Wedding Evite??

lightgetsin · September 2013

I got one for SIL's sister. I am sure it will be a nice wedding. It is at an Art Museum and she is a very cool person but I am a little taken aback by the Evite invitation. What do you all think?

steelermama86 · September 2013

I think it is tacky.

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2013

nowababy said:

I just can't get up in arms over Evite type invitations. We live in a different day and age. Saving paper is smart. You can get a lot of the formal elements across in a virtual invitation. I'm fine with it.

A Facebook invitation or a regular email invitation, on the other hand, is just lazy and potentially very tacky.

ETA: I also think it can depend on the couple and the type of wedding they're having.

Ditto.

lexusolsen · September 2013

I don't care for them. I also know so many older people who rarely check email. My cousin likes to use them for family get togethers, which I think is a good idea.... Except when some people get offended because they don't think they got invited. Now she does a combination of fb, evites and phone calls. Seems simpler to just mail one thing.

Cherryblossoms07 · September 2013

nowababy said:

I just can't get up in arms over Evite type invitations. We live in a different day and age. Saving paper is smart. You can get a lot of the formal elements across in a virtual invitation. I'm fine with it.

A Facebook invitation or a regular email invitation, on the other hand, is just lazy and potentially very tacky.

ETA: I also think it can depend on the couple and the type of wedding they're having.

I agree.

eaglesfan700 · September 2013

For me, a wedding isn't the same as any old gtg and should be treated as such. No evites, paper invitations for sure.

jenniann87 · September 2013

I don't use evites personally but don't mind them for some occasions (i.e. birthdays, anniversaries, etc.). But using an envite for a wedding just seems so informal and a little tacky.

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2013

nowababy said:

I Heart The 80s said:

Tacky. And not everyone has email. What about elderly guests? DH's grandparents, for example, don't have computers. I think evites are great in some cases. But for a wedding, send something in the mail.

Truly elderly people can get special phone calls or physical invitations. I don't know anyone except for great-grandparents (like your DH's grandparents) at this point who don't check email. And if there's someone you know doesn't check their email enough, a phone call letting them know to expect it should do. There really aren't that many of those people at this point.

This again, lol. Not the same kind of event but for my kids last birthday we did a small get together of family/close friends. I e-vited my friends/family members who I knew were active on their computers and sent my grandparents a paper invite. I think you can do both. Eta-I think it depends on the type of wedding. A small intimate wedding at an art museum from some hippie couple that drives priuses? Fine. I'd probably be put off if the evite came for a black tie formal occasion and it seemed like the couple was just being lazy.

Andrewsgal · September 2013

I don't mind evites for most things and if you are doing an informal wedding they seem to be fine, but an evite for a formal wedding is tacky. I still have to believe there is some small shred of etiquette left in this world. My grandmother would have been appalled to be phone invited to the wedding.

Andrewsgal · September 2013

I guess my issue is that in this age etiquette is changing to what I view as tacky. I hate the age of text and email where people don't even talk anymore. I know I sound like an 80 year old grandmother, but I am okay with that.

goillini823 · September 2013

I've got no problems with evite, FB event, punch bowl for most gatherings. However, I think a wedding still deserves an actual paper invite. I've also found that a lot of people's evite etc. goes to their junk mail, and they never see it.

karen_loy · September 2013

Evites for birthdays or gatherings like that are fine on my book, but not for a wedding, that's cheap and tacky

notkateanymore · September 2013

I am not a fan of evites for any event where gifts are expected. Put the extra effort in to print it out for me and I'll put in the extra effort to buy you a gift.

Andrewsgal · September 2013

LalaMama81 said:

Some people's acceptance of the breaching of etiquette doesn't necessarily mean it has changed or should.

Lot's of people think it's okay to put registry info on wedding invites, too. Doesn't mean etiquette has changed, just that some have lowered their standards.

