Career and New Pregnancy

kissxoprincess5 · September 2013

Hi ladies! I found out less than a week ago that I was pregnant, and it still doesn't feel totally real. It wasn't a planned pregnancy, but my husband and I have been married for 4 years and we're both 30, so the timing is fine from that regard. But I'm kind of panicking about my job.. I started a new job about 8 months ago at an incredible prestigious organization, and it has me working 15 hours day 6 days a week, but I LOVE it. I've been a career woman since I was in college, and while I always wanted kids, it was always in the abstract form. Now that it's real, I don't really know how to feel. I'm incredibly excited (and terrified) about the little peanut growing inside me, but terrified about losing the career that I've worked so hard for in the past 10 years. Is anyone else in the same boat? We haven't told anyone yet that we're expecting because it's incredibly early, so I figured maybe someone else on this forum was in the same boat or some previous mommies had some thoughts.

spinsoffresonance · September 2013

I get we're you're coming from. I spent the last 7 years working towards my PhD in engineering. If it had been up to me I would have graduated, started a job and waited 2 years before having babies. But last year my doctor wanted me to start TTC right away because my uterus needs to be removed. I was pregnant with DD1 while I was finishing my PhD. DH picked me up at work several times at 1am when I was 8 months pregnant. I usually work 12 hour days, 6 days a week. On a short day I work 8 hours, on a long day I work 20 hours. I spent my entire maternity leave writing my thesis and defended my PhD when DD was 2 months old.

My dr gave me the go ahead to conceive LO2 before having a hysterectomy so now I'm pregnant again and applying for jobs. And I'm so confused. I could never be a SAHM but I don't really want to be working 12+ hours days anymore. I want to be home for dinner and I want to be able to stay home with the baby on the weekends without feeling guilty that I should be at work instead. I really hope that job exists in my field because I can't bear letting my PhD be a waste either. End of rant!

DTNZ4Ever · September 2013

There are tons of working moms. Try the Working Moms board they are great support.

cassmarie1925 · September 2013

I am in the same boat...I do not think it will cause me to lose my career (I am a CPA) but I just left public accounting and started a new job at the first of May. I am 31 and my husband and I have been talking about kids for a while. We never thought we would get pregnant the FIRST MONTH we actually did not prevent. I am nervous about telling my employer that less than five months into a new job I am pregnant. I am hoping they are understanding though as they were my client at my previous job and have known me for a while....

jkelly41 · September 2013

I really felt that way but overtime, I've lost my desire to have a strong career. I still work out of the home and I enjoy it, but I was fortunate enough to find a position in my field that is less stressful and demanding. I love being home by 5:30 pm w/the kids and not traveling and just being able to be with them more. I see my education and prior work experience as a great experience- but one I don't want to have anymore. I do think you can have it both though!

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