Baby shower advice

Lolasky · September 2013

Sorry ladies I know there's been tons of posts about this already. I need some advice on my baby shower. I call it a get together really because I don't know that many people in this city. MH and I moved here about a year ago. I do have a few good friends I've known for a while that live here and one of them offered to throw me a shower. At first I kept declining because I knew it wasn't going to be that many people I could invite but she kept insisting. Eventually I have in and she starting sending out invites. Well about 20 people rsvp'd. The shower is next Saturday and I've already got a few calls/texts from the people that RSVPd that they 'may' not make it. It looks like I have a solid 8-10 people that might even show up. I personally don't think I even want the shower anymore. I have one at my home town schedules for early October that my good friend is throwing and feel like I'd be ok with just the one. Here's the kicker, I don't want to hurt my friend's feeling that has been planning this shower and tell her I don't think we should have one. I was thinking of suggesting maybe going out to dinner with her and husband (our treat) and just leave it at that but I don't know if that will be good enough for her. She's already planned games, bought prizes, made diaper cake etc. I'm not against it I just feel like 'what if no one shows up?' I don't want to waste anymore of her time. Sorry for the rant and thanks for reading. Also wwyd?

rspalding001 · September 2013

I had 2 showers and neither had over 10 people, one only had 5. It shouldn't matter how many people come. Let the friends that can make it celebrate with you. They just want to share in your happiness and have an excuse to see you anyway

Lolasky · September 2013

Thanks for the advice ladies. It's just the venue we had was for a larger crowd so I may have her switch the venue to a more restaurant setting. Did those of you who had a small shower, did you still have the games?

lamo1210 · September 2013

I say you let your host worry about this.

asratliff · September 2013

It would be incredibly insulting to canc on your friend who has put so much hard work into this event for you. Think about it... She's spent all this time and money and now you want to tell her never mind? It's not about how few people show up, it's about the ones who do. They've already received invites, bought gifts, and made plans. Are you really going to make your poor friend call the RSVP's and tell them that you've decided you don't want to spend time with them next weekend? How would that make you feel as a friend? It's just my opinion, but I feel like canceling now is just a bad idea.

orijinale · September 2013

Have fun with the friends you have. My MIL did me like this for my bridal shower. No one RSVP'd or said they werent coming. I told her it would only be 10 people and to have it at her house. My suggestion went unheard. Welp we had a huge banquet hall with 20 people screaming across the room at each other but I still had fun with the people that bothered to come. They RSVP'd and should come but things come up. Just relax and have fun knowing you have another shower happening later. Love those that love you.

Kfran84 · September 2013

I'm in a similar situation because my mom insisted on throwing her own shower for me instead of letting a friend throw one big one here in my current city (lived here 7 years). So my family and DH's family is going to my mom's shower, friends are coming to the friend shower. So besides the amount of eyerolling I've done to my mom, I'm excited for both, even though they will both be small.

I can't imagine why people want to do showers for multiple kids. I'm only doing this once! Stressss

gdom872 · September 2013

I think 10 people is plenty.Like everyone said, they all just want to celebrate with you.

Mytaras · September 2013

I agree with PP. Don't cancel it. Don't change the venue. Just let it happen. On the day of one of my showers 4 people cancelled. So 9 people were there. My host didn't care. I apologized for all the effort she put in and she said she would have done all that even if just 1 person showed up. It's one of those things, you never know how many people are coming. But that first change the fact your friend wants to shower you and give you a special day.

Edvoncupacake · September 2013

After seeing how much work went into my shower and knowing how much my friend already had done a week prior, I wouldn't change a thing. I wouldn't change anything anyway, but just seeing how much time, effort and money she had invested in it alone was enough to make my head spin. Whether it's 2 people or 50 it'll still be nice

Try your best to enjoy it!

julie1122 · September 2013

I think the worry that people won't show up is a universal worry when throwing parties, especially those in your honor. I would definitely still have it. 10 is a good number, especially considering your family is not in the area. I found that personally getting worried about these things in my life really impacted my view of what turned out to be beautiful showers with family and friends. Enjoy it, it will be wonderful!!

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