we both have quality time with each of them and so DS doesn't think his sister gets all the attention. You will find a rhythm that works for you. I also did a lot of baby wearing and I guess still do.

  
  
  
  
  
  

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• ToastieSimons member

  September 2013

  Take it easy on yourself. I feel I am my harshest critic and that I can way overwhelm myself.  I have to work on remembering the big picture.  My kids are almost exactly 2 years apart. If DS2 had a bad day and DS1 ended up watching TV all day, then so be it.  1 day out of his life of extra TV is not going to kill him. 

  
  

  Same thing with food.  When DS2 was a newborn (and screamed all day and night) I tried to give DS1 extra treats.  I would be feeding DS2 in my lap and put DS1 in his high chair and give him some ice cream.  My boys have special needs so DS1 is not cognitively at his age.  So it was the easiest way I could think of for him to start connecting DS2 to enjoyment.

  
  

  If we went out, which was awful and very hard, I would stop and get DS1 chicken nuggets.  I would let DH take DS1 to the pool in the mornings (he worked 2nd shift at the time) so that he would get some Daddy time and some energy out.  I think that's the hardest part, feeling stuck in the house and knowing that your kid is way more wild that normal because of it.

  
  

  Once we got to 5 months it got SOOOO much easier.  DS2 started napping in the crib on a decent schedule, slept through most of the night and we were all generally happier.

  
  

  Like I said, take it easy on yourself.  If you snap at your older child too much, just apologize to them.  One day of snappiness is not going to ruin your relationship with your child.

  To my boys:  I will love you for you Not for what you have done or what you will become I will love you for you I will give you the love The love that you never knew
  

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