Feeling down

LisaLisa1980 · September 2013

I had a really bad day today & my period showed up so that's probably not helping my mood. I feel so depressed and negative lately. I have no friends and I feel lonely. I'm 20 lbs more than I'd like to be and I hate having my photo taken & feeling so disappointed that my face still hasn't slimmed down. I wish I had more photos of DS & I. I would love to work out but I need to special order a work out bra (I'm a 34F now).

I'm with DS for 11 hrs a day because my H works overtime on purpose (he makes double the amount this way.) I've asked him several times to come home early because I'm losing my mind and either need sleep or extra help if DS is having a bad day. He has come home early a few times, but won't do it on a regular basis.

I know what I need to do in order to fulfill everything I'm missing, but my motivation is ZILCH. I wouldn't give up motherhood for anything. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm going in a downward spiral - fast.

hvtang · September 2013

I totally feel your pain. I have yet to start a workout regimen and need to lose about 20 lbs. I need to just suck it up and get started. My plan is to join a gym that offers free babysitting so I can drop LO off while I work out. Is that an option for you? Or at least take him for long walks in the stroller?

Are there any moms groups in your area, or story hours? Check your local community center or library - maybe you can find some free programs where you can meet other moms.

Do you have any family that can come by and help out with LO? If not, I would either tell DH he has to step up and give you more of a break, or you are going to use some of his overtime money to hire a babysitter, and let him make that choice. I was losing my mind yesterday and told DH "I'm leaving for a few hours". If I didn't have that option, I would definitely go crazy.

Hang in there, and do whatever you need to to take care of yourself. Believe me, I know it's easier said than done.

jlpev · September 2013

I went thru this after I had my son and occasionally I feel lonely. What I did or still do is get fresh air when the kids are cranky and every morning. DS is 2.5 yrs, DD 3 months and the fresh helps them nap. Plus it helps my mood.
I have playdates with other moms and kids. We rotate hosts so its not constantly at our house. We go to the library for story time. DS loves it. That way I met other moms too.
I haven't connected with very many of my old friends. They pawn their children off to go party and drink every weekend. I can't and wont do that.
My dh works constantly!!! He can get called out at any moment which I knew before we got married. But the bad days where kids are cranky, I dont feel like cooking we usually do a frozen pizza or he brings something home, so I don't have to cook.
My best suggestion is to get out of the house even if its just for a walk!

kgs0505 · September 2013

Making even just a small change will help a lot. Pick something small and do that. You'd like to work out, but need to order a special bra, well, order it. If the money's not there, do some less high intensity exercise, like putting LO in a stroller and going to a walk around the neighborhood, or drive to a park with trails, the mall, anything to just get out of the house for a little while. Find a Mom's group, so you can meet other mom's. Or maybe some kind of Mommy and Me class. Just breaking up your routine a little can be greatly refreshing.

Good luck honey, I know it's not easy. But it will get better.

saraenns · September 2013

Hang in there!! You are doing a great job...be kind to yourself

Put on your fav music and have a dance party with ds. Itll lift your spirits and u can shake you booties (haha)!

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