Yes very well said. I for one and mot ready to accept the total and complete breakdown of good etiquette and just say well screw it because it is the age we live in.

joyfullyfound · September 2013

Bleh. Tacky... but I'm sure it's done more and more often now... maybe I'm just old fashioned? But, seriously, it's so much fun to send out fancy card stock invitation in the mail! Why would anyone forego that?? If you don't do it for your wedding, when else can you do it?

jensriot · September 2013

I actually like receiving evites instead of paper because it's easy for me to keep track online. Would I send one for a wedding? Absolutely not. I can only imagine my mother's reaction.

Mrs.Hizzo · September 2013

LalaMama81 said:

Some people's acceptance of the breaching of etiquette doesn't necessarily mean it has changed or should.

Lot's of people think it's okay to put registry info on wedding invites, too. Doesn't mean etiquette has changed, just that some have lowered their standards.

Yes. This, totally. The thought of getting a wedding evite makes me twitchy.

Allycat11 · September 2013

I don't care that t"times are changing", I expect a paper invite for a wedding.

rockyrollgirl · September 2013

I really don't care.

ta78 · September 2013

Are you sure it's not a save the date evite and will get a paper one later? I'd find it strange, but wouldn't be appalled by getting a wedding evite. Maybe that's where they wanted to cut costs.

penguingrrl · September 2013

I have a cousin who did online invitations. She's a graphic designer and designed them herself and they were really cool (not some cheesy evite invitation). It looked like a lot more love, care and thought went into her invitation than a standard cardstock one. She and her husband are very environmentally conscious and didn't feel right using the resources for a wedding invitation (paper, ink, etc) when they would end up in a landfill. Prior to getting hers I thought emailed invitations were tacky, but she did them so beautifully they managed not to be.

But there are people who would disagree. My sister was engaged a few years ago and they threw a casual BBQ engagement party. Her now ex-fi's grandmother told her the envelope would have been "heavier" had she sent a real invitation, which I found obnoxious. It was a backyard BBQ for the families to meet. She wasn't expecting gifts, so that really hurt her feelings.

MesmrEwe · September 2013

While I've got no problem with an e-site RSVP or phone number for the RSVP instead of paperwork, I've got to go with "Tacky" on most evites when weddings are involved. It's one exception if you're having a casual gtg style wedding and want to invite your "FB Friends" you know in real life who are local but you don't necessarily want to do the printed invite for that one sect of your guests. Either way, I have to say I treat those types of invites differently. I also have to say that I miss most of the evite invitations we get from people as they still haven't figured out a way for them not to end up in the SPAM folder...

jennygirlmt · September 2013

While I wouldn't side eye it I wouldn't do it. I do however, prefer online RSVP and wish I had done that. Keeping track of and organizing those cards was a pain.

Also, with the cost if postage and all the trees we kill these days, I don't think it's a horrible direction to go.

LatteLady5 · September 2013

I would never get it. I use DH's email primarily and only check it because it's our homepage lol Seriously, my grandma checks her email more than I check mine.

I also think it's tacky. Unless it was something like an ecofriendly themed wedding (I know I'm reaching here) I'd give it the side eye.

Boonhilde · September 2013

Send her an egift in return.

Boonhilde · September 2013

I think that's awful of the grandmother. There are exceptions to every rule, and when the invitation was a part of who she was and she spent a lot of time on it, I'd say that's an exception.

CraftyMama04 · September 2013

I actually had a friend who sent out paper invites and than a Facebook invite.

Really?

I have to agree that not all of the older guests will have computers but I guess it's really personal preference how you want to invite people. Personally, I wouldn't do it.

Minipenguin · September 2013

Today, I got my first ever facebook wedding invitation. The wedding is 3 weeks from now, the invitation mentions the ppossibility of bringing motor homes and the time is in central time which they specifically point out even though the wedding location is in eastern time. Oh and it is the grooms second wedding in 3 years and he is 23.

Minipenguin · September 2013

It was everything I always hoped it would be.

MSiria · September 2013

I had to use evites for my wedding but only bc it got moved up 5 months and was planned in a 8 days bc my FIL got deployed and we wanted to get married before he left.

